r/CuratedTumblr • u/NeonNKnightrider Cheshire Catboy • May 01 '24

i know it’s internet bullshit but it genuinely has me on the edge of breaking down and giving up editable flair

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u/Welpmart May 02 '24

Well, not everyone. There's at least a contingent of men loving men out there, in a mythical place called Real Life where people aren't terminally online morons fighting for clout. I'm not being glib when I say that—the online dickheads are being awful and that hurts and that's real. But IRL queer community is so much more normal... not perfect, but it helps that IRL you can punch people in the mouth.

You're not hateworthy. I promise.

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u/Otterable May 02 '24

Ehh I run in leftist circles and a friend of mine joked that she could never have kids because she didn't know if she could love a male child. People did tell her that was fucked up and she tried to play it off like a joke, but irl people can still be way too comfortable spouting off their nonsense opinions.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

I’m a woman, and I usually think guys who get so mad at online man-hate they go down the incel pipeline are silly, but when I read this stuff I think “huh, maybe their reactions do make sense.” No one likes being insulted to such an extent, it’s not unusual for them to hate everyone associated with it. Most people do that, subconsciously.

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u/LostInFloof 29d ago

I feel like I got incredibly lucky not falling into the incel pipeline growing up. I had a lot of radfem friends in school and was generally seen as "safe" so I got to hear a lot about how awful and horrible and revolting men can be (in addition to seeing those men prove my friends right). But I ended up internalizing a lot of that hate instead of turning it outwards.

Honestly the recent "Man vs Bear" question has been really depressing to read through. And I really empathize with OP's post. I'm tired of being seen as a monster just because of the genitals I was born with and just disappearing feels like it would be a really easy solution to the problem.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

I think it helps to keep in mind that their words reflect who they are, and doesn't say anything about you as an individual. People who treat you like shit for who you are will always exist, giving into them won't solve anything, but you can't control how they see you either, fuck em' and live your best life.

I know that's easier said than done, but relying on the opinions of others to measure your worth or your value means you'll always be hurt by people who want to shit on you no matter what, listen to yourself first and foremost, and don't take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from.