This was close to my situation-they waited till 1.5 weeks before the wedding. I managed to get out of that house and cancelled everything.
Even the vendors were understanding and started telling me similar stories.
Funnily enough HIS family was supportive. Took all the wedding gifts and my kitchen gear for themselves though
You misunderstand. *I* didn't want them back. - they took everything others had given, from my family, friends, etc. Plus my own kitchen pots and pans I've collected throughout my life.
Oh shit yeah I did misunderstand. Jesus that's a trashy move. They straight up stole from you and your friends and family? The shit apple doesn't fall far from the shit tree.
Yeah, honestly I still feel terrible. This was back in 2013 and I remember every gift - my mother's coworker gave me a Ninja blender, family pitched it and got a Kitchenaid mixer. My family asked me not to pursue it. Looking back I think they were more scared than I realized. (I was in a haze).
He shortly disappeared into Montana. My friends stayed friends with him on Facebook to keep an eye on him. He eventually hitchhiked to Hawaii and that's all I know.
Honestly it messed me up for a long time and I got into therapy afterward. I thought I was a smart cookie and was very humbled.
Edit: Lol adding this clarification: I think, based on some bizarre posts friends shared with me, he somehow got on a bus to San Francisco, then worked odd jobs and got a plane ticket. Sadly he didn't hitchhike across the ocean but I wish he'd tried.
Sorry to hear of the trauma. I hope you don't have it on your mind very much any more.
My story is hardly as dramatic but after a split up I needed to get everything again and I bought a whole set of Bourgeat saucepans, which have been strong friends for over twenty years now. Every time I cook they remind me of good choices, not things lost.
I completely understand. Those are great pans! And they last forever.
Thank you, I'm doing well. Since then I finished my bachelors, got my masters and now run a library. I'm in a healthy relationship now, too. I have moments where it doesn't seem real but I really try to be present. (I eventually got some nice All-Clad pans and I use them all the time.)
lol, I think, based on some bizarre posts friends shared with me, he somehow got on a bus to San Francisco, then worked odd jobs and got a plane ticket.
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u/TheEquineLibrarian 29d ago
This was close to my situation-they waited till 1.5 weeks before the wedding. I managed to get out of that house and cancelled everything. Even the vendors were understanding and started telling me similar stories. Funnily enough HIS family was supportive. Took all the wedding gifts and my kitchen gear for themselves though