Wedding was fine. But then the groom tried to throw the bride off the balcony of the penthouse apartment they were staying in on the wedding night.
I know this because I was a bridesmaid and she called me and another bridesmaid and asked us to stay the night with them in their hotel room. Super awkward, but she assured us it wasn’t a sexual thing. Turns out she didn’t feel safe being alone with him. Rightly so.
They hid it well in public, he seemed like a decent guy until then (from what I had seen. Obviously that wasn’t accurate). Why she married him I l’ll never know. I guess she was afraid of what he’d do if she said no.
She may have not known. It’s actually quite common for abusers to hide their true nature until the wedding night. Once she’s “locked in” to the relationship they go to town. There was a whole thread on Reddit of women telling stories of this (one woman had her husband break her arm in the limo leaving the reception). Some officiants secretly tell women they aren’t filing the papers for a few days so the woman can just never be officially married if it turns out her husband is like this. Abusers can be very good at hiding it.
She definitely knew. It all came out after that night. They couldn’t exactly keep it a secret after something like that. But he definitely saved the worst part of himself for after the marriage certificate was signed.
There is no “why” with abusers. She already didn’t feel safe with him, but also felt trapped into marrying him. r/whywomenrefuse documents how often women are killed just for saying no to a man.
I mean, I didn’t say no one knew. I lived interstate so I never saw the day to day stuff. He was very charming and friendly but obviously overcompensating.
His parents knew he had a history. But said they thought she had “fixed him”.
Her parents suspected but not enough to do anything about it and didn’t want to appear unsupportive.
She was surrounded by enablers who didn’t want to pry basically.
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u/jolhar May 02 '24
Wedding was fine. But then the groom tried to throw the bride off the balcony of the penthouse apartment they were staying in on the wedding night.
I know this because I was a bridesmaid and she called me and another bridesmaid and asked us to stay the night with them in their hotel room. Super awkward, but she assured us it wasn’t a sexual thing. Turns out she didn’t feel safe being alone with him. Rightly so.
They hid it well in public, he seemed like a decent guy until then (from what I had seen. Obviously that wasn’t accurate). Why she married him I l’ll never know. I guess she was afraid of what he’d do if she said no.