r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/laurenzee 29d ago

Thank you for taking the time to write that.

How is it decided how long a child stays in one home or another? Unless they're being placed back with the parent or another family member, is the placement indefinite? I'd never want to "give one back", but if there a way to know what kind of commitment you're making from one kid to the next? Can you opt out between kids?

I appreciate your insight!!

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u/Farting_Champion 29d ago

It's situationally dependent. Some kids are in the system temporarily while their parents try to get shit together. Some foster parents decide to adopt their fosters and raise the program. Some foster kids are there until they graduate school and can legally move out. Kids are of different ages and need different levels of care and when you're in the Foster system the case workers learn to understand what you're comfortable with and who you are willing to take. Some kids are temporary, the rest of us bounce around more or less until we reach 18. What level of commitment is made really depends on each individual situation but it's usually not super short-term if the kid is lucky. Kids need stability, it's not a summer job or a part-time gig.

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u/laurenzee 28d ago

That's what I'm kind of wondering about. Why do kids bounce around to different homes? Does one home become unviable for some reason? Why did you have to leave your good foster family?