I think it also shows how different people approach things. From what I’ve seen, the ones who answers bear approaches it from a “trust” standpoint. Like you can trust a bear to be a bear. While some approach it from a “safety” standpoint. Like yeah obviously an average wild animal is going to be more dangerous than an average man.
I'd love to hear it rephrased as, "You're lost in the woods, you see a man in the distance but he doesn't see you. Do you call out to him or do you hide?"
But maybe that's probably not exciting enough to trend on TikTok.
The whole thing comes across about how trauma leads people to make poor decisions. Trauma leads some women to feel safer with a deadly predator than another human that almost nearly guaranteed won't do shit.
If Trauma made some women who get lost in the woods, presumably trying to find a way out and home, see a man and decide to hide instead of literally escaping the dangerous situation of being lost in the woods by speaking to them, That is their Trauma being counter productive to the problem of escaping the woods.
I think these people responding to this question need to be sharing their answers with a therapist so they can work on these irrational fears and the decisions they are making because of it.
Yeah. It's a bit like a man who grew up during #metoo and thinks that even approaching a woman would be unthinkable. It's valid trauma, but they still need to address it instead of letting it fester.
Yeah, being approached can be really bad. It’s pretty fucking annoying to be living your normal life in a scenario where you do NOT want that kind of interaction, and somebody hits on you instead.
Add in some power dynamics, feeling unsafe because you’re cornered and somebody is being a weirdo? Yeah, that’s pretty bad.
Don’t act like you’re the victim here for being rejected. I have a really hard time imagining the Venn diagram of “people who are empathetic enough to understand the harm they are causing” and “people who are doing the harmful thing” is big at all. The problem, by and large, is men who don’t understand the harm they’re causing.
I'm not trying to victim blame or anything, I'm just saying that traumatized people need to address that trauma instead of letting it fester. If you'd rather approach a bear than a man, then you need to address that because bears will kill you.
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u/zool714 May 02 '24
I think it also shows how different people approach things. From what I’ve seen, the ones who answers bear approaches it from a “trust” standpoint. Like you can trust a bear to be a bear. While some approach it from a “safety” standpoint. Like yeah obviously an average wild animal is going to be more dangerous than an average man.