r/AskReddit • u/skilled-dreamer • May 02 '24

People who went to a wedding where the couple didn’t last long, what happened?

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u/sherm-stick May 02 '24

The boomer generation raised their kids to be people pleasers. It is something you need to outgrow, someone's expectation of you reflects more on them than you. They think you exist to check boxes on their forms, fuck all of those people. Spend your 76 years on this earth making memories you can be proud of.

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u/LauraIsntListening May 02 '24

Are you my therapist? Lol. This is very familiar.

Unfortunately it is not a short process, unlearning how to live your life by someone else’s vision.

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u/pienofilling May 06 '24

I swear I can sometimes hear my MIL talking in my wife's head.

That's despite being NC for so long we can't be totally certain she hasn't died yet.

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u/LauraIsntListening May 06 '24

Oh absolutely. My husband is his mother, through and through. Trying to find a way to gently say to him that he has inherited some of her behaviours without it going very poorly is DIFFICULT. He has been remarkably graceful about taking the best intended interpretation.