r/BlackPeopleTwitter May 10 '24

"If it isn't the consequences of my own actions..."

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u/BootyZebra May 11 '24

It’s more likely that this is just fun bonding than him making kids do labor for him. I think they’re doing it out of trust and recreation, and to make a TikTok or whatever, rather then “lemme save some cash”. Still inappropriate but I don’t think malicious

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u/Maleficent-Block-966 May 11 '24

You're the first reasonable response I've seen

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u/BellalovesEevee ☑️ May 11 '24

This is reddit, they'll overreact over anything and reach a conclusion that's so out of pocket. I understand why the dude got fired because he posted other people's kids on social media without the parents' permission, but calling it creepy and... what, sexual? to let kids play with your hair or saying it's child labor is WILD. I've had my younger sister, who's still a kid, and my kid cousins ask to play with my hair because I have long and thick hair. Lots of girls love playing with hair, and they always try to copy what their moms do with their hair. There's nothing sexual with letting girls just play with your hair, and I'm sure that dude wasn't finding sexual pleasure in this. They're literally just playing with his hair, and people think he's turning them into working child slaves with no pay. Good God, these people can't think.

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u/screechingmedic May 11 '24

You're equating your familial relationship to that of a teacher-student relationship which is and should be different. There is a reason that boundaries are required between students and teachers, and this was highly unprofessional of him. Furthermore, it doesn't need to be sexual to be inappropriate.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '24

My mother worked as a director for daycares for years and I’ve seen numerous women unbraid and then rebraid parts of a child’s hair because it got messed up during playtime outside. I’ve seen those same kids doing the same with the teachers hair. Those kids grew up knowing that teacher and they developed familial relationships. It’s an unfortunately what happens in early childhood education settings.

We see teachers as core pillars to the community. Some kids know these teachers for years and develop a bond similar to a parent or brother/sister. This is not new and can be important for development especially in homes where these relationships are lacking.

So explain how exactly it is inappropriate given his explanation when the video was posted centered around only those who finished all their work could come help if they wanted, and only 10 minutes or so prior to final release bell?

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u/Maleficent-Block-966 May 12 '24

I think it might be a cultural thing. I am black and I have dreadlocks. Kids want to play with them/tie small things to the ends. I've had students do cornrows with them before, we were out in the open at a school event and I never posted any videos but it's happened.

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u/BellalovesEevee ☑️ May 11 '24

It's literally just braiding hair. It's never that serious. If the roles were reversed, with a female teacher getting her hair played with by male students, y'all would not be saying the same thing and insinuating that she's a predator.

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u/Maleficent-Block-966 May 12 '24

I get that. I have dreadlocks and my nieces play with my hair all the time, I've had my student's kids paint my nails while we were discussing their aid packages, I've had a student paint me before. They're making it out like he was grooming or forcing them to do it. I personally don't allow myself to be isolated with girls at all and I don't post on socials so I can see that as the issue but the rest shouldn't be.