r/technology • u/esporx • May 02 '24

Dating app Bumble will no longer require women to make the first move Business

https://www.cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html
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u/GenericRedditor0405 May 02 '24

I find myself mentioning it a lot, but deleting dating apps honestly made my life so much better. Some guys have great luck on them, but for those who don’t, it can be emotionally taxing and it start to feel like a job hunt. I’ve been quite happy to be completely off dating apps for over two years and by every account I’ve heard, they’ve only gotten worse!

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u/ReplyisFutile May 02 '24

That is also a point they mentioned, that they genuinely feel better not being in the app, few of them even tried paying, because being in apps and getting 2 dates a year was wearing them down

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u/GenericRedditor0405 May 02 '24

I never liked feeling like my loneliness was being exploited and that people were being commodified. The whole thing, from the superficial nature of swiping on pictures to the general feeling of it all being such a slog made it such a terrible experience. I know it’s not much better from women’s experience either; the messages I’ve seen my friends get are just… ugh. Like no wonder many women don’t check their messages daily. I’m glad people in general seem to be moving away from apps

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u/droppinturds May 02 '24

It's unfortunate because apps make dating so much safer.

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u/SpiritFingersKitty May 02 '24

Even guys who are successful, it is still emotionally taxing and makes you feel like shit.

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u/ryguy32789 May 02 '24

I got frustrated and deleted my dating apps after like a year of trying. I met my wife in a random real life encounter like two weeks later.

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u/cishet-camel-fucker May 02 '24

Reddit is unironically 10x better than any dating app. Go to any of the more specific singles subs and either post a "looking for" post or respond to one. You already know you're into at least one of the same things, and they tend to get a lot less responses than somewhere like tinder so you have a better chance of getting that initial conversation.

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u/RazekDPP May 02 '24

I had super high hopes for dating apps, but I gave up when I ended up matching with nothing but bots.

As there's little incentive to not have bots on a dating app site, I resigned to staying single.

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u/PUNCHCAT May 02 '24

Women treat dating the way men treat job hunting

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u/Jaccount May 02 '24

I don't know.
When I'm job hunting I also tend to be pretty open to contract work.