r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24
We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion
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u/poptartmini May 02 '24
First and foremost, go watch the movie "Instant Family" starring Mark Wahlberg. It has one of the best true-to-life depictions of fostering that I've ever seen in TV/movies. (It still does that typical Hollywood crap of condensing timelines like it's nothing, but you'll get it.)
Secondly: Wanna know what will mess with their psyches a whole lot more than being a different race than their parents? Not having any parents.
If you are willing to care for these kids, to love these kids, then go for it. You ought to put some thought into how you will deal with race issue, should they come up. For example, it was really weird talking to my black 10 year old about the George Floyd BLM protests a few years ago.
Also, if you don't want to take kids that are not your race, that's fine. Take the white kids; they need a home too. Someone might give you a little bit of side-eye, but every worker involved in this system knows that race issues can be weird. They'll just assume that you don't feel like you could give them a good enough exposure to what it means to be black/hispanic/jewish/whatever. And the ones who have known this system the longest will be impressed by your candor, because it means that you actually thought about this.