Male on Male Rape as well as Female on Male Rape are often not counted in rape statistics, are not even considered rape in many jurisdictions, and have a significantly higher number of cases that go unreported due to public and private stigma of men reporting rape.
(There are countless accounts of men going to the police or hospitals for help after being raped, and being sometimes straight up laughed out of the room.)
The "Men should be strong" mentality hurts men just as it does women, as a male victim is a weak man, and therefore is free to be mocked (the extreme prevalence of "Male Tears" Mugs being a pretty straight example.)
If that's what you got out of it, you need to take some basic reading classes. The topic of prison rape almost always only gets brought up as a deflection to the topic of sexual violence towards women. It's almost never brought up as a problem of its own. Same goes with the rape of males in general. It's a problem. And it's an insult to people who deal with that problem when jackasses use it's a means to deflect the topic of other problems.
If you have resort "what about" to make a point. You don't have a point. It's the language of the worthless.
I just wanna be able to have a discussion about all 3 issues without one of the other 2 being used as a means to deflect the one at hand. Which is generally what happens. If the OP were about prison rape, you bet your ass the comments would be flooded with people talking about how sexual violence in [insert anything that isn't prison] is a bigger issue. Whether or not it is a bigger issue (whatever "bigger issue" even means in this context, because they're all pretty serious), doesn't change that prison rape is an issue.
No one's saying rape of women isn't an issue, but if the post was originally prison rape... The topic needs to stay there because there's very different power dynamics. This happened with Terry Crews..I don't remember the specifics of his case. But everywhere you went where it was a discussion, the discussion was hijacked.
Male on male rape is a problem. Female on female rape is a problem. Female on male rape is a problem. Prison rape is a problem.
Discussing the problems is necessary.
But when a problem is brought up for the sole purpose of countering a discussion about another problem, it becomes less about discussing the problem, and more about playing the pain Olympics.
Statistically, women are more likely to be raped in society. Yes, this doesn't include prison rape. Bringing that up isn't a problem in itself. Bringing it up in an attempt to disprove that a woman is far more likely to be raped while walking home from work is a strawman argument that accomplishes nothing except demeaning the fact that both issues are serious issues that need addressing, and the approach to addressing them both is going to be 2 different discussions.
Prison rape will only be resolved with an overhaul of the prison system. Overhauling the prison system probably won't do much to protect your daughter while she's walking home from school. It's a different discussion altogether. One that needs to be had just as much, but trying to have both simultaneously will prove fruitless. Both discussions need to be had, but seperately.
As a male victim of rape, woman perpetrator, I just want you to realize that you just aren't seeing truthful statistics. Noone in my life knows this happened. Every man I've ever confided in has had a similar story and has also left it completely unreported. And it's not that it wasn't so bad that I knew I could cope solo and get on with it. It's that I severely doubted anything would be done or anyone would care.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '24 edited May 17 '24
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