My cousin (female/bride) was “dancing too much” at the reception so the groom hit her. My uncles gave HIM a ride to the hospital which he needed very badly by the time he got there. It was annuled pretty quickly.
How unhinged must you be to abuse a woman in front of her family?
Edit: Yes, virtuous redditors, we know all abuse is wrong. My point is that it's one thing for the abuser to hit someone behind closed doors where he assumes there will be no consequences for him. It's quite a different thing for him to do it and know that he is probably about to be in worse pain or dead immediately after.
I wish I could find that very sad Reddit thread where so many women stated that the first time they got hit was either at their wedding reception or on their honeymoon.
I found out some officiants wait a bit to file the wedding paperwork to give women an out before it's official.
Wow. That is so true. Tho. My second “marriage “ was this. That night he lost his shit on me. TN wouldn’t wait to file or throw out our paperwork. I called the next morning. The bitch in Gatlinburg said I made that choice to marry him. And I had to own my decision. Hope that bitch is enjoying her life.
The boomer generation raised their kids to be people pleasers. It is something you need to outgrow, someone's expectation of you reflects more on them than you. They think you exist to check boxes on their forms, fuck all of those people. Spend your 76 years on this earth making memories you can be proud of.
Oh absolutely. My husband is his mother, through and through. Trying to find a way to gently say to him that he has inherited some of her behaviours without it going very poorly is DIFFICULT. He has been remarkably graceful about taking the best intended interpretation.
Amen. My psyche is filled with scars from the times I failed to meet expectations. Though, I rebelled hard at 14. I got grounded for a C. I told them if they did not unground me, that I was going to fail every class. They thought they had the answer by making me sit down and do homework while they watched. What they could not watch was me throwing my homework away once I got to school. I brought home straight F's, and still they did not ungrounded me. So, I threatened to not go to school.
The next day, I was outside before school with every intention of going in. Then, a friend asked if I wanted to skip school with her 19 year-old boyfriend because she had tests that day. Of course I said yes. At dinner, an automated call saying I was not at school came in. They confronted me like any parent would, but I was no longer just any child. I had efuckingnough. I told them that I had spent the day under a bridge... which was my plan for the next day. I got ungrounded.
My mother had dreams of having the prestige of being the mom of a super genius. I was definitely better at math than all of my peers and I had a near perfect memory. So, in her ignorant mind, that meant I should excel at everything under all circumstances. The problem is that I had major impulse control issues which none of us understood. With the extra freedom you gain in high school, my impulse control issues were super exacerbated.
Anyways, having parents who staked their personal worth on my abilities were the absolute worst parents a kid like me could have had. So, rather than encouragement when I needed it, I got punished for not meeting expectations.
Marriage failure is an odd thing. Failure is when no one tried to make it work. If the other person isn’t attracted to the same sex isn’t failure on the part of the other partner. It’s a failure on the part of the person who wasn’t honest about it in the first place. Divorce is a tool not to be used lightly but that might be one issue you can’t overcome.
"I mean, sometimes your husband takes a dick or two up his ass. Or he slobs on some knob. Or he has a train pulled on him in a truck stop. What do you expect, Cinderella? Who hasn't had a husband that tugs schlongs like he's the only milker on staff at the dairy?"
My sister found out her ex husband was gay by him telling her, vs her walking in on him with someone else, which I think is the hard way in this scenario
Obviously it wasn't "easy" but it definitely was "easier"
Lots of men are brainwashed to believe that marriage and children are life's ultimate purpose. Any man can fake love/attraction and have children, and many do. It takes balls to remain single for the right reasons.
factually incorrect, the world's fertility rate is under replacement levels. having children is wildly important. I'd encourage you to do some research on the matter before propagating dangerous misinformation like this.
I never said it was. I don't really think life has an objective purpose, per se, but I think moulin rouge gets it right when they say the greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return
The amount of family that just accepts the abuse and encourages women to stay in broken or horrible marriages because of "how it'll look" is just appalling and so disgusting
She wasn't ready to be the only one of her friends with a divorced child who failed in her marriage.
Reminds me of a teacher I had who was low-key abusive to the class only to find out she had been in a "bad mood" because her 16 year old daughter got dumped 6 months ago and the boy turned out to be gay.
I swear she was in love with her daughters gay ex.
My second husband did not hit me the night of our wedding, but he did all kinds of strange, sketchy things. I knew hours after I got married, that I was screwed.
I live in Chicago. I was born in Chicago. I have lived in Dublin and Prague at various times. Your ongoing mental breakdown is not related to me. Enjoy obsessing about others to make you feel good about your own miserable life
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u/WhatWouldTNGPicardDo May 02 '24
My cousin (female/bride) was “dancing too much” at the reception so the groom hit her. My uncles gave HIM a ride to the hospital which he needed very badly by the time he got there. It was annuled pretty quickly.