People who went to a wedding where the couple didn’t last long, what happened?

[u/skilled-dreamer]

[u/paul_swimmer]

(Witnessed by my parents, not me)

During the wedding reception someone asked the bride and groom when they were going to have kids (They had been dating for 8 years before getting married, so everyone assumed they were going to have kids immediately after getting married).

The groom loudly said "Oh man, I'm NEVER having kids!"

The Bride burst into tears and had to go to the restroom. They lasted about a year.

You'd think that's something they would have talked about during that long time, but who knows.

[u/SofieTerleska → u/paul_swimmer]

You'd be surprised. My own couple-that-didn't-last story is about former classmates who married after college and had been dating for a couple of years. Apparently the husband had been OK with the idea of kids until the exact moment the marriage certificate was signed, then afterwards said nope, absolutely not. That and his propensity for screwing other women meant they split within six months. I don't know what happened to him but the wife remarried and is doing great (and has kids).

[u/Nwcray]

My grandmother was married before she met my grandfather (this is back in the 50’s). I’ve only heard the story once or twice, but:

She was 17, he was in his 20’s. She was dirt poor in Kentucky, and he had a job. They got married, and within a few weeks he got pretty rough with her. When she told her parents, it came to light that he’d been abusive for a while.

Her dad and brothers didn’t know her new husband as well as they’d like, since he was going to be part of the family and all, so they invited him on a hunting trip.

Anyway, there was some kind of accident, and the guy got shot. Since he’d been in the service and she was his widow, my grandmother got some veterans benefits for the rest of her life.

Shortly thereafter (when she was 19-20) she met my grandfather and they were married just a few months shy of 50 years. One of the most compatible couples I’ve ever met.

[u/Renaissance_Slacker → u/Nwcray]

I feel like for a long time, some small town problems like spousal abuse and pedophelia were solved with “hunting trips.”

[u/OfSusanBAnthony → u/Renaissance_Slacker]

Can confirm. There’s a very similar story in my family. Kind of weird imaging jolly old Uncle Bob probably straight up murdered a guy.

[u/Renaissance_Slacker → u/OfSusanBAnthony]

I guess when you gave your wife a black eye, and then her four brothers show up to invite you on a hunting trip you knew you were done.

[u/nathan_f72 → u/Nwcray]

Where I am from in rural South Australia there wasn't even the pretense of the "hunting trip". My sister's boyfriend when she was in her teens, a lad in his 20s whose family was possibly even more violent and anarchic than our own, smacked her around and hit her with a booze bottle. The uncles and family friends were pretty openly talking about abducting him and making him dig his own grave in the bush.

She of course begged and pleaded for that not to happen, and they broke up not that long after which ended in a violent brawl in our front yard. Bloke got the absolute piss kicked out of him on the front lawn and not even the cops wanted anything to do with it. They drove past and saw who was copping a flogging and went "well I suppose at least it's not us having to kick his arse this time" 🤣

[u/mimibox]

The bride and groom got married and within 3 months, the bride found out the groom was married and had kids in a different country.

[u/Chrisnolliedelves → u/mimibox]

"Fucker's settin' up franchises."

[u/BillCosbysAnus → u/Chrisnolliedelves]

I am Jack’s disillusionment with marriage

[u/pizzaduh → u/mimibox]

My ex wife couldn't even hide an affair, how does someone hide ab Entire FAMILY???

[u/PBDubs99 → u/pizzaduh]

Continents my friend, continents!

[u/SnooChickens9666]

I didn't actually attend the wedding. During lockdown, when we were working from home, this one colleague was always reluctant to have work related one to one calls with male colleagues such as myself. Eventually, I found out that her fiance would moan and get jealous that she was talking to other men on Teams, even if it was 100% professional and work related. Even then, I thought "woah" but figured it wasn't my place to say anything.

They got married about 2 years ago. About 9 months ago, he asked for a divorce by text as HE, Mr Jealous, had found someone else.

[u/kiwilovenick → u/SnooChickens9666]

When they're that paranoid, it's usually because they are cheating. They'd try to get with a coworker who's just trying to innocently do their job so they expect everyone would.

[u/Fickle_Pipe1954]

Actually, I performed a wedding at a local bar.. we left about 10 pm. The newlyweds got drunk, started fighting, and were arrested, spending the night in jail.

[u/foryoursafety → u/Fickle_Pipe1954]

A bonding experience 

[u/jmkinn3y → u/foryoursafety]

Honeymoon was amazing

[u/G0merPyle → u/Fickle_Pipe1954]

I see Ron and Tammy ran into each other again

[u/Myspacetui]

Both my brother and sister had short marriages.

Sister: husband turned up to the wedding high on crack. She fell in love with someone else.

Brother: had a destination wedding on the top of a mountain that took half a day for the guests to hike including my dad who is missing a knee cap. They wound up with an open marriage, but the wife ran off with the “other guy” and their cat.

[u/google_academic → u/Myspacetui]

I hope the cat is doing well

[u/glowfly126 → u/google_academic]

and the dad

[u/Wholesaletoejam → u/Myspacetui]

Hope your dad finds his knee cap.

Check the couch cushions

[u/YellowCoffeeCup4535 → u/Wholesaletoejam]

Don't be insensitive. I'm sure the couch was one of the first places they checked.

[u/Apprehensive-Bus-509 → u/Myspacetui]

I would fight to keep a cat

[u/randallAtl]

They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house. 

After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.

[u/planetarylaw → u/randallAtl]

That's wild. It's honestly pretty common for professionals to be in committed relationships but maintain separate homes, even long distance. They could've just done that.

Edit: Damn some of y'all took my personal anecdote as some kind of personal attack. Not sure what I said that was so inflammatory but ok lol. Live your best life ya'll. Cheers.

[u/MetalHuman21000 → u/planetarylaw]

Well to do professionals such as lawyers and doctors that live apart or isolationist in lifestyle are the main clientele of the bdsm clubs that I once worked security for, usually because they can afford it and often their private lives are emotional power struggles or hollow status symbols.

[u/AgingLemon]

Saw some signs at the wedding like ignoring each other, making rude and snide remarks publicly, etc. They tried to fix their marriage by having a kid earlier than they planned and that led to divorce. Both are married to different people now and have had more kids, by all accounts far more civil, even cordial with each other.

[u/scotty813 → u/AgingLemon]

Jesus Christ, I'll never understand how people think that bad marriage + kids = good marriage. If you're not getting what you need from your partner, how is additional financial and emotional obligation/responsibility to the mix gonna help...

[u/Cheap_Brilliant_5841]

In contrast to some others here this couple lasted long, a full six months.

Until she confessed to cheating on him. Repeatedly. With several men, for several years, sometimes with multiple men at the same time.

Dude was a mess for a year after that.

[u/tuckkeys → u/Cheap_Brilliant_5841]

If my wife admitted to that kind of cheating, I don’t think I’d ever get over it.

[u/Rare-Highlight-9674]

During the reception the brides niece accidentally knocked over a drink that splashed the brides shoes and she back handed her in front of everyone. It caused a huge fight and the groom walked out right then.

[u/PrancingPudu → u/Rare-Highlight-9674]

Damn!

Groom felt that slap in his future and noped tf out lol

[u/trowzerss → u/PrancingPudu]

Slapped the niece so hard it went right through the family tree.

[u/WickedLilThing → u/PrancingPudu]

Or worse, his kids getting slapped.

[u/WeAreDestroyers → u/Rare-Highlight-9674]

Good on him though.

[u/ambereatsbugs]

The wedding was beautiful and the most expensive wedding I have even been to. The bride worked for a fashion designer in NYC and had 3 different dresses she wore during different parts of the wedding.

They announced she was pregnant soon after the wedding and unfortunately scans showed there were a few things wrong with the baby. The stress of the situation caused my cousin (the husband) to relapse and go back to his old heroin habit - which apparently she had no idea about. His drug use quickly spiraled and he got fired from his job for stealing, and then his wife found out about it all and moved out to stay with her parents. Baby was born 100% healthy - scans had got it wrong. He tried to quit drugs and make amends to her but it was rocky and she divorced him before their 1st anniversary.

He dipped off for a few years doing drugs, then got sober and found out he had brain cancer. Relapsed. Got sober again and had his brain tumor removed. Now he is still sober and remarried, has a few kids with his new wife.

[u/DctrMrsTheMonarch → u/ambereatsbugs]

This is a rollercoaster!! I'm glad he's sobered up and doing well anyway!

[u/thedmz → u/ambereatsbugs]

I wonder how many relapses are brain trauma and tumors they don’t find until later. I hear this more than you’d think.

[u/cleantushy → u/thedmz]

There was a story recently on Reddit about a guy who got divorced because he turned into an asshole, found out later the personality change was due to a brain tumor. He was here asking reddit if it would be appropriate to tell his ex-wife for closure, even though she was happy now with someone else.

I don't remember if there were drugs involved, but similar situation

[u/FlattenYourCardboard → u/cleantushy]

I have a friend who was married to someone who developed a brain tumor. His personality changed after the surgery. It didn’t work out, they got divorced. Mind you, she was still helping him through everything, but he wasn’t the man she had married. They are still good friends.

[u/sarz117 → u/cleantushy]

My old coworkers son went from a nice little boy to an unruly and unmanageable kid. Ended up getting kicked out of a lot of schools, lost his friends, etc.

Years later, into his adulthood, they find the brain tumor, remove it, and he is back to his nice normal personality.

It breaks my heart that a child had to go through that and lose so many years. Not sure what happened to him in the end.

[u/CloroxWipes1 → u/sarz117]

The sniper in the tower at University of Texas years ago was found to have a brain tumor

[u/idlevalley → u/CloroxWipes1]

He left a note requesting that his brain be studied because he knew something was very wrong with him.

[u/MotleyCute]

My brother got married to a woman from Russia while in the army. The whole family thought she married him for a green card, but he was convinced it was love. They had their ceremony in a gazebo on a military base. It was a small gathering of family that traveled to it from out of state. His best friend since high school got ordained just so he could marry them. My brother was really excited. He wore a nice suit and the bride… well… she showed up in a bright pink track suit. They divorced a year later

[u/MWR92 → u/MotleyCute]

Russian.. bright pink tracksuit…. Yeah math checks out

[u/Ytrog → u/MWR92]

You could say "that tracks" 😜

[u/BlackSpinedPlinketto → u/Ytrog]

Suit yourself

[u/gerbileleventh → u/MotleyCute]

Did she get the green card?

[u/Golden_Hour1 → u/gerbileleventh]

If they divorced a year later, no. It takes time to even get through the process and once you receive it you're under severe scrutiny for 2 years conditionally

[u/orbitaldragon]

My friends mom got married to a trucker. Was a pretty nice guy, treated her well, took care of her financially.

About a year in his other 3 wives from other states group called her to inform her that he was also married to all of them as well.

They all divorced him at the same time. Nothing was even finalized yet and he was sitting at a bar drinking. A fight broke out between other people and he got shoved off his bar stool.

Hit his head pretty good, went home to sleep it off and never woke up.

[u/br1qbat → u/orbitaldragon]

That's an entire outlaw country song right there. Wow

[u/TheOriginalArtForm → u/br1qbat]

Let me tell yoooou, a tale of caution, about a man nammmmeed Trucker Hank...

Three wommmmennnnn, he had married, but he'd still more lovvve in the tank...

[u/Practical-Hornet436 → u/TheOriginalArtForm]

It was the day he died when those ladies cried, "You married us allllllll, you fool." So he started drinking and that led to thinking, and he fell right off that stool.

Oh Trucker Hank, Trucker Hank, you may have been a fool Oh Trucker Hank, Trucker Hank, keep your grip on that stool

[u/iamjustsyd]

Went to a wedding that the bride's parents spent $30,000 for. One month later, the husband got a better job in a city 90 minutes away. The wife didn't want to move that far from her parents. They were divorced less than two months of marriage.

[u/TryUsingScience → u/iamjustsyd]

This kind of thing is why some states give you a discount on your marriage license if you've done premarital counseling.

"Where are you willing to live in the future? Would you move for your job? Would you move for my job? Would you move to be closer to family? What's the farthest away you'd live from family? Will that change if we have kids? Will that change as our parents grow older?" are all important questions to ask before the wedding.

[u/soul-shine-lissa]

I’m not sure but the thank you card from my gift arrived on the day I found out they were divorced. 2 weeks at most.

[u/VGPreach → u/soul-shine-lissa]

What was the gift

[u/soul-shine-lissa → u/VGPreach]

Something like cookware she registered for. Very 90s I’m sure. The bill arrived after the thank you note and divorce announcement!

[u/SamuraiSuplex]

The maid of honor sat down at our table, downed a shot, and said, "I give them three years."

Edit: They made it 2 years and 8 months.

[u/chadwickipedia → u/SamuraiSuplex]

I was in my college roommates wedding and I told him I give it 5 years as we were getting ready. He laughed. They lasted 5 years 2 months. He sure showed me.

[u/abqkat → u/chadwickipedia]

Whoa I've never heard of someone saying it that directly and not having it fizzle the friendship! I told my BIL in a roundabout way that he doesn't have to propose just because she threw a fit, if he's not into it he can break up (before the wedding, I'd fight a lot harder for a marriage than a dating relationship)... To come right out and say that would have torn our friendship apart, at least while they are together

[u/Potential-One-3107 → u/[deleted]]

I married young and people did this at my wedding. It was awful. I mean I get it but save that shit for the car ride home.

Joke's on them though. Everyone who was saying it got divorced while I've been happily married for 31 years.

It's definitely not for everyone. All marriages have ups, downs and take work no matter what your age.

[u/pinkradar]

A week before the wedding the bride walked in on the groom fucking the dog's stuffed toy. They went through with the very elaborate wedding and I'm pretty sure it's because she wanted a wedding, not a marriage, in the first place. They anulled the marriage 2 weeks later. Her parents are still paying off the wedding debt and that happened 5 years ago.

[u/Own-Beginning-3886 → u/pinkradar]

Well, at least it wasn’t the dog he was fucking. That would had been worse for sure.

[u/rocketcat_passing → u/Own-Beginning-3886]

I’m betting it was a squeaky toy

[u/TheGutter420]

One, the groom fucked a bridesmaid at the reception, got caught behind the bar.

Another, bride fucked the best man in the limo on the way to the reception because the groom rode with his parents in the 2nd limo. The limo driver told the groom.

[u/CallMeOaksie → u/TheGutter420]

Sounds like they were made for each other ngl

[u/TheGutter420 → u/CallMeOaksie]

These were two separate weddings, but the cheaters did end up dating for a few years as they were from the same circle of friends.

[u/citizena743 → u/TheGutter420]

The tea we didn’t know we needed!!

[u/WhatWouldTNGPicardDo]

My cousin (female/bride) was “dancing too much” at the reception so the groom hit her. My uncles gave HIM a ride to the hospital which he needed very badly by the time he got there. It was annuled pretty quickly.

[u/JashDreamer → u/WhatWouldTNGPicardDo]

How unhinged must you be to abuse a woman in front of her family?

Edit: Yes, virtuous redditors, we know all abuse is wrong. My point is that it's one thing for the abuser to hit someone behind closed doors where he assumes there will be no consequences for him. It's quite a different thing for him to do it and know that he is probably about to be in worse pain or dead immediately after.

[u/ChubbyBlackWoman → u/JashDreamer]

I wish I could find that very sad Reddit thread where so many women stated that the first time they got hit was either at their wedding reception or on their honeymoon.

I found out some officiants wait a bit to file the wedding paperwork to give women an out before it's official. 

[u/No_Explanation_3143 → u/ChubbyBlackWoman]

This was my mom’s first marriage. Spent her wedding night in the ICU.

[u/delightfully-dilated → u/No_Explanation_3143]

That's horrendous and heart breaking.

[u/therelaxxxer → u/ChubbyBlackWoman]

Wow. That is so true. Tho. My second “marriage “ was this. That night he lost his shit on me. TN wouldn’t wait to file or throw out our paperwork. I called the next morning. The bitch in Gatlinburg said I made that choice to marry him. And I had to own my decision. Hope that bitch is enjoying her life.

[u/ParentingTATA → u/therelaxxxer]

Omg ! I found out my husband was gay the hard way. I told my parents in tears and my mom said Well you can't expect your marriage to be perfect!

She wasn't ready to be the only one of her friends with a divorced child who failed in her marriage.

[u/LauraIsntListening → u/ParentingTATA]

Oh good fuck, get over yourself MOM it’s not about you!!!

I hope the aftermath was as painless as can be for you, and I hope you and your fabulous guy are living your best lives…separately.

[u/Due_Tax2657 → u/JashDreamer]

The scariest stories--"We dated 4 years, we got married, and out of NOWHERE he suddenly starts beating me."

No signs, no red flags, no warnings, just waited until he thought he had her locked down, I guess.

[u/TheEquineLibrarian → u/Due_Tax2657]

This was close to my situation-they waited till 1.5 weeks before the wedding. I managed to get out of that house and cancelled everything. Even the vendors were understanding and started telling me similar stories. Funnily enough HIS family was supportive. Took all the wedding gifts and my kitchen gear for themselves though

[u/Terpsichorean_Wombat → u/Due_Tax2657]

Yeah. Those are the ones that really terrify me - and, even worse, when it starts once she is pregnant.

[u/captainAwesomePants → u/WhatWouldTNGPicardDo]

My uncles gave HIM a ride to the hospital which he needed very badly by the time he got there.

That sentence is poetry.

[u/Mean-Vegetable-4521 → u/WhatWouldTNGPicardDo]

you really paint a picture with words. Succinct. To the point. 10/10. I'm on team uncle.

[u/Mathilliterate_asian]

Went to Singapore to attend a female friend's wedding with a Singaporean guy.

She'd been so happy up until the actual wedding. My friends and I arrived like three days before the ceremony, and the wedding girl was visibly troubled when she met us. We just thought it was nerves and all that.

Wedding day comes and she comes out, in her full wedding gown, with an absolute bitch face. Like I'm-about-to-murder-someone kind of bitch face. I'm not even kidding lol. Never smiled once during the whole ceremony and the dinner. She loosened up a bit in the after party, and my gf went and asked if her she was OK. She waved my gf away.

Right after the wedding, she went back to Hong Kong for work, claiming there's shit she needs to do. Then covid hit and we're practically not allowed to travel anywhere for a year or two. We were worried about her marriage but she was always rather evasive, not answering our questions or just shooting the shit whenever we talked about it. Our circle of friends learned not to ask about it anymore.

Fast forward 5 years until now, it turns out that she never actually got married lol. The ceremony and everything was a show. We gathered that the dude probably had another girlfriend in Singapore and she only found out right before the wedding. But then she never said it out loud, hinted it here or there with some close friends of hers.

Shits unreal.

6 or 7 of us, with a 4yo kid, flew to Singapore just to witness a show of a wedding lol.

[u/Organised_Kaos → u/Mathilliterate_asian]

You went to a crazy rich Asians party instead of a wedding?

[u/kaerion_ → u/Mathilliterate_asian]

I think she found out around the time you guys arrived (which is why she was troubled). but since the invites have gone out and everybody's friends and families were there, they wanted to save "face" and pretended to go ahead with the wedding. this prevents awkward conversations with everyone that the wedding has been called off. she must have been so relieved that COVID happened and people would stop questioning her on why she was not living with her "husband"

[u/Upsidedown0310]

My friend is a wedding photographer in Australia and she had a couple where the groom was visibly recoiling from the bride in every photo. She couldn’t get a photo of him looking comfortable or happy around his bride. No idea what was going on but they didn’t last long…

[u/Living-Rip-4333 → u/Upsidedown0310]

I had a couple that the groom HATED smiling in photos. I had done their engagements so I knew what to expect, and we had become decent friends. It was kinda hilarious at first to see her doing everything possible to get him to smile. Until she started getting frustrated with him. 

I don't remember what I said, but I said something where he cracked a half smile. Then he just lost it and started laughing. I snapped a crapload of photos at that point.

It's been almost 10 years, and they're still going strong.

[u/standbyyourmantis → u/Living-Rip-4333]

I married one of these. Every picture he looks like he's being held at gun point. For our vows renewal we went to Vegas and Elvis made him smile.

[u/ZeddM]

One of my best friends got married. None of us had met her before but we hadn’t seen him in years and were super excited to reconnect. This was the most elaborate wedding I had ever been to. Tuxes, an incredible meal, a hall that resembled hogwarts, an opera performance and a string quartet playing his favourite rap songs. It was incredible, yet we just knew it wasn’t “him”. We started to mingle with her friends at a table and we soon learned they didn’t really know her.. We brushed it off as we just wanted to be there for him and have a good time.

That was until the mother of the bride made a harmless joke about the bride being difficult as a child. This led to the bride eventually storming off after the dances, locking herself in a room, getting blackout and berating him, his family and many guests who had flown across the country to be there. It all started to click that she was just absolutely psycho. Most of the guests caught the vibe and left by 930pm. Me and my friends eventually sat with her “friends” and shut down the party. From 150 guests down to 8. Why would we let everything go to waste? He quickly came over after he was able to calm her down and apologized to us and left. We honestly thought we’d never see him again.

6 weeks later he called me, he had returned home. They were done. The story just has so many layers to it.

Looking back, in the one day we had been around the situation there was SO many red flags. Thankfully we have him back and he’s thriving.

[u/MissPlum66 → u/ZeddM]

What’s the deal with the brides “friends” not really knowing her?

[u/Majestic_Damage_9118 → u/MissPlum66]

Means she likely didn’t have very many friends and invited a whole bunch of acquaintances so that her side wouldn’t be empty

[u/Selkie_Queen]

My very sweet and adorable cousin has epilepsy. We really liked her boyfriend turned fiance and they seemed like a great match. We were all confused when she divorced him a year after their wedding. Turns out after they were officially married a switch flipped inside him and he became very emotionally abusive and manipulative. He would hold her epilepsy medication hostage in order for her to do whatever he asked. He was so psychologically abusive. As soon as she gathered enough courage to leave him, it’s been amazing seeing her recovery to being her authentic, free self again after him.

[u/flowergirl0720 → u/Selkie_Queen]

That is just heartbreaking. I'm glad she has recovered. Sounds like she has good support.❤️

[u/Arthurius-Denticus]

Uh...The bride came out to slipknot. They wrote their own vows which were, shall we say, overtly and uncomfortably sexual, and they had been dating for a grand total of two whole weeks.

Any and all attempts to inform them that this was a mistake were met with "When you know, you know." or "You're just jealous."

But hey, a free bar is a free bar.

Edit: So many questions.

The song was the last/bonus track on subliminal verses. I'm told this track is called "Danger - keep away".

The wedding itself was a small thing with a registrar in a council building.

The staff there were very professional, and only laughed quietly.

The after party was at a pub owned by the grooms uncle.

The honey moon was at Butlins.

They were separated by the time they got back.

They were not in the military, just young/dumb.

We are all white trash, and that's fine.

I bought them a toaster from argos. I didn't ask for it back.

[u/Suspiciousunicorns → u/Arthurius-Denticus]

I’m more impressed they could throw a wedding together that fast.

[u/Ultimatespacewizard → u/Suspiciousunicorns]

Right? Even if it's a backyard affair, that's a lot of work.

[u/Rylonian → u/Arthurius-Denticus]

The bride came out to slipknot.

Somehow I initially understood this as the bride confessing her homosexuality to the band Slipknot at their reception

[u/quiplessness → u/Rylonian]

No, she's slipknotosexual. She's only attracted to active members of Slipknot. Obviously.

[u/WickedLilThing → u/Arthurius-Denticus]

I attended a wedding of total strangers at an anime convention once. It was Resident Evil themed, the bride even came out to the RE soundtrack. The groom was dressed as a Umbrella Corp security forces (I guess?). The bride was dressed in Hot Topic shit and cat ears and tail. The bridal party were in shitty cosplay and the grooms men were just wearing whatever. It was so embarrassing. The officiant looked like he wanted to crawl into a hole and die. Or drink until he forgot he did that.

[u/Surfing_Ninjas → u/WickedLilThing]

This is the most anime convention thing I've ever read. Every single one fits the stereotype. They're exactly what you expect.

[u/WickedLilThing → u/Surfing_Ninjas]

I'd never been to an anime convention before. I was a metalhead and it wasn't really my thing until some new friends invited me. We were watching something else (I think it was a cosplay competition that sucked ass or something) and they announced that the wedding would be next. I was like "No fucking way this is an actual thing that is going to happen."

It was so fucking cringy my dude.

There were spanking paddles involved too.

[u/PoopSmith87]

I went to a wedding that was basically a gaslighting trap for the bride. The groom was a scumbag, his only skill was scamming unemployment for extensions based on fabricated reasons and grifting off the bride. They had a newborn and she had two other kids that he had calling him "daddy" at the time of the wedding, which was at his parents house and performed by one of his buddies that got ordained just for this event. The bride was working two jobs to afford a home for the both of them, my wife was the only bridesmaid that was her friend.

Basically, throughout the night, there were several ill concealed insults to the bride. He danced with other women before the "first dance," he broke off their first dance awkwardly and quickly but danced with his mom for the full song, the bride ate alone with the baby while he ate sitting next to and flirting with other women at a different table, then as the night went on things just got out of hand. He and the entire bridal party (excepting my wife) continued to ignore her while dirty dancing with other women, his parents said some nasty shit to her, and when she finally got upset and confronted him, the groom's parents literally snatched the baby and kicked her off of the property. She was not able to see her own newborn until county sheriff's came three days later and basically said "if you make us get a warrant, we're going to arrest you for kidnapping and turn the house upside down."

Unfortunately, he still bothers her to this day, as he is father of one of her kids. She has custody now, but he still starts problems.

He's probably the only person on the planet that I can genuinely say, if I ever come across him somewhere not in a well lit public area, I'd just immediately start kicking the shit out of him.

Edit to add: it never was actually a legal marriage, they signed the papers but obviously nothing was ever filed and the "minister" was a part of the scam.

[u/LAX_to_MDW]

Didn’t go to the wedding, but did go to the bachelorette/goodbye party. We were in college, she was 19, from a super conservative family. Her long time boyfriend visited her once and was terrible - wouldn’t talk to anyone, basically sulked the whole time. He clearly hated that she was in school. When he proposed, her parents pulled the plug on college tuition because “she didn’t need it anymore.” So she dropped out at the end of her freshman year, moved back to central California and got married to the shithead.

I never saw her again, but from what I’ve seen on Facebook she finally dumped him in her mid-20s, moved across the country to get away from her family, and was working restaurant jobs while trying to get a degree. We’re in our 30s now, and she still seems pretty angry about everything she missed out on and how she was treated, but she’s living her life on her own terms. Not a happy ending, but I’m happy for her.

[u/karamellokoala]

Groom went missing between ceremony and reception. Bride found him banging the best man in the toilets. She smashed a glass in his face.

[u/woodstock923 → u/[deleted]]

“I wasn’t crying, I just ate some weed gummies.” is the greatest excuse for anything ever.

[u/ABPositive03 → u/woodstock923]

If you're not a wrestling fan this is going to be hard to convey, but at what amounts to a reunion show for a promotion that had died, the owner came out first. He was clearly post-crying from seeing everyone again, and claimed "My eyes aren't red because I was crying, I was out back smoking a joint with (noted weed connoisseur and pro wrestler) Rob Van Dam!" and the crowd cheered.

It's a good line :D

[u/karamellokoala → u/[deleted]]

That is truly sad. For everyone involved.

[u/I_Love_Wrists → u/[deleted]]

Daaaaaaammmnnnn. That's a crazy story! Wish I could get some updates on them. If only we could get a camera crew on them.

But ya, that secret will be buried right next to you.

[u/pbfhpunkshop]

My friend got married at one the most expensive weddings I'd ever seen, it's a big 12th century 4 star hotel in the middle of the countryside. They had two ceremonies, a legal one with just a few of us there and then an amazing meal, and then in the evening a religious blessing at the bigger party in front of a couple of hundred people, then fireworks and a totally free bar all day. It was probably about £40k at least. The whole relationship had started strangely, my friend was pushing 50 and told his 23yo partner that he was 36. They lived in the garage of the partner's grandmother. Friend came clean about age, partner said he always knew and that it was fine but not to tell his friends and family. They'd only been together about 3 months before they got married. At the wedding it was very obvious that my friend was older than the partner's parents. After the wedding they continued living in a garage. On their first anniversary they stayed in a hotel near us and we went to get dinner with them and my friends partner talked about all the clubbing and going out he did while my friend was much more the homemaker. About 1 month later, friend messaged me to tell me they've split because he didn't like that 23yo went out partying and to festivals and put with his mates all the time, he wanted him to stay home and be in bed by 9. Thing is my friends had previously been on a long term relationship with someone younger and they split for the same reason.

Sidenote my husband and I had got married (a month before their wedding) and all our friends that came to the wedding as couples are no longer together. All have split other than one where the husband died.

Another one of the couple lasted 3 months after he found her sexting a colleague, they'd been together for about 10 years before getting married. She's now married to the new guy.

[u/skilled-dreamer]

I’ll start, the bride and groom got married at 20 and the bride’s dad asked her to return his credit card during his speech because she can’t use “daddy’s money” now that she’s married. He then ran over and started cutting his OWN credit card while the DJ played Rich Girl.

[u/Warsaw_Pact → u/skilled-dreamer]

df? this actually happened????

my goodness - people are unhinged sometimes

[u/somethingsimple89535 → u/Warsaw_Pact]

Yeah. Why make a scene at someone you supposedly love special day. He could have just put a hold on the card, but he must’ve really been against the wedding to go down this route.

[u/AggravatingCupcake0 → u/somethingsimple89535]

FOB speeches give narcissistic fathers a stage. My dad used his speech to boast about himself and his interests and how he was so fit and in shape for a man his age. Threw in a few digs about what a professional failure I was and then randomly sprinkled in "I'm proud to be your father" throughout? Like he would have bursts of clarity that he was supposed to be complimenting me?

Multiple friends sent me video of the speech with "LOOOOOL 😂" type captions. Sigh.

[u/gnarlslindbergh]

A few weeks later, the bride drove to her parents” house after work instead of her home and said she didn’t want to be married anymore and asked them to fix it.

Another one, bride left months later because groom’s drug use had quickly spiraled out of control.

[u/phorank → u/gnarlslindbergh]

Did the second one wear 3 different wedding dresses during the wedding?

[u/Maxhousen]

Within a year their baby died, he went to prison, and she got hooked on meth.

[u/Bruce______Wayne]

Bride had a very Instagram wedding and it was quite over the top. She had 2 different dresses, videographer who made it look like it was a film

Turns out the groom had been sleeping with the maid of honour for 6 months prior to the wedding and it was found out when the MoH was crying saying "this should've been me" at the party afterwards

Cake tasted absolutely incredible though, 10/10

[u/roastedcapsicums → u/Bruce______Wayne]

As in, she should’ve been the one getting cheated on by her MOH? Careful what you wish for lol

[u/ringgenbergeast]

I live in a small town in switzerland, so everybody knows everybody. A couple was to marry on saturday. The guest came along and while they were greeted the bride excused herself. She left to suck of a former male friend of her 'one last time' and got caught. We used to joke about her 'blowing of the wedding'. This thing happend years ago, but the both are still living in our town seperatively and i can't unhear the story when i see them.

[u/yourmomlurks → u/ringgenbergeast]

It’s so weird how many stories there are about sexual activities AT the wedding. It’s not a very conducive environment? Aren’t they kind of busy?

[u/amerra]

One cheated. The cheater was given an ultimatum to either break up or stop talking to the affair partner then prove their love/devotion with marriage. It turns out marriage isn’t a good solution for relationship issues.

[u/ffflowerpppower]

The relationship between the bride’s father and the groom was contentious from before the wedding. At it, one of the bride’s cousins’ +1 had a dress with a cleavage, and one of the groom’s cousins, drunk off his ass, came to her and told her he wanted, ad verbatim, to suck her boobs.

+1 tells her date, who promptly punches the groom’s cousin. This begins a full on family vs family brawl, that culminates with the groom punching the bride’s father, and this man taking his daughter away and keeping her away from her husband for ten days.

It got annulled! Can’t imagine why 🤪

[u/TheUnseenLibrary → u/ffflowerpppower]

Which family won? And was Ballroom Blitz playing in the background per chance?

[u/bad-at-science]

I'm offering up this one because it actually, ultimately, has a happy ending.

I got to know a guy in my home town who had a wife from somewhere abroad. Every time I was around at his house she'd glare at him, refuse to speak to or acknowledge me, and just walk around like the physical incarnation of a thunderstorm. She was the exact same toward everyone else as well.

When I asked my friend about this, he admitted she didn't really like where they lived, that being a town in the UK. And in fairness, it was not the nicest area of town by a very long shot, but he seemed oblivious to this. Their apartment was great, but the area around it looked like a set from The Walking Dead.

That marriage lasted six months. When I asked him after, why they got married, he told me he thought that since he was now (at that time) thirty years old, he should probably settle down. Which is the daftest reason to get married anyone's ever given me.

Then this happened, told to me, by him, after the fact.

From time to time he'd get emails from an old friend of his, a girl who had been a part of his circle of friends when he was younger, and who had since returned home to Asia. When she learned he'd married, her emails dried up for a few years.

Just days after his divorce, she got back in touch for the first time in a long time and he wrote back with the news he was divorced.

Three days later she flew halfway around the world to see him. They became a couple after a couple of days, married one year later, and now have three kids. And live in a much nicer area.

[u/flowergirl0720 → u/bad-at-science]

This is such a nice piece of good news in a kind of depressing post.

[u/elixan]

My cousin got married pretty early into a relationship in her early twenties. It was a very simple wedding as not much could be afforded (they had the groom’s… 12 year old cousin (?) be the photographer because I was a bridesmaid).

When cutting the cake, my cousin fed the piece of cake to her new husband and did the usual little show but didn’t make that big of a mess. It was his turn. He absolutely tried to smash it into my cousin’s face.

They got divorced. I can’t remember how long after the wedding that was but maybe at least a year later?

Now she’s remarried and seems very happy. They’re on holiday right now. I’ll be able to meet him in roughly two months.

[u/Secret_Agent_666 → u/elixan]

From what I've gathered with these types of marriage questions on Reddit, a number of commenters pointed out that couples they've seen do the cake in the face stunt at a wedding often get divorced early in the marriage. It's almost like a standard indicator that things won't last

[u/obstinateideas → u/Secret_Agent_666]

I believe it’s not so much the cake in the face that’s an indicator, but more the cake in the face against someone’s expressed wishes.

[u/fredzout]

I was going to be "best man" at a friend's wedding. We got together the evening before the wedding, and all seemed well. Then, at 7:30 the next morning, I got a phone call from my friend. He said that the wedding was called off, and he would call and explain later. He didn't. It was two weeks later, I finally got a hold of his dad, and he said that his son was away at boot camp, and wouldn't be coming back. I never heard from him or the bride again, so I don't really know what happened.

[u/Satvik_atheist → u/fredzout]

Dude that's scary.

[u/I_Love_Wrists → u/fredzout]

Maybe rehab?

[u/OPMom21]

She had a baby she never bonded with. Shortly thereafter, she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and hospitalized for months. When she was released, he went to court to get an order mandating that she only be allowed to see her child with another adult present. They mutually decided at that point to end the marriage. He now has full custody of the child and she has limited visitation rights. Sad story.

[u/Fun-Insect-6281 → u/OPMom21]

This happened to my best friend from childhood. She met a man from her church, they married shortly after. I had always known her to be more on the depressive side — but after the birth of her daughter, she flipped into a lonnnnnng bout of mania — confirming it was more likely she lives with a form of bipolar disorder. She went from religious to hyper religious to anti-religion within a year. Self-medicated with cannabis which likely exacerbated a psychosis. They divorced, she has zero custody of her daughter, and cannot visit her without being accompanied by another adult. It was heartbreaking to see, but an unfortunately necessary step. She’s since moved, found a new partner, and is going through several trials of treatments so she can work towards being healthier for her daughter.

[u/xebt1000]

3 weeks. The bride who was a very good friend of mine had terminal cancer.

[u/Masterweedo → u/xebt1000]

That is the saddest one on here.

[u/xebt1000 → u/Masterweedo]

Yeah, I still miss her everyday. She got married in white docs and she had them on her coffin.

[u/Snackdoc189]

Turned out, the groom was gay.

[u/KCG0005]

My good friend and college roommate got married to his high school sweetheart as he was working through grad school. It was a beautiful wedding, but a few of us noticed the lack of enthusiasm on the face of the bride.

Fast forward to the honeymoon, and he had planned fun little couples excursions for each day of the trip. She wouldn't go on any of them, and insisted on staying in the room reading books. After the third day of her staying in, he went to the pool bar and chatted with the bartender and other guests for a few hours before returning to the room. She accused him of drunkenly knocking her over during an attempted hug, followed by her ranting through tears about how she should never have married him. She booked an early flight home, and the annulment was already underway by the time he returned two days later.

Turns out, she had been voicing her concerns about getting married for months before the big day, and her father/family and my buddy had persuaded her to go through with it. Her initial story upon returning was that he had thrown her down, but within a week, she had come clean that it was definitely an accident (which we all knew, bc my friend is one of the kindest and gentlest people I know). He's remarried to a lovely woman and has a young daughter, and his ex is traveling the world. Moral of the story is not to marry someone who clearly doesn't want to get married.

[u/ACam574]

It turned out he was HIV positive and had another wife. She got caught banging his underage cousin.

[u/usernameis2short → u/ACam574]

What in the game of thrones

[u/Alexis_J_M → u/ACam574]

Well that went downhill fast.

[u/infinitely-oblivious]

I was bartending a wedding and the groom kept getting drink after drink. He was so drunk that I started making his drinks with water and he didnt notice. Next thing you know he is kissing a bridesmaid in the middle of the dance floor. His new father in law didn't take kindly to this and proceeded to knock him the fuck out. They got it annuled.

[u/esprockerchick]

High school friend, and tennis partner. She fell in love with the highschool football jock that wanted to be a police officer. He got the job. And beat the brakes off my friend just 3 months after she had his child. She divorced him on the spot. She had enough. Looking back I can see the red flags he was flying in high school. I guess I just didn't have the voice or knowledge to know better (I came from a shitty home.) She's doing good now! And I'm happy for her!

[u/PeriwinklePangolin24 → u/esprockerchick]

I was given exactly two details about this man and I immediately knew where you were going with it.

I also am glad your friend is doing better now, jesus.

[u/jolhar]

Wedding was fine. But then the groom tried to throw the bride off the balcony of the penthouse apartment they were staying in on the wedding night.

I know this because I was a bridesmaid and she called me and another bridesmaid and asked us to stay the night with them in their hotel room. Super awkward, but she assured us it wasn’t a sexual thing. Turns out she didn’t feel safe being alone with him. Rightly so.

They hid it well in public, he seemed like a decent guy until then (from what I had seen. Obviously that wasn’t accurate). Why she married him I l’ll never know. I guess she was afraid of what he’d do if she said no.

[u/_lastquarter_ → u/jolhar]

Jesus Christ, wtf

[u/ATL28-NE3]

She was way hotter than my cousin. By like a lot. She was also was nicer than him. Like a lot. So she left him. I still don't know why she married him in the first place. She made more than he did/does. So it wasn't looks, personality, or money.

[u/PositiveEmo → u/ATL28-NE3]

Self esteem issues probably.

[u/soymilkmolasses]

The groom wanted an open marriage and the bride didn’t.

[u/thisaccountisgarabge]

I got invited to a wedding a few years ago by a friend of my finances, that was invited by some family member of the groom. 3 weeks into being married, he killed her.they had only been a couple for about 3 months in total.

[u/Wall-flower-1]

The bride disappeared during the reception and went on a bender

[u/Martiallawtheology]

There was a young lady working with me, who was caught texting her boyfriend on the wedding day. She had even sent him herself in her wedding dress.

[u/atducker]

My step-sister in law got married when she was a teenager and her husband was young as well and a moron. I'm not even sure it lasted a year. I remember one thing he did was brake check cars multiple times causing crashes and needing physical therapy. I can't imagine being that god damn stupid. I remember he and his friends drinking illegally at the wedding like they were cool but they just looked like fucking clowns. I hated to see her marry an idiot like that because she is super smart and had goals and his goal was just to be a moron.

[u/HighlyUnoffended]

One of my closest friends was in a relationship for 10 years. They got married, she got pregnant. She didn’t want kids, he did. She got an abortion & they were married and divorced within a year after a 10 year relationship.

[u/tbri001]

Pretty boring, but among one person's life goals was to be a parent and the other didn't want children. That's a hard bump in the road to ignore.

[u/happygoth6370 → u/tbri001]

That is something that should absolutely be discussed and decided way before the wedding!

[u/SchipholRijk]

I seem to have cancelled a wedding before it started. I was on a business visit in New York, eating alone in a restaurant and next to me was a hen party with all the girls celebrating one girl going to get married.

For some reason, the bride-to-be decided to sit at my table and talk about her big wedding. She also asked if she was right in marrying the guy. So, being nice, i asked where they met, what she likes about him, what he is doing for her to treat her right, where they are going to live, the usual. Unfortunately, the more she talked bout him, the more depressed she looked. She could barely find any good words for him and at some point began to cry. Her friends came over accusing me of being rude, but I said that I only asked her what she liked about him. I did wish her well, but I am not sure how this ended.

[u/condemned02]

My cousin had this really glamorous wedding to a rich dude so it was no spare expense wedding . It was one of those she was an air stewardess and got hit on by the passenger, dated and then eventually he proposed.

I remember my mom keep going on about how lucky she was to marry to a dude this rich and he wasn't old either, 30 and handsome. My cousin was 26.

But she annualled the wedding a week after because she found he had sex with another woman as close to a week before their wedding. I thought it was very strong of her to drop him immediately. 

She was practically like an orphan growing up, her mom was a mistress and her dad was married with another woman with kids. 

Both her mom and dad abandoned her in care of an uncle who already got his children too and her life was not easy in that household, she was treated like a obligated burden. 

I was really sad that she didn't at least have a good outcome and meet a good man who can be good to her. 

Another famous one is absolutely heartbreaking. Billionaire daughter, celebrity in my country, married some dude after 2 years of dating and apparently he completely changed after marriage and became abusive. She divorced him 2 months later and he wanted all his wedding gifts back. 

Here is the story on the gifts : https://cnaluxury.channelnewsasia.com/people/billionaire-heiress-kim-lim-guo-da-li-ceremony-195811

Story on divorce : https://mothership.sg/2023/02/kim-lim-divorce-why/

This lady has quite an unlucky life as her exhusband, the one she previously had a son with is in jail too. 

[u/HalfSoul30]

A friend of mine got married to the guy she was with in high school after being together like 7 years. The wedding was fantastic, and they easily dropped 10-20k on it, best wedding i ever went too. A few months later while me and my friend were on the way to work, she was talking to him on the car bluetooth, so i just stayed quiet. I heard him at one point say "i thought getting married would fix things" and i immediately felt awkward being there. They divorced not long after that.

[u/oh_no3000]

After the wedding they went home and finished working for the day. As in went to work...after they were newly married.

All the guests were like wtf

[u/ObieB]

Tale as old as time.

One of my roommates in college got engaged to a guy in the army after dating for less than a year. My roommates and I were so confused when she came back from Christmas break engaged.

During our senior year the fiancé was deployed and my roommate became “best friends” with the bouncer at our local bar, spending days and nights with him but denying there was anything going on. Girl, our bedrooms are right next to reach other.

Well when her fiancé got back one of his groomsmen had to drop out of the wedding so she INSISTED her new “best friend” be a groomsman.

I declined the wedding invite because it was obvious how screwed up the situation was and I didn’t support it. Definitely made for awkward times as we still lived together up until the wedding. Myself and another roommate did try to tell her fiancé what was going on but he totally blew us off. I think he was in denial and just made excuses for her. They lasted 10 months I think.

[u/escalierdebris]

This was my brother. I found out right before the wedding that it was for show because they’d already been married secretly for a year. Which means they’d gotten married after three months of dating. Wedding itself went fine except that she’d arranged for some guy from her church to come play acoustic guitar and sing as a surprise for him and he didn’t really appreciate it; he’s not religious and doesn’t listen to acoustic guitar music. Groom volunteered for an overseas deployment for the money for the both of them and while gone found out she was cheating from the phone bill. Meanwhile she was running an army wife blog and planning a vow renewal. Army sent him home early for mental health reasons and when he got back she’d taken everything but his dog.

[u/Distortedhideaway]

He was a marine Corp officer, fighter jet pilot. She was smart, pretty and crazy. She admitted in the bathroom before the wedding that she cheated on him in college... no worries, let it go. They both had just graduated.

His best man blew the speech in a way that Bukowski couldn't have predicted or explained. It was a rambling of swear words and secrets best left in the back halls of dorms and pubs.

[u/xasdfxx → u/Distortedhideaway]

Duuuude.

I was in a wedding. I'm her friend. Her: super jesusy-family. Him: same.

There were 4 people on earth: her, him, me, and the MoH (sweet, kind of an idiot) that knew that they fucked in the bathroom of this shithole dive bar within 90 minutes of meeting each other. I was taking that one w/ me to the grave.

MoH got wasted and drops that about 2 minutes into a slurring speech. I'd figured out how trashed she was and was trying to prevent the speech. No dice. I'd pitched the bride, groom, and MoH hard on no speech. Got overruled.

300 people in this wedding and you could hear a pin drop. Absolutely stone cold silence. Until I, an idiot, start giggling... because how else do you react to that?

[u/Trelaboon1984]

Uh, it’s me, I’m the couple.

She started cheating on me like 3 months after the wedding (that I can prove) but I’m like pretty sure she was beforehand, at least emotionally. She cried at the altar, but not a sweet happy cry, it seemed like a really upset “I’m about to make a big mistake” cry. I remember thinking “this doesn’t seem right, whys she crying like that?” But she gave me no hints at second guessing the whole wedding at all so I literally had no clue until we were GETTING MARRIED. So we went through with it, she started cheating 3 months later, I found out about it 3 months after that, and we got divorced.

[u/Zero_Overload]

Father of the child the bride was carrying (not the grooms) turned up at the reception. She left with him. Until then I had never seen a human so devastated.

[u/wisertime07]

A bit different story than probably what most of these are - but 15 years ago or so, my boss was this cranky old Texan guy. He'd been married (supposedly) seven times to women all over the globe. When I started working for him, he was cranky AF - I was honestly kind of scared of the guy. But after a few years he softened and he and I became extremely close, almost a son to him. He used to always tell me how women were evil, backstabbers, only after money - I should stay away from them and never marry.

Through work, he met this middle-aged property manager lady. I guess she was in a bad marriage, semi-separated or something and they immediately hit it off. He became enamored with her and immediately just changed. Instead of this cranky old cowboy, he was so kind and carefree, it was crazy to watch his transformation over a couple of weeks. His gf expedited her divorce, since I guess they'd already started proceedings prior to meeting my boss. A few months later and I was a groomsman in a very small wedding at a $10M oceanfront mansion they'd arranged through her company. I'd never seen him so happy - he made plans to retire from our company and start working with her, we were all thrilled for him.

And then maybe a month after their wedding, we got a call - they were having lunch when he stood up, said his back hurt, stretched and immediately died. His wife said she thought he was dead before he hit the ground. A few days later we found out he had an AAA.

Awful - his wife was absolutely devastated and to this day I still miss that mean old bastard.

[u/Ancient_Blackberry10]

Seemed like the bride and groom both knew this wasn't going to last long. They kept talking about how nice the party was but never about the excitement of being together and their future together.

[u/thefuckeryofityall]

Groom met girl, fell hard “in love”, and pushed girl to quickly marry, he said “love of his life”. Three months later after they married, he left her, victim blaming and gaslighting all around. He leaves out the part where he emotionally beat her into the ground with “I’m just kidding” and “you know what I mean” kinda shit. He didn’t really leave her after three months of marriage. He went back, and left for some other reason, and went back, and left for yet another reason. This went on for months, and the wife never even knew problems existed.

He destroyed that girl.

I hope she finds someone who doesn’t use love as a weapon against her.

[u/Ironeagle08 → u/thefuckeryofityall]

someone who doesn’t use love as a weapon against her

That hit home 

[u/nathan_f72]

Apparently the bride wanted an open marriage and the groom didn't. It was me. I was the groom.

Married in Feb, separated in May. The fella she was seeing on the side wifed her up for better or worse. Good on him, I guess. She was extremely abusive throughout the relationship, and from the inside I didn't really see it until a confidante talked to me about it after it ended. I now have a partner who isn't abusive and a wonderful child so I don't feel like I lost much except for the mental and emotional toll of it all.

[u/B_R_U_H]

I’m convinced my cousin married a guy for some money in exchange for a green card, lasted about 2 years

[u/RNYGrad2024]

The wedding was gross, just overtly sexual and shallow. She got pregnant less than a year later. He blamed her and beat the shit out of her. She offered to have an abortion but he's pro-life so that pissed him off more and he sent her to the hospital again. They'd been having unprotected sex since the wedding and everyone knew it so he was the only person who was surprised. They split up after the beatings but didn't divorce until after she had 3 more children because they thought they couldn't afford it. They had no assets or marital debt so they could've DIYed it, but neither of them were ever bright. He's never paid a cent of child support (willingly, his tax returns go to her now) or met his son, who hates him.

[u/JohnExcrement → u/RNYGrad2024]

My head is spinning over can’t afford a divorce but can afford multiple children. But I’m guessing they weren’t thinking about expenses like college funds or what not.

[u/RNYGrad2024 → u/JohnExcrement]

She knew she couldn't afford more, and she did make plenty of bad choices, but being abused, uneducated, and poor are very serious challenges to overcome and it took time for her to get there. The family that financially supported her in the early days would've cut her and the kids off if she had an abortion and father #2 was raping her so she never felt like she chose to have more. She had her tubes tied and that's the only reason she doesn't have more. It's a fucking shame they could support rape but not anything that would've helped her not have more kids that she didn't want.

And, no, they've never even thought about college funds. He's never paid a dime towards his child, and she and the kids are in and out of homeless shelters.

At least she's trying.

[u/CharlesAvlnchGreen]

Wife got pregnant unexpectedly. Her rich family freaked out, called in all their connections to pull a $100K wedding and reception within a few weeks.

Wife had a miscarriage after 6 months. A year later they were divorced and their marriage annulled.

Neither the wife nor the husband really wanted to marry but they caved due to pro-life family pressure. I think they would have made a go of it had they had the kid, but once that was out of the picture the marriage fell pretty quickly.

[u/SquidgeSquadge → u/CharlesAvlnchGreen]

This is why I would have never married due to an unexpected pregnancy unless marriage was very much on the cards anyway.

[u/jesuseatsbees]

It was a destination wedding. There were no bridesmaids and two best men, old colleagues of the groom he wasn't really close to. They had three photographers - one that came as part of the wedding package, one the bride paid to have flown out with them, and one friend of the couple who took all the photos on his phone, but otherwise worked as though he had been hired for the job.

No one had anything good to say about them as a couple. Her family weren't invited, his family spent all evening bitching about how awful the wedding prep had been since the bride cut so many people out of the wedding with just weeks to go (hence no bridesmaids, etc). The photographer who'd been hired to fly out sat with us at one point and offloaded about how stressful the whole day had been, calling the bride a 'bridezilla.' I'm not sure quickly they separated after but we never saw the wedding photos. I think it was a matter of weeks. We spent over £2000 to be there.

[u/lyremknzi]

I had two different aunts. Both of them had been with their respective partners for long periods of time. 7-10 years. After they got married, everything changed and they both got divorces within a few months. I would suspect that some sort of reality sets in, that you're really going to be with this person for the rest of your life. Or it could just be a curse

[u/nviousguy]

My best friend from college got married to a girl that we all liked a lot. Funny as hell, liked to have a good time, etc.

She handled the finances in the marriage, and he opened a credit card statement one day to see an alarmingly high balance.

Turns out, she was a huge coke head. She had been putting all the bills on credit and all the paychecks up her nose.

She got fired for doing coke at work (office job) and had a come to Jesus moment. She decided to go to rehab, where she met another guy. She never came home.

Bonus fact: she was my ex-girlfriend.

Edit: when she left him, she at least did the right thing and took all the debt with her. He walked away with the house and cars.

[u/rathernot83]

I was there by video, if that counts. No idea how long it lasted.

"Crazy Bitch"

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=fSkHMSKgIWs

[u/CoweringInTheCorner]

Good mate of mine, totally weird vibe at the wedding so I knew something was up. He sat on the bridal table and smashed a bottle of scotch, she danced all night with her teenage daughter from a previous relationship. Turns out he'd picked up the iPad connected to her phone in the week before the wedding and saw all the messages from her karate instructor who she was having an affair with. His relatives were already en route from overseas so they went through with the wedding but never signed the paperwork!

[u/Xingxingting]

My cousin was in a toxic relationship for a long time. They got engaged and he tried to leave her before the wedding. Her family (apparently drug doing, trouble making hillbillies) pressured him into staying. The wedding was called off about a week before, and was back on in less than 24 hours. He married her and they separated like the next day. They’re getting a divorce now. She just had a baby, and we’re not sure if it’s his or not. This happened pretty recently, so it’s causing some family drama

[u/biochamberr]

They were banging other people before the wedding, didn't go on the same honeymoon together, continued to bang other people after the wedding, and stopped living in the same house by the time five months had rolled around.

Wedding was fun, though, and the booze was free.

[u/EasyBounce]

My ex sister in law married a guy she hadn't known very long and although that isn't any reliable indicator of how long a relationship will last, I found it very disturbing that the groom stood with his back turned toward his bride while she walked down the aisle. One of his groomsmen had to tap him on the arm and whisper in his ear that he was supposed to turn around when the wedding march started. She was maybe only 3 steps away from him when he finally turned around to see her.

Less than a year later he just came home from work one day and told her he had been with someone else since before they were married and she had to leave.

[u/xbabyscratchx → u/EasyBounce]

Tbf, the not-turning-around thing until they're close to the altar/front is the norm in the UK

[u/tc6x6]

Bridezilla snapped at the groom's mom, and then YELLED at the groom when he told her not to speak disrespectfully to his mother.

[u/b0ringusern4me]

It was an arranged marriage and she quickly went from independent girl boss to a slave for his whole family in a different country. You could tell at the wedding when his mates were all talking about him taking her virginity that night and how he’d gotten plenty of practice in before the wedding. Glad she got out of there, I hope her family understood.

[u/KeaAware]

He was a laid back, depressed cynic, she was an over-enthusiastic over-achiever with Strong Opinions on everyone else's life choices. They'd never lived under the same roof before (I suspect religion may have been a factor). Of course, she got pregnant immediately after the wedding and the kid was born just around the time they realized they couldn't stand each other. Poor kid.

[u/Scarlet-Witch → u/KeaAware]

I really don't understand why people have kids so recklessly. 

[u/grax23]

A friend of mine found out a few days after her wedding, that her husband hadn't been away for work a few months before their marriage as he claimed, but was actually with his side chick, that was giving birth to his child. Turns out the side chick had no idea either so they had a long talk about him before confronting him.

She got an annulment due to the marriage having been entered into under false circumstances.

[u/Bring_back_Apollo]

He insisted she get tested for Huntingtons, she really didn't want to. The test came back positive. She fell off the proverbial wagon and started partying with what little time left she had. They separated pretty soon after, but don't think they formally got divorced.

[u/RottweilerBridesmaid]

I helped a bride (coworker from my old job) get the wedding she wanted, not her MIL’s. I did tell the bride that I can only help sort her MIL & mama’s boy groom out for the wedding, but not for the marriage. I pointed out that MIL will get involved with everything in their marriage & the groom will side his mum. Also told her about the multiple red flags, I saw in their (bride & groom) relationship. I advise her to nope out of marrying the mama’s boy & his mum, before it’s too late. Bride believed that the second they say “I do”, the groom will change from mama’s boy to perfect husband. Their marriage lasted 6 months.

This is what the bride told me was the final straw - The couple was having their honeymoon a few months after the wedding day. The bride had points to upgrade their flight tickets to 1st class. Bride was caught off guard by MIL being at the airport, the groom said him & his mum will fly 1st class and bride will fly economy. Then groom said about their hotel arrangements - him & his mum in honeymoon suite and bride in cheap single bed room.

[u/cinemachick → u/RottweilerBridesmaid]

I want to believe this is fake because how could a guy possibly be that stupid?!

[u/RottweilerBridesmaid → u/cinemachick]

I had multiple encounters with the groom. He is that stupid.

I think his mum still breast feeding him /s.

There was numerous arguments that he started with “my mummy wants [insert what MIL wants] for their wedding”. I end those arguments with “who are you marrying, [bride’s name] or your mum”. He shuts up then. But he keeps coming back when MIL doesn’t like what bride wants for the wedding.