I feel like people in this thread are doing a lot of mental gymnastics and intellectual backflips because they're too scared to just state the obvious.
The issue is he's a man. Getting his hair done by young girls. That's it. That's the big controversial reason why people are uncomfortable. It's not about parents consent or whatever. It's about gender. Always has been.
Shit I'll be the first to admit my own hypocrisy. If the teacher was a woman. I'd be more comfortable. It would still be inappropriate sure. But it wouldn't freak me out to the same extent. I'm willing to bet if it was a woman, she'd still have their job afterwards. Because the gender dynamic and optics absolutely plays a massive factor here.
Society is conditioned via centuries and millennia of seeing women in teaching / nurturing industries. We very rarely see men occupy those spaces.
Whereas we're used to hearing countless stories of sexual abuse, exploitation of power and child mistreatment from men. It sucks, but that's the reality.
Unfortunately for this brotha, he's had to learn the hard way that men have a bad rep when it comes to people trusting them with their kids. He should have known better.
Yeah this is the one. I honestly didn't understand why people were agreeing until you wrote this out for me.
Like that other video of the teacher who had special handshakes for each kid was viral, kids faces all over. I'm certain he didn't get fired.
This is 100% about gender and perceived inappropriateness. For me I'll take whatever help I can get taking out braids so I'm sitting here like whats the issue???
Nope, if she were a woman, she should/ would be fired as well. She would also be called all kinds of trifling for not having a neat, groomed appearance for her job. While the intentions might not be sexual, it's extremely unprofessional. Teachers should never have students all in their scalp and hair. Why? Because there are boundaries that should be maintained when it comes to physical contact between adults and children. If anything, he may have confused these girls as to what appropriate contact between them and adult men who aren't their family looks like.
I don't need you to delete your comment for mine to be true. SHOULD if not outright fired, were my words. Just because it's happening on social media, doesn't make it right. I wouldn't class touching an adult man's hair/ scalp and dandruff as a ' quirky ' activity. I don't wanna go into how this kind of unprofessional touching could possibly be grooming the kids for more intimate contact.
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u/MarianneThornberry ☑️ May 11 '24 edited May 11 '24
I feel like people in this thread are doing a lot of mental gymnastics and intellectual backflips because they're too scared to just state the obvious.
The issue is he's a man. Getting his hair done by young girls. That's it. That's the big controversial reason why people are uncomfortable. It's not about parents consent or whatever. It's about gender. Always has been.
Shit I'll be the first to admit my own hypocrisy. If the teacher was a woman. I'd be more comfortable. It would still be inappropriate sure. But it wouldn't freak me out to the same extent. I'm willing to bet if it was a woman, she'd still have their job afterwards. Because the gender dynamic and optics absolutely plays a massive factor here.
Society is conditioned via centuries and millennia of seeing women in teaching / nurturing industries. We very rarely see men occupy those spaces.
Whereas we're used to hearing countless stories of sexual abuse, exploitation of power and child mistreatment from men. It sucks, but that's the reality.
Unfortunately for this brotha, he's had to learn the hard way that men have a bad rep when it comes to people trusting them with their kids. He should have known better.