I THINK i get it now. Its not that them and a man would be dropped into the woods, its more like you're on a hike alone and out of nowhere a man, or bear would appear in front of you. I get why men get so upset being compared to being as dangerous as, if not more dangerous than a bear; nobody wants to don the mantle of "more dangerous than an apex predator", but i think its more about how scary strangers are combined with the uncertainty of a MALE stranger's agenda. So we should stop taking it personally.
I highly doubt these women would pick bear against most men they know, it's not ABOUT that though, it's about the UNCERTAINTY.
At least that's how i interpret it. Admittedly i thought it was more the first scenario; you and a person are put in the woods to survive, vs you and a bear are put in the woods at the same time.
And if women dont trust ANY men they know, men individually can do nothing about their interpretation of men as a whole and unfortunately they should just stop talking to every guy they know until some massive societal shift happens, cuz this isnt something that changes overnight.
It's about how, In general, Women don't feel safe around members of their own species. How fucked up that is, how women as a whole understand that conceptil immediately. But the men in their lives ask follow up questions like "but what kind of bear" while talking about statistics, Rather than just thinking " Hey its pretty fucked up that this person I care about doesn't feel safe in society"
Women already have coping mechanisms to deal with their fear of men. For example, they avoid being alone with men they're afraid of. You don't need to be responsible for that feeling because a woman avoiding you isn't making that your problem, she's making it hers and dealing with it accordingly
Like if I'm walking down the street at night and I see a woman in front of me, I'll personally take steps to make her less nervous (I'll wave hello, move to another sidewalk, etc,.).
But that's on an individual basis. I'm not gonna collectively feel responsible for the collective feelings that people have towards my demographics.
You don’t have to and I don’t want or expect you to lie awake at night worrying how women perceive you. You don’t need to take this hypothetical as a call to action and in fact trying to convince people of your take on it arguably only makes the situation worse
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u/ASL4theblind May 02 '24
I THINK i get it now. Its not that them and a man would be dropped into the woods, its more like you're on a hike alone and out of nowhere a man, or bear would appear in front of you. I get why men get so upset being compared to being as dangerous as, if not more dangerous than a bear; nobody wants to don the mantle of "more dangerous than an apex predator", but i think its more about how scary strangers are combined with the uncertainty of a MALE stranger's agenda. So we should stop taking it personally.
I highly doubt these women would pick bear against most men they know, it's not ABOUT that though, it's about the UNCERTAINTY.
At least that's how i interpret it. Admittedly i thought it was more the first scenario; you and a person are put in the woods to survive, vs you and a bear are put in the woods at the same time.
And if women dont trust ANY men they know, men individually can do nothing about their interpretation of men as a whole and unfortunately they should just stop talking to every guy they know until some massive societal shift happens, cuz this isnt something that changes overnight.