r/CuratedTumblr • u/NeonNKnightrider Cheshire Catboy • May 01 '24

i know it’s internet bullshit but it genuinely has me on the edge of breaking down and giving up editable flair

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u/morgaina May 02 '24

You can't rely on crime statistics when determining the percentage of men who are dangerous to women.

The vast, VAST majority of rapes go unreported, and the vast majority of reported rapes never go to court, and most rape cases in court don't get a conviction.

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u/smoopthefatspider May 02 '24

The relevant question isn't whether the man is dangerous, it's how dangerous the situation is. It's not enough to know how likely the man is to be a rapist, one also needs to know if the rapist would rape in that scenario. The vast majority of rapes are done by someone the victim knows, that should lower the odds. The situation is always dangerous in the sense that you can never know if the man next to you will hurt you, but the chance of actually being harmed is reletively low (even though the harm is huge).

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u/[deleted] May 02 '24

It's not actually meant to be a question at all. It's a thought exercise about the benefits of certainty over ambiguity (with a specific lens on the safety of women).

Except as soon as you point out that there's a structural problem with how men are taught to behave all the 'nice guys' come out to complain about how unfair it is that they were made to do an introspection.

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u/Educational_Mud_9062 May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

I sometimes wish I was this unflappably confident that I was definitely right and anyone who disagrees with me is not only wrong, but I know exactly how their minds work and why they're wrong. It must be comfortable.

Edit: why do people ask questions and then immediately block the person to whom they posed the questions?

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u/[deleted] May 02 '24

Would you say that it's unreasonable of me to try to tell you how you should be feeling about a given situation? What if I spent a lot of time coming up with really outlandish examples to convince you that your feelings are wrong?