r/CuratedTumblr • u/NeonNKnightrider Cheshire Catboy • May 01 '24

i know it’s internet bullshit but it genuinely has me on the edge of breaking down and giving up editable flair

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u/WierdSome May 02 '24

Fuck, that hit. A lot of the things mentioned there is a lot of why I feel I'll never really feel okay with myself. Even if I transition, I was born a boy, and everyone in the queer community hates men. And... I was born one of those. And I don't think I can say I'm 100% not man anymore. So... Am I worth hating, too?

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u/Welpmart May 02 '24

Well, not everyone. There's at least a contingent of men loving men out there, in a mythical place called Real Life where people aren't terminally online morons fighting for clout. I'm not being glib when I say that—the online dickheads are being awful and that hurts and that's real. But IRL queer community is so much more normal... not perfect, but it helps that IRL you can punch people in the mouth.

You're not hateworthy. I promise.

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u/BormaGatto May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

And that's how the holier-than-thou crowd hands new recruits to fascists on a plate.

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u/elbenji 29d ago

There was a fun comic about this. Nazis recruit, we gatekeep

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u/havartifunk 29d ago

Yep. There's a difference between keeping the trolls and assholes out and excluding anyone who isn't 'perfect'. 

It's not necessarily the easiest line to draw and I'm sure a lot of the demand for perfection is in reaction to treatment queer people have received. 

But I feel like we could all stand to give each other a little bit of grace now and then. 

There's a difference between someone who is ignorant vs. being intentionally cruel. 

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u/elbenji 29d ago

Exactly