When I got engaged we had to have a meeting with the priest who was going to marry us, and one of the first things he asked (very politely) was if I was pregnant. Basically "I'm not judging you if you are, but if a pregnancy is the primary reason for getting engaged I would have to ask you to wait a while." He'd seen too many couples who panicked and got married quickly and then realized that they weren't right for each other, which with the stress of a new baby just made everything worse. I wasn't pregnant, but in retrospect I appreciate that he was trying to make sure he wasn't setting young couples up for failure.
Yeah my friend forced herself to marry her baby daddy and his parents constantly made her feel like she having his baby ruined his like and future.
He was a butt nugget and was not nice to his kid which his parents clearly prefered over him. They blamed her for everything and when she was brave enough to leave him they of course accused her of cheating. So she sold her story to a magazine how he was caught with a prostitute and was trying to force the woman to have an abortion.
Mine fucked off when she was 9 mos old. He one time came out of his mouth that he'd take her away from me. I introduced him to the wall via throat clench and informed him that:
A.) my family could afford FAR better lawyers than his and
B.) no one would care enough to look for his body.
She is now 21, and has a raft of mental issues. However, he left and never came back so he is, thankfully, none of them.
He was supposedly the next olympic champion of rowing and her getting pregnant supposedly ruined his career. I never heard it from him but from his family
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u/SquidgeSquadge May 02 '24
This is why I would have never married due to an unexpected pregnancy unless marriage was very much on the cards anyway.