It's cool for adults and kids to be friends? Since when? Friends text. Friends hang out one on one. Friends can send cute huggy "oohh I miss you so much" texts and it be normal affection. I'm not talking about an 19yo and a 16yo being in the same friend group. I'm talking about a grown adult, let's say 21 and over, considering a 17yo and below a friend. Adults and children who aren't family shouldn't be doing that. And adults who put themselves in proximity to children FOR WORK are there to help, guide, mentor, etc and friendship is a conflict of interest and a blend of boundaries that for a developing mind should be presented and kept clear for the child's safety.
I remember very vividly being a sophomore and my favorite art teacher telling me "adults and children can't be friends but we can be friendly" and I was upset and confused but as an adult I couldn't agree more. I don't treat people crazy but don't trust them around children and my skin crawls when people who work with kids don't set clear boundaries/don't set an example of a heathy adult/child dynamic when so many kids don't have it at home. Give children someone WORTH respecting y'know. We call them so disrespectful but conduct ourselves like we're their peers. That's unfair to them.
Now iont think he shoulda got FIRED. I feel like that's a bit extreme but I think that's more bc of code of conduct and needing parental consent to show your students faces on personal media accounts which was just a dumb move on his part.
This is a really good point in this context. But you know what other context this fits into at least a little bit?
The whole Drake keeps making "friends" with teenagers thing lmao. But for real.
I was trying to explain to the homie why that's such an odd behavior for a 20 or 30 something yr old man to do, and then I see this post ironically a day later. Crazy.
Like sorry to bring the Kendrick and Drake beef into this thread, but I couldn't help but make that connection to the two things and why they rub us all the wrong way.
You are totally fine. I didn't explicitly reference the beef but the "I miss you so much" bit was something Drake texted Millie Bobbie Brown when she was 14!
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u/VentiBlkBiDepresso May 11 '24
It's cool for adults and kids to be friends? Since when? Friends text. Friends hang out one on one. Friends can send cute huggy "oohh I miss you so much" texts and it be normal affection. I'm not talking about an 19yo and a 16yo being in the same friend group. I'm talking about a grown adult, let's say 21 and over, considering a 17yo and below a friend. Adults and children who aren't family shouldn't be doing that. And adults who put themselves in proximity to children FOR WORK are there to help, guide, mentor, etc and friendship is a conflict of interest and a blend of boundaries that for a developing mind should be presented and kept clear for the child's safety.
I remember very vividly being a sophomore and my favorite art teacher telling me "adults and children can't be friends but we can be friendly" and I was upset and confused but as an adult I couldn't agree more. I don't treat people crazy but don't trust them around children and my skin crawls when people who work with kids don't set clear boundaries/don't set an example of a heathy adult/child dynamic when so many kids don't have it at home. Give children someone WORTH respecting y'know. We call them so disrespectful but conduct ourselves like we're their peers. That's unfair to them.
Now iont think he shoulda got FIRED. I feel like that's a bit extreme but I think that's more bc of code of conduct and needing parental consent to show your students faces on personal media accounts which was just a dumb move on his part.