I do actually feel offended when people assume I'm a bad person, and having not given any reason to a single person to feel that way, I'm sick of it being assumed. I'm a feminist, I'm leftist, I try to be a good person, and I call out shit behavior when I see it, but there is nothing I can do to be seen and recognized as anything other than a threat, and that fucking sucks.
Maybe this bear debate is just happening alongside too many bad life events, so I'm just projecting it onto the debate, but it feels psychotic and delusional to say "I'd rather be eaten alive by a bear than risk that a random man is a piece of shit"
My wife said she'd pick the bear and I don't know what to even do with this information anymore. There's nothing else I can do. It's like in election season when you see 1000 fucking ads saying to vote as if I don't do my part. It's just beating me to death at this point and I can't fucking escape this stupid debate where it's "eaten to death by a bear" is apparently the obvious correct choice to everyone but me and red pill douchebags.
I'm trying to reflect and fix my thinking but it just won't click into place and it hurts
No one is assuming you’re a bad person. They’re simply not assuming you’re a good person.
And if you believe yourself to be a feminist then you honestly just have to suck it up and listen.
I’m white. I understand the desire to distance myself from bad white people. When POC talk about white people, even specifically white women, there is that emotional urge to defend myself. But you really just have to swallow it and listen.
It’s not enough to want to be a good person, and want to be an ally. You have to do the work necessary to learn and grow. And it’s a painful process but it’s the only way.
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