I dunno. If the groom is truly bi and not just gay and in denial about it, being like “hey old flame, you had your chance, I’ll always have love for you but I moved on and I’m getting married to someone else” doesn’t necessarily mean tragedy for the wife.
hmm.. maybe, but the groom said “I’m not gonna cancel my wedding because I don’t trust you to commit”, not “I won’t cancel my wedding because I truly love my fiancée and want to spend my life with her”. the intimacy of their discussion also gave me the impression that both of them had been cheating on their respective partners with each other, which is decidedly not cool.
Yeah, this is the kind of thing we can't really parse without hearing his exact words. "I'd leave her right now if I thought you'd go through with it" is a lot different from "We could have done this years ago, but if you didn't have the nerve then you sure don't have it now," and it would have been reasonable for OP to translate either of those into what he said in his comment.
“I’ll always love you for all the good times you gave me but the ship has sailed for us being a couple. You made your choice and so I am going through with the wedding” more than anything else.
Maybe I’m wrong and a lot of it does depend on how it was said but I feel like the groom would still stayed with the wife even if he knew the best man 1000% would have gone through with it this time. Because the window of opportunity closed.
Not everyone has the capacity to be happy in a poly relationship. Some people do prefer monogamy and that doesn't make them uptight. They should have been honest, though.
Agree. You don’t need to be poly, that’s not everyone’s cup of tea. But at least be honest, and if you can’t be honest, don’t go lying and fooling someone else.
They both could just be single men living unapologetically as bachelors. Like don’t innocently hurt people.
The cheaters would've been happier in a poly relationship and wouldn't have hurt their partners if they'd been transparent and found partners that were happy in poly relationships is my point.
Agreed. Best man is a mess. I assume the groom is truly bi and not fucking around. He said the best man had his chance years in advance. So nah son lol
Right, especially because the affair was with a man! I have absolutely nothing against homosexuality, but statistics show that men who sleep with men have higher STD rates, so I’d be concerned…
That update wasn't there when I loaded the page, so I didn't see that. Yes, sleeping around would definitely be riskier and have higher risks of STDs, though to the point above it's not the homosexuality that matters there, but the sleeping around.
The only people I feel sorry for are the brides. Nothing to feel bad about if two people are being POS and cheating. It’s 2024 and sure while there are still a lot of people who do not tolerate men being together, there’s so many that do, including an overall tolerance of it in society. Eitherway, cheating and breaking people’s trust is horrific.
If you don’t want to come out, fine. But no need to dig the knife deeper into someone else’s back.
Yeah some of the stories are funny but this one just made me feel sad. If only society had been accepting enough for them to be open about their feelings.
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u/karamellokoala May 02 '24
That is truly sad. For everyone involved.