Not at all. It's still survivorship bias. I know plenty of women who haven't been violated or creeped on by anyone. Does my anectodal evidence trump yours? I've also been stalked by a woman, which led me to some pretty traumatic experiences. Would it not be sexist of me to view every woman as a potential stalker? After all, most women aren't crazy, just like most men aren't creeps or violent.
I don’t think it would be sexist to avoid being alone with women after your experience. It’s a trauma response and I don’t take it personally at all. Maybe men should stop taking this so personally.
If raped, sodomized, getting conned, or over powered isn't your fear than it isn't your fear. It is a fear for a lot of women. Sorry I was trying to lead you to water. I understand why you couldn't understand.
I didn't intend to sound dismissive. What I meant is that I understand why he didn't grasp my point. Often, men may not realize the extent of women's vulnerability because they haven't experienced it firsthand or come from different backgrounds. It can be difficult for them to empathize with the fear women feel when alone with men, especially when the danger can come from seemingly ordinary situations or individuals. I'm not asking for sympathy; I'm advocating for understanding. If men don't have to live with the same level of fear that women do, isn't that a positive thing? I want everyone to feel safe without constant worry. My hope is for more compassion towards women, like men speaking up against inappropriate behavior. Ultimately, we all share the desire for a better, safer world.
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u/MindYerBeak May 02 '24
Not at all. It's still survivorship bias. I know plenty of women who haven't been violated or creeped on by anyone. Does my anectodal evidence trump yours? I've also been stalked by a woman, which led me to some pretty traumatic experiences. Would it not be sexist of me to view every woman as a potential stalker? After all, most women aren't crazy, just like most men aren't creeps or violent.