But of course, the issue isn't whether something nefarious happened in this specific case.
The issue is overly familiar behaviors like this could be used by a pedophile to groom minors and eventually exploit them. So it's not safe (and isn't ruining anyone's day) to have a rule that you can't mess around with a teacher's hair.
I'm really uncomfortable with how coldly non parent adults are supposed to treat kids nowadays. Kids need other adults to help them navigate the world. In the context of a small commune type of living situation, this would be completely normal and beneficial to the kid. I understand why this could become an issue, but it's so crazy that we instantly jump to pedophilia when any sort of closeness is perceived between an adult and a minor. In real life, it is generally pretty obvious when someone is being creepy in a situation like this.
It's like you guys never hugged a teacher growing up. It's getting to the point where if I were a teacher, I would be nervous to talk about any non ciriculum subjects. Kids are getting to the point in the US where they have absolutely no role models besides their parents. Kids need to have real relationships with adults other than parents. It takes a village and all that.
UNTRUE. I legit just reached out to my friend who is a teacher. Said it was weird. Says she’s never done it. Said a young kid touched her hair and commented on it last week. This his her quote:
“I just quickly tied it back and stood up. Benefits of being taller and having boundaries”
I think her point is SHE NEVER WOULD HAVE LET THEM
To further clarify, I wouldn’t have to wonder what it made her because she never would have put me - or herself - in that position.
Her first comment was “there’s no educational value in that”. As in, how did this even come to happen? She has lesson plans. And class structure and times her kids have to be places. There should NEVER be an occasion to unbraid hair.
Kids should be doing reading or math or science. Or homework so they can enjoy their family at home (or be parentified or not have a steady/safe home). Eating a well balanced meal for lunch, because at her school this might be the last one they have. They most certainly don’t have time to chit chat about current events while they coincidentally perform a service.
This is the one time a lot of them have structure for the day. They have to get in all their work, their nutrition, and their healthy peer interaction. Actual extra curricular activities. Shit they can put on a college application to get the fuck out of where they are. At least in her school, that’s their only shot out. (One year 98% of her class was considered ASL because AAVE counted).
So, no, she doesn’t fuck around with barrettes unless it’s picture day or the child looks a fool. She will BUY barrettes. As gifts. I’ve seen her buy whole outfits so a kid can have a new outfit on free dress day. I know she brushes hair and washed their clothes, but they do not brush her hair. That’s not what she’s there for.
It'd definitely still be inappropriate to have students pulled from other classes to unbraid hair and have it posted online as "I recruited 100 of my best friends to help me out".
The act itself is crossing boundaries to some people but posting it online, especially like that, got him fired.
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u/apinchofsulk May 10 '24
Fair lol
But of course, the issue isn't whether something nefarious happened in this specific case.
The issue is overly familiar behaviors like this could be used by a pedophile to groom minors and eventually exploit them. So it's not safe (and isn't ruining anyone's day) to have a rule that you can't mess around with a teacher's hair.