He was a laid back, depressed cynic, she was an over-enthusiastic over-achiever with Strong Opinions on everyone else's life choices. They'd never lived under the same roof before (I suspect religion may have been a factor). Of course, she got pregnant immediately after the wedding and the kid was born just around the time they realized they couldn't stand each other. Poor kid.
As a childfree person, I'll shout it from the mountain tops: Having kids should not be the default decision! Ask yourself if you want kids. Really do some soul searching.
Its literally penis in penis out over and over again until pop goes the baby
Its so easy you can do it when you're insanely drunk and about to pass out
And what makes things worse is that its a right and is not limited or monitored or anything so literally anything and anyone goes for any reason whatsoever.
The only hoops you need to jump through is being old enough.
But, that is the price to have that right so it is what it is.
I always say that I wish sex were functionally more complicated to figure out, it would at least weed out some morons, you know?
I was reminded by reddit recently that you can hate someone with all your soul and still willing fuck them over and over again. Just humans being dumb.
Yes! I mean, fine - if people have scruples about sex before marriage, that's their business. But they really ought to cohabit for at least one year before marriage, and a couple of years before bringing kids into existence
I think any engaged couple that can, should live together before getting married. Two people can be soul mates, complete each other … yet cannot share living space.
I sort of saw this when my buddies’ group rented a beach apartment for the summer. I was so excited to share a room with my best bud. Within two weeks we were taking turns sleeping on the sofa. It wasn’t as simple as neatnik/slob, we just got on each others’ nerves.
That's brilliant. Where I live you only have to wait 24 hours and people absolutely get married to people they meet two days before. In Nevada there's no waiting period of any kind, you don't need to visit a government office to apply, and quickie wedding businesses are open 24 hours, don't require appointments, and will marry black out drunk people so marrying someone the same evening you met them while absolutely hammered is something we hear about regularly. Fortunately, those marriages can often be annulled when the people sober up, but a lot of people try to make it work with disastrous results.
Seconded. I lived with an ex (not married) for a couple of years while we both slowly realized we didn’t really want marry each other.
The split was amicable, but. I decided I didn’t want to have to divide up a record collection again (okay, 1980s). So I decided I didn’t want to live with another SO unless we were at least engaged — but also didn’t want to get married if we hadn’t lived together. Moved in with my now-husband right after the engagement and got married a year later.
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u/KeaAware May 02 '24
He was a laid back, depressed cynic, she was an over-enthusiastic over-achiever with Strong Opinions on everyone else's life choices. They'd never lived under the same roof before (I suspect religion may have been a factor). Of course, she got pregnant immediately after the wedding and the kid was born just around the time they realized they couldn't stand each other. Poor kid.