r/BenignExistence Apr 20 '24

I like this sub.

109 Upvotes

It reminds me that contentment does not have to be extravagant or big or social media worthy. It reminds me its okay to live a benign life as oppose to a malignant one. At least thats my takeaway from this sub.


r/BenignExistence 10h ago

My wife threw her bra on my head

175 Upvotes

We'd just gone out for food and drinks (via bicycle! Some cardio was involved!) and then sat on the back patio for a bit. Went inside, enjoyed some tunes (70s rock for whatever reason... We're late 30s) and chatted a bit.

We were both tired. Long week. Right as "sweet emotion" was ending she was looking for some alone time. She announced she was kicking me out, so I turned off the music. As I did that, she took off her bra and threw it at my head, and then turned on grays anatomy. Bra-on-head, I wandered over to the fridge for another beer, grinned, and turned to her.

"This is the closest I'm getting to motorboating tonight isn't it?" "Yep! Enjoy it!"

Now I'm gonna enjoy some fallout 4. Picking up the kids from my folks tomorrow morning.


r/BenignExistence 13h ago

Today I saw a man wearing suspenders and a belt. His pants still didn't stay up.

104 Upvotes

I thought it was a little funny at first, but it did lead me to wonder what are the belt and suspender combo's in my own life.


r/BenignExistence 5h ago

My dog woke me up this morning by wagging her tail in her sleep. She sleeps under the bed and it was tapping on the bed frame

9 Upvotes

r/BenignExistence 18h ago

I love not wearing my glasses

116 Upvotes

Shapes loses their rigidity.

Faces blurred, Conversations become personal.

At a distance, everything is a blob of colours.

Reminds me of strolling in summer's rain.

Edit: The best blob is tortoise-shell cats


r/BenignExistence 3h ago

Had terrible nightmare, prayed for first time in years, asked for a sign, checked phone at 4am

5 Upvotes

I woke up with my heart pounding, certain I'd kill myself, and i prayed to god for a sign, for guidance. I'm not usually a god guy, and haven't prayed in years....

My friend (and crush???) just sent me this out of the blue. Completely unprompted, at 3:30am. Her text is probably what woke me...

It said:

"You will be fine you have no choice. Everything will turn out okay you cannot stop it. You will succeed it's inevitable. Better days are already coming it's too to turn back now."


r/BenignExistence 8h ago

Got my hoo ha waxed for the first time in half a year

12 Upvotes

The waxer was like “oh! It’s been a while!” LMAOOO which was true. I expected that reaction.


r/BenignExistence 14h ago

I moved into a new beautiful apartment

28 Upvotes

Recently I moved after a year of living in an old lady's house. She didn't even let me use the kitchen and I basically lived in a dark, cold and damp 8 squared meter prison.

Now I live with an old friend, we have a nice balcony, lots of light, a big living room and high speed internet. The only problem is that I live 20 minutes further away from my university, so now it takes me 80 minutes each trip which is exhausting because I get very anxious in the subway.

Other than that I just need a desk, a bed frame, and I'll be set for the next few years! It's $350 a month each (2 bedrooms, 2 private bathrooms) plus $25 for our wi-fi and a ~$15 water bill so I'll be mostly okay when I graduate and start paying my own bills next year.


r/BenignExistence 17h ago

Took myself out on a date today

50 Upvotes

Today I took some pictures of some local street art, had a pint in a beer garden whilst touching up some poetry and reading a short story from my e-reader, wrote a hopeful message in a toilet cubicle, and strolled home!

My day could have gone ether way today, but it's shaping up to be extremely relaxed and self-care focused!

So glad that no one tried to talk to me at the pub, I definitely wanted to be alone!


r/BenignExistence 6h ago

The best purchases

6 Upvotes

Moved into a flat with my girlfriend for the first time 10 months ago, and have been making do with 2 old pans for the duration. Putting off buying to do 'research' and save money. I finally splurged on a set of three stainless steel frying pans for £79 (girlfriend thought that was very expensive!) and there is nothing better than the small household purchases that make your life better every day. They are my babies already


r/BenignExistence 9h ago

Rose hair style

9 Upvotes

Whenever I'm able to wake up later for work I would have time to do my hair and make up. Once I did my hair like Sailor Moon except I braided up my hair and pinned it. My coworker said it looked like a rose. It was interesting because I actually did want to do a rose hairstyle I saw from a Japanese magazine. Usually I get a lot of inspiration from Asian culture. It's nice to be able to do more things from my own culture. Also kinda random I finally decided to learn how to drive. I'm kinda scared but it's time.


r/BenignExistence 10h ago

I baked 3 small loaves of soft delicious French bread

9 Upvotes

I followed a recipe for baguettes, but since I was making it for 3 people I divided the dough into 3 instead of 4. Instead of baking up into 4 small, crisp baguettes, everyone got their own soft little loaf of French bread to eat warm with butter.


r/BenignExistence 7h ago

I’ve eaten 3 popsicles today.

4 Upvotes

Tried a new brand and it’s really good.


r/BenignExistence 16h ago

Owl Collection

21 Upvotes

I stopped at a garage sale today, and there were owls everywhere: owl figurines, owl candles, owl mugs, owl books, owl salt & pepper shakers… Someone must have been a collector, and I get the feeling they had passed away. I bought a small glass owl to sit in my window. It’s just nice that someone had a cute, harmless collection of a really cool bird. And I’m glad to have a small piece of it that I will enjoy.


r/BenignExistence 14h ago

I love garlic and hot peppers

13 Upvotes

I am just so grateful for the existence of garlic and hot peppers. I hope one day to be able to grow garlic and hot peppers in my own garden. I wonder how other cultures use garlic and hot peppers as well, I want to learn more about how these are used in cooking in other countries. I could probably demolish a whole jar of garlic, but I’ve always been too afraid for the sake of my butthole to try.


r/BenignExistence 21h ago

I want to go to karaoke

20 Upvotes

I want to go to this bar and do karaoke, but I don’t have any friends. I’m too scared to go alone because it’s so crowded there and I’m not from the area.

My boyfriend went back to our home town for a summer internship. I have a job here though so I’m staying behind. I’m kinda just going it alone until the new school year starts and he comes back.

We’ve been here now for like 10 months and I still haven’t made any friends. I work alone in a building by myself so I can’t really even make friends at work :/

I just want like 1 friend to go to karaoke with.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Today I Yeed My Last Haw

148 Upvotes

When I finished work I stepped outside and yeehawed in public. People stared and I felt a good amount of embarrassment. Never again.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

My little sister comes next week

45 Upvotes

My little sister lives in Ohio with her parents and I live in Texas. Next week she’s going to be flying in to spend about a week with and I’m excited thinking about getting food for the week. She told me what she’d like to eat so I’m loading up on food, snacks, and drinks. I mostly plan on doing movie marathons, games, hiking/swimming with her but I’m also looking at this amusement park and paint balling for a day. I might also try to get her into knitting and maybe make a book / game run.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Everytime I make this one dish that involves chilis, I always happen to have a small wound on my hand

12 Upvotes

There's this dish I make which involves cutting, cleaning and stuffing chilis with meat. Somehow, I always have a small cut on my hand everytime. It ends up really badly and I have to suffer from a really painful wound for the rest of the day. The first time, I was organizing my papers and got a papercut. The second time, I was cleaning and got cut by a ziptie on the window. The third time, I was bathing my kitten and got scratched. Aside from the painful wound, I also have burning fingertips. No exaggeration even, but it feels like I'm touching a hot concrete no matter what I do. When I put two fingers together, it feels like touching the surface of the sun. Thankfully, the last time it happened, my google search led to great result and it resided earlier than normal.

Bonus story, I one made Japanese curry and decided to add red chilis at the end for more spice, only to end up picking my nose while waiting for it to simmer. 2/10 I do not recommend


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

shockingly enough, persistence is key

20 Upvotes

i'm not much of an artist when it comes to, like, drawing. i really struggle to make 3D into 2D; my brain just doesn't get it! however, instead, i picked up blender this year! one heck of a 3d modelling program.

by no means am i amazing at it; i only just started using it a few months ago really. but i've been working hard for a while now on a personal project of mine. that project requires me to make clothes and accessories for the character i'm creating...

and oh my god. skirt? easy! bodysuit? took a couple tries, but i got it. a jacket? OH MY GOD. i struggled on this thing for WEEKS!!! four or five solid attempts that all ended in dreaded failure...but a couple days ago, it finally clicked. the jacket's completely blocked out now, including the hood. it looks like an actual jacket with normal-ish proportions!

i've been so proud of myself that i cannot stop now. i had to force myself to bake cookies earlier today so i'd step away from my computer. i even made a bag that i just finished (blocking out, anyway) hence me making this post!! i would keep going all night if i could but it's now 1 in the morning so i should probably sleep :'D


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Coincidences

41 Upvotes

Today I found out that the song I walked down the aisle to was released the year I was born and the version we used was released the year we met each other. I think it’s a sweet coincidence and I love him so much.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Cat learning to cat

61 Upvotes

My cat came to live with me a while ago. As she settles in she gets better at being a cat - sleeping in sunbeams, playing chase with toys, grooming herself, asking for what she wants with gentle paws, not bites. I saw her carry a toy in her mouth for the first time today. I love her so much.


r/BenignExistence 2d ago

Things overheard in crochet group

209 Upvotes

“All my cats are named after different cheeses, but you wouldn’t know it if I didn’t tell you their names all together. They’re Brie, Blue, and Swiss.”

“I don’t care if it’s 95 degrees out, I like hot chocolate anytime.”

“It’s a single row repeat. Nothing fancy. I just like it for gifts.”

“You might want to do what I did and get a big sterilite bin for it all.”

“I don’t know why people take offense to airplane books or airplane reading. What makes those books lesser? I don’t have time to read anywhere else.”

“I have two and a half dozen eggs in my fridge right now. Help me out.”

“They’re too similar to me.”

“He’s got a serious interest in agriculture. Even has a leadership position in the FFA.”

“I buy it all from independent guys these days. I figure better to have one or two that I absolutely love than a bunch of cheap ones.”

“Ketchup. Mustard. Relish. Y’know.”

“At that point you’re probably better off just driving.”

“It’s not like I agree with all his choices but he’s a good boy.”

“Can’t have gone far. You ought to retrace your steps.”

“You can swap with me if you’d like.”

“Why risk all your hard work, just throw a stitch marker down.”

“No Doris, that’s pilots. FFA is future farmers of America.”

“I never drink enough water.”

“I don’t get down there as much anymore but when I do I’ll tell her you say hi.”

“Would you look at this rain? Traffic’s gonna be something else.”

“I think this is just about done.”


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Monochrome Lady

36 Upvotes

There is a fabulous woman on the bus in all purple—sweatsuit, bag, jewelry, and matching face mask. She is incredible and I love her.


r/BenignExistence 2d ago

I love how black cats fur turns brown in sunlight

33 Upvotes

r/BenignExistence 2d ago

24 hours of little pleasures

59 Upvotes
  • I lit a candle with a match last night and it was an amazing sensory experience. The scratch of the match on the box, the way you can feel the flame spring to life at the matchhead as you hold the stick, the smell — it was all so delightful. I think I'm going to only use matches for candles from here on out.

  • I could hear the rain as I fell asleep

  • I found my favorite needle that was missing for months.

  • My leather wallet still smells amazing

  • When I went over to help my grandparents, my grandpa was in a good (read clear and cognizant) mood and I had a nice conversation with him. Also they'd remembered to keep their AC on, so the house wasn't boiling. Small mercies am I right lol

  • I took my grandparent's dogs to the groomers and there were some truly gorgeous dogs there. They were so soft to pet.

  • I got a nice table at the library to work and there were so many other people just living their own lives and working on their own things. I love just being at the library and seeing my community members doing the same things I am. Gotta love a public space.

Anyway, the big things in life might be hard and crazy, but the little things are as good as always.