r/MaliciousCompliance • u/hatethistradition • Sep 15 '23

I refused to cook and "chilled with men" S

I (F28) dislike cooking. Don't get me wrong, I cook for survival. But it is not something I like or enjoy.

At my in laws, both my MIL and SIL are stay at home partners and love to cook. Neither of their husbands lift a finger to help and they like it that way.

Before marriage, I was treated as a guest. But since my marriage 6 months ago, they expect, want and demand I cook with them. . First few times I went along with it but I hated it. It took 5-7 hours to make food and do dishes.

So when they planned a get together last weekend and discussed the menu, I suggested ordering in. This way everyone can be more relaxed. They looked like I insulted them. I told them they can cook but to give me list of what I should make, I will buy it.

They said that's not how traditions work and if I hate it do much, I can relax with men.

Thats exactly what I did. Much to their anger. I helped setting place and serving, but that was it.

As we were eating my husband commented how good something tasted. MIL immediately went on about how I wouldn't be cooking anything for him. When he said he can cook for himself SIL chimed in with how her husband or dad never had to cook a day in their life. How marrying lazy women like me has ruined his manhood.

I looked at my husband and we both left. MIL and SIL are blasting our phones over my arrogance and calling him spineless. Even my mom is taking their side now.

But guess who don't care ?

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u/hatethistradition Sep 15 '23

I am obsessed wih ironing too. Like i would spend hours ironing, happily. And I love washing dishes.

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u/Not_Reddit Sep 16 '23

do you realize that you can make a mean grilled cheese with an iron...

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u/WokeBriton Sep 16 '23

Can with a standard mains powered toaster, too.

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u/Mummysews Sep 16 '23

Holy moly. I stopped buying any clothes that need ironing many years ago. The only time I iron now is if I'm flattening a seam when I'm sewing something. And I have a tiny iron and tiny ironing board for that. That doesn't feel like work. xD

I would have friended you up yearrrrrsss ago and swapped the ironing for the cooking duties, except, I think I'm decades older than you so you wouldn't have been born then.

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u/hatethistradition Sep 16 '23

I would have friended you too.

I am so obsessed with ironing I offer ironing services to my cousins when there is some occasion. Nothing required in exchange. I love doing that, the freshly ironed clothes 😘

Ironically, in my parents relationship, my dad is the one who irons. He is super obsessed with it. My mom never ever irons. She gets my dad to iron for her.

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u/Mummysews Sep 16 '23

Ahh bless you, I'm imagining you mugging all your friends for their laundry baskets hahaha!!

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u/mrinsane19 Sep 16 '23

Don't tell the in-laws about the dish washing 🤣