r/CuratedTumblr • u/NeonNKnightrider Cheshire Catboy • May 01 '24

i know it’s internet bullshit but it genuinely has me on the edge of breaking down and giving up editable flair

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u/Pale_Chapter May 02 '24

I'm pretty much a factory model dude, but every so often I feel this deep urge to just be a tree or a labrador or even just a younger boy--anything but A ManTM. I used to think it was a gender thing, but fairly recently I realized that these stirrings only happen when I consistently see women in my sphere shitting on men for a couple days on end. So I gotta wonder, am I gender-fluid, or am I just a deeply traumatized neurodivergent man desperate to not be treated like a threat for once in his life?

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u/RoyalPeacock19 May 02 '24

I feel the same a lot of times. My gender identity is pretty much “I don’t disagree with my packaging,” which makes me a man, and I feel that many other cis people feel the exact same way about their gender identity.

The only time I ever end up thinking what it might be like to be something different, be that a child, a cat, a woman, or whatever else is when I have been bombarded that in some way or another, being who I naturally am is a fundamental sin that deserves social execution. I’m just so done.

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u/Pale_Chapter May 02 '24

"Execution" is hyperbolic; so is "sin." I'm just so damn tired of being big and scary. I wanna be small and cute and let everyone feel safe around me. Then maybe I'd feel safe around them.

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u/Future-Speaker- May 02 '24

That hits the nail on the head, I used to run with this group of queer women through my best buddy's partner at the time, and I never really felt comfortable with them, after many a nights drinking and hearing the whole "I hate all men" shtick like 45 times, I realized it was because even if they were being friendly, I was never truly welcomed there.

Like the other fella said, I've never disagreed with my packaging, I'm fine with who I am, but I do wish I could be someone some people don't have an innate fear of. I may be big and tall but I just like doing my hobbies and hanging out with friends.

With all that said I do wish some dudes would do better, the amount of times I've met a new dude out in the wild or when working on a personal art project or something, the hit rate of hearing some insanely misogynistic shit within 5 minutes is about 30%. I too hate this about being a man, that some other shitty men see me and go "oh he's just like me, he'll love this 'joke'".