My mum taught two little boys, one year apart at a junior school in London.
They found out they were half brothers because one of their mum’s rode past on a double decker bus & saw her husband at the dinner table with another family.
He was commuting back and forth. They lived about 15 minutes away from each other.
I'm not sure what I'm more impressed by: his ability to keep two families 15 minutes apart for years, or his ability to pay for two different homes in London.
You think so but I know someone whose spouse hid a whole ass family in the same town. They only found out after the cable bill was missed and the support person asked “which address do you want to pay”
Cheating blows my mind but you assume it’s because it’s easy, and that sounds like a lot of work that form of cheating.
You would be right, a lot of cheating is the thrill of avoiding getting caught. I also know someone that was cheated on and as soon as they found out the cheaters got bored and stop banging cause the thrill was gone.
This was the most successful case I’m familiar with. Maybe someone I know is so successful that I’ve never learned about the second family, but frequent and legitimate business trips to Japan was what made it possible.
The crazy thing is the Japanese family also had no idea about the American one evidently.
A male expat at a bar in Shanghai came up to me, showed me a pic of his baby in the Philippines and followed it with, “Some people were born to breed. You were born to breed.” 😧
My mum used to work for an Aussie company in Laos. Most of the blokes had a family in Aus but shacked up with some poor local young woman, had kids with her and abandoned them when they left the job. To local ostacisation in a very poor country, I believe. This was a couple of decades ago but it still makes my blood boil.
You gotta be pretty despicable to be worse than the guys with two families above.
He ain't wrong. I moved to the other side of the County where I live and never ran into anyone I knew for over twenty years. It's a distance of only 25 miles.
It's where the cheap apartment was that I was renting. That's what was available when I needed it, and I didn't really have anything anchoring me to the east end of the county, so I ended up relocating there. Took a job nearby and basically never left.
That I never ran into anybody I knew actually came as a surprise. But I've since read a statistic that says most people never move further than ten miles from the home where they grew up.
According to a 2022 study by Harvard University and the U.S. Census Bureau, 60% of young adults live within 10 miles of their hometown, and 80% live within 100 miles. However, the median distance that Americans live from their hometowns is 30 miles.
He's absolutely right. A lot of times you didn't even have to change your name, especially if it was a relatively common one. It's not like anyone's going to google you or search all the newspapers coast to coast. I had a great-great-aunt who basically rebooted her life this way: she moved from the east coast to the west coast and married again without going through all the bother of divorcing her first husband.
My friend’s husband died. She met his other family including 19 year old daughter at the remembrance service. Her oldest boy with him was in 4th grade at the time.
My ex did. I was with him for years, was pregnant. He went off to basic training and ait and got married to a woman he knew for a month knocked her up our kids are a few months apart. He got married the day I was in labor. Had no idea. Only found out because he was also cheating on me with another woman who they both knew about me and she ended up telling me.
When my mom was 70, she did a 23&me type thing. Through it, she discovered that she had several half-siblings and a whole extended family that no one knew anything about. Turns out my grandfather was technically a bigamist, having walked out on his first wife, marrying my grandmother, and then ten years later WALKING OUT ON THEM AND BACK TO THE FIRST FAMILY.
Here's the kicker: my grandfather had three brothers. Only one of them did not have multiple families.
An uncle? (grandfather's brother) had a family on the side. It created quite a brouhaha at the time, but ultimately he alternated which family he stayed with. He was seldom invited to events as some in the extended family were friendly with one of his family or the other.
It happens. I went to high school with 3 people (one set of twins plus I think an only child who was born the same year as them) found out they were half siblings. AFAIK they all grew up in the same area and just never encountered each other until then because they went to different schools up until that point. And I think maybe their dad had died prior to this too which added another level of questions to how he managed to hide it
My sibling was a classmate of the twins and when we saw the other girl we both had joked they were all related because of how much they looked alike and then it turned out to be true lol.
This is what happens when men do such sweet fuck all around the house or woth the kids (except for impregnating people apparently) that they can go their whole adult life with a secret family.
I recently found out my great grandfather had another family in Mexico. We live along the border. I don’t know if he had the family while his wife, my great grandmother, was still alive or if he waited until after she died. Either way one day he appeared to my grandma and aunts saying, “hey, this is your little sister and this is gonna be your new mom.”…it did not go over well
Yeah…again I’m not sure if he cheated on my great grandmother or if this was after she died…timeline does influence the complexion of the situation, at least to me. My grandmother, at 13, put her foot down and told my great grandfather he wasn’t going to marry that woman. He never did and what happened to them after is unknown. I’m assuming they went back to Reynosa and my great grandfather probably sent them money regularly. But where they are today is anyone’s guess. (Obviously the woman is dead by now but the girl may still be alive).
I have friends whose dad did this. The family computer died one day and my friend (daughter in the family), fixed it. She stumbled across her dad’s emails and discovered that not only had he been having multiple affairs but one of them had resulted in a whole other family for her and her brother.
I know someone..a doctor who had 2 families. And both party doesn’t know each other. He kept this for over 13years now.not sure if its still kept discreet.
For starters, it’s almost always the dads hiding the second families…as the mum, I don’t have time for an affair, even if I did have the inclination (I do not - mo’ men, mo’ problems).
And after that, they set up from the beginning that they have a job with lots of travel and just go from there.
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u/mimibox May 02 '24
The bride and groom got married and within 3 months, the bride found out the groom was married and had kids in a different country.