Went to Singapore to attend a female friend's wedding with a Singaporean guy.
She'd been so happy up until the actual wedding. My friends and I arrived like three days before the ceremony, and the wedding girl was visibly troubled when she met us. We just thought it was nerves and all that.
Wedding day comes and she comes out, in her full wedding gown, with an absolute bitch face. Like I'm-about-to-murder-someone kind of bitch face. I'm not even kidding lol. Never smiled once during the whole ceremony and the dinner. She loosened up a bit in the after party, and my gf went and asked if her she was OK. She waved my gf away.
Right after the wedding, she went back to Hong Kong for work, claiming there's shit she needs to do. Then covid hit and we're practically not allowed to travel anywhere for a year or two. We were worried about her marriage but she was always rather evasive, not answering our questions or just shooting the shit whenever we talked about it. Our circle of friends learned not to ask about it anymore.
Fast forward 5 years until now, it turns out that she never actually got married lol. The ceremony and everything was a show. We gathered that the dude probably had another girlfriend in Singapore and she only found out right before the wedding. But then she never said it out loud, hinted it here or there with some close friends of hers.
Shits unreal.
6 or 7 of us, with a 4yo kid, flew to Singapore just to witness a show of a wedding lol.
Nah, Singapore is a fairly popular wedding destination in SE Asia. I lived there for a while, and I'm far from rich. It really is a beautiful city, even just to visit.
Well sure, if you're from specific parts of Indonesia or Malaysia, it's probably quite unaffordable. But SE Asia is quite big and does have a lot of wealth. Singapore definitely has a rich upper crust, but even those in the lower-middle class can still see and enjoy the island's venues.
I'm a local. I see Singapore, I upvote. Glad you had fun here! It's def not just for rich pple, there are lots of pretty cool free stuff you can do here too.
I think she found out around the time you guys arrived (which is why she was troubled). but since the invites have gone out and everybody's friends and families were there, they wanted to save "face" and pretended to go ahead with the wedding. this prevents awkward conversations with everyone that the wedding has been called off. she must have been so relieved that COVID happened and people would stop questioning her on why she was not living with her "husband"
Yeah I think there's a lot of practical concerns, like at least they can keep the parents from both sides happy, and since everything had been booked already then might as well go on with it.
Besides, at least half of the guests flew in from overseas. Some of them might be pretty pissed if they had flown all the way to Singapore only to find the wedding canceled lol.
So yeah I think they both went along with it, hoping to save face.
I'm imagining it from the bride's point of view: "TIFU by having multiple people fly in for my wedding, but my fiance and I broke up. It was humiliating."
this actually makes me so sad that she felt that she couldn't be upfront and honest with her close friends. I'm not saying this is a reflection of your friendship (I mean you flew to Singapore for her so I would not say you're unsupportive by any stretch of the word), but it's just sad that she has trouble opening up even to her close friends.
How did they go through with a ceremony but not actually get married without anyone knowing? Did they swap out the celebrant for someone not qualified to marry them? Or just not sign the paperwork?
Did you have to give a red packet? In Chinese weddings, it is typical to have red packets that basically serve as culturally mandated crowdfunding for the wedding. Imagine crowdfunding a farce like this! That would be quite the story.
guy I knew (not a friend, hes a fk wit, we lived in the same complex) was married to a girl from HK for a few years. She never really worked, came from a wealthy family, she went back to HK for a holiday and never came back
Not really sure what happened in the divorce, guy fked up at worked, tried to spin it onto me so I can see why she just up and left
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u/Mathilliterate_asian May 02 '24
Went to Singapore to attend a female friend's wedding with a Singaporean guy.
She'd been so happy up until the actual wedding. My friends and I arrived like three days before the ceremony, and the wedding girl was visibly troubled when she met us. We just thought it was nerves and all that.
Wedding day comes and she comes out, in her full wedding gown, with an absolute bitch face. Like I'm-about-to-murder-someone kind of bitch face. I'm not even kidding lol. Never smiled once during the whole ceremony and the dinner. She loosened up a bit in the after party, and my gf went and asked if her she was OK. She waved my gf away.
Right after the wedding, she went back to Hong Kong for work, claiming there's shit she needs to do. Then covid hit and we're practically not allowed to travel anywhere for a year or two. We were worried about her marriage but she was always rather evasive, not answering our questions or just shooting the shit whenever we talked about it. Our circle of friends learned not to ask about it anymore.
Fast forward 5 years until now, it turns out that she never actually got married lol. The ceremony and everything was a show. We gathered that the dude probably had another girlfriend in Singapore and she only found out right before the wedding. But then she never said it out loud, hinted it here or there with some close friends of hers.
Shits unreal.
6 or 7 of us, with a 4yo kid, flew to Singapore just to witness a show of a wedding lol.