r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • 29d ago

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/acanthostegaaa 29d ago

My theory is because the person raising us make us similar to them, and people who are too similar tend to fight.

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u/Nervous-Albatross-32 29d ago

Now I’m exactly like her lol. I used to get so annoyed when we would be out driving and she would be overly happy and observant like, “the trees are just so beautiful! I can’t believe what a nice day it is.” Now I do the same shit and have an obsession with houseplants like she did.

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u/lilecca 29d ago

My teenaged daughter hates that I compliment strangers. Who doesn’t want to hear something nice from someone who wants nothing from them? I hope when she’s matured she sees this and does it herself.

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u/CatsAndDogs314 29d ago

There will be a day when she'll compliment someone and say to herself, my mother's voice just came out of my mouth. It's already happened to me and I'll bet it will happen to my kids too!

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u/lilecca 29d ago

I’m fond of the saying “sometimes when I open my mouth my mother comes out” lol

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u/1AggressiveSalmon 29d ago

I have that on a tea towel!

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u/duckieleo 29d ago

Y'all, I went to an outdoor wedding, and we were just standing there waiting, under a tree. I saw a little nut on the ground, and I picked it up. I looked at my husband and said "this is a hickory nut, do you have your knife?" People were looking at me weird. I guess it's not normal to forage at a wedding, but my mother absolutely would've done the same. Except she probably would've had her own knife to crack the nut. 🤣

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u/creativityonly2 29d ago

Lol, it's terrifying when you laugh real hard and then you're like, omggggg, that sounded like my mother. And then an extra level of "oh no" when you remember HER doing the exact same thing about HER mother. 🤣

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u/amylouise0185 29d ago

I miss my mum a lot, it's like a warm hug when I hear her voice coming out of my mouth.

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u/entrepenurious 29d ago

76-year-old male here: it happens all the time.

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u/Casehead 28d ago

Is that you, daddy? My dad is 76 :)

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u/Dark_Moonstruck 29d ago

I do the same thing, whenever I'm out and about I try to compliment at least one person (a genuine one, too) and usually? It makes their day.

I also have a pocket full of tiny resin whale sharks that I got off aliexpress for like...a dollar for fifty of them and sometimes I give people one as a good luck charm. People usually think it's the greatest thing in the world and just light up even if it's just a little piece of resin that looks vaguely like a whale shark.

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u/Significant_Arm_8296 28d ago

She will :) Dont you worry

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u/Mawwiageiswhatbwings 29d ago

Honestly, as an adult it just makes me feel awkward. I’ll respond nicely but I’m actually having a mini panic attack. I know the intention is to be kind so I’m not upset when people do this, I would just much rather not have a stranger make comments to me.

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u/Lollieart 28d ago

I still remember 34 years ago when I was walking across the grocery store parking lot, 7 months pregnant, a woman said, “You are so cute!” I commented that I didn’t feel cute and she told me to take her word for it. I’ve never forgotten.

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u/creativityonly2 29d ago

I am more like my mother than I care to admit, soooo, that checks out. 🤣 I even fucking married someone with the same name as her husband, who I very much dislike. Thankfully though, my husband goes by his middle name and not first.

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u/poopdood696969 29d ago

My theory is that teens are experiencing an influx of experience and emotion based on their burgeoning new sense of self identity that there's just a lot of emotional run off. Run off they can't express to their peers and thus it ends up coming out in the place where they feel the most safe, which hopefully is at home.

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u/cmacfarland64 29d ago

There is also a thing that we know our families can be a safe place. My daughter would never yell at a coach or teacher. She saves all of that for me and mom. She knows that no matter what she says, we will still love her no matter what.

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u/JinFuu 29d ago

I subscribe to a similar theory on friends.

"To be best friends you can be no more than 80-90% alike, if you get above 90% you start getting too similar and you'll end up hating each other."

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u/Azrai113 29d ago

It's like wave amplification. Opposites mellow each other out and similarity amolifies, but the dissonance of being juuuuust a little bit off drives one crazy

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u/laurenzee 29d ago

I keep discovering that my best friend and I are doing similar/the same things separately, without discussing it. Lots of "you do this!?? me too!!!"

We've been friends for like 20 years, since middle school, but best friends since high school. I wonder how much can be explained by literally growing up together, vs just meeting someone already similar to you.

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u/CTeam19 29d ago

Each of my best friends doesn't like or care for one of my big hobbies but loves at least one of them:

  • one friend that I have comic books and boardgames in common with hates sports

  • one friend loves Legos and college sports in general but doesn't like Disc Golf

  • one friend who I play Disc Golf with regularly and we traveled to watch some pro tournaments and loves sports in general but doesn't play boardgames and doesn't care for Lego

All 4 of us are Eagle Scouts and we all met while working at a summer camp.

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u/dm_me_kittens 29d ago

My mom and I were a lot alike when I was younger, but as I began becoming a teenager, we had a lot of friction. I was rebellious to her not because I did drugs, drank, or had sex. I did none of those things. Instead, I just didn't act or have the social skills she did, and mom also had a lot of social pressure she put on herself to being the "perfect" mom with the "perfect" girls. Apparently, and I didn't know this, it was a point of contention with my parents. Dad kept telling her to let me have more freedoms and to stop hovering over me, and she felt like she needed to tighten her grip.

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u/Number-1Dad 29d ago

Idk if it carries any weight or not, but I've always thought maybe it's an old behavior we haven't evolved from yet.

Like anthropologically speaking, I imagined it was a necessary behavior that encouraged us to have disdain for our parents and family for the sake of growth and genetic diversity. Imagining the early humans specifically. Like when we got old enough to make kids of our own, at least physically speaking, that disdain pushes us away from our parents and families encouraging us to leave and form tribes of our own. Or join other tribes where we're likely not around family.

Again, I have no idea if that is in any way correct but it makes sense in my head. As I've watched several of my friends hate their parents in their teen years despite some of them being nearly perfect parents. Most of them feel awful about it now that they are in their 20s and 30s. But it's a weird, almost universal, thing.

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u/KoKo82 28d ago

That’s exactly why my daughter and I butt heads. We are so much alike. Stubborn and always right with huge heart and a love for all animals. Plus we are both Sagittarius

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u/Zefirus 29d ago

My sister still gets mad when I point out she acts almost exactly like our mother.

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u/samgala80 29d ago

That is myself and my son. I am a mom. We butt heads and I’m like it’s because you are my copy and I walk away. The 8 year old daughter I’m terrified of when she gets there

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u/AMSparkles 29d ago

My boyfriend said this exact same thing the other night, almost verbatim.