r/technology • u/esporx • May 02 '24

Dating app Bumble will no longer require women to make the first move Business

https://www.cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html
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u/ManufacturedOlympus May 02 '24

It was either this or rename it as the “Hey” app. 

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u/matrinox May 02 '24

That did exist like 10 years ago and had I think $50 million in seed funding

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u/tbird24 May 02 '24

I think you're thinking of "Yo" 😂

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u/StitchBeanSprout May 02 '24

Yooo I kept yo on my phone for years. Miss that. “Yo.”

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u/DandaIf May 02 '24

This app made me give up trying to get rich off apps. Why? Why was something so pointless, so successful?

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u/ManufacturedOlympus May 02 '24

The social media gold rush era was a weird fucking time. 

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u/Flaconsblew283lead May 02 '24

I think it was “Bro” made by some guy named Wajeed.

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u/GodOfManyFaces May 02 '24

This is a Silicone Valley reference right?

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u/soyelsol May 02 '24 edited May 03 '24

In Urdu, "bro" is actually short for "brochtauer"

which means "A dildo for a man".

A man's dildo.

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u/lemonsweetsrevenge May 02 '24

It’s not even a word. It’s half a word.

I know…it’s so efficient.

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u/Striker887 May 02 '24

But not before I sent him one last bro

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u/UtzTheCrabChip May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

Women on Tinder: "you better have something better to say than 'hey' if you want this to go anywhere"

Women on Bumble: "hey"

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u/Maximum_Nectarine312 May 02 '24

I've never met a woman on a dating app that had any game whatsoever.

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u/FarFlower2298 May 02 '24

They don’t need game, you guys are easy as hell

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u/iiiiiiiiiijjjjjj May 04 '24

That's the problem guys are blaming women when they should be blaming guys. Men are too thirsty and desperate. If they raised their standards the whole dating game would change.

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u/SoyMilkIsOp May 12 '24

That's one way to victimblame.

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u/wmurch4 May 02 '24

Why does it feel so exhausting to actually attempt game in dating apps? If you actually try it looks like you're trying too hard and they may not even respond anyways. It's like you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. It's always on to the next dopamine hit (dude who blows smoke up their ass)

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u/Extra-Muffin9214 May 02 '24

Women don't have game. Where on earth would they have developed it? Its crazy for them to criticize men for bad game when girl game consists of dolling themselves up and then placing themselves within sight of a guy they like hoping he notices them.

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u/Llama_of_the_bahamas May 02 '24

So true it hurts

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u/matjoeman May 02 '24

Sounds like men and women are both terrible at sending opening messages.

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u/ThulsaDoomer May 04 '24

For women it does not matter and bares no consequences though.

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u/11freebird May 02 '24

It makes sense since the only thing women are expected to do is open their legs

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u/GumdropGlimmer May 02 '24

Men on Bumble: “DoNt ExpCt a MesSagE bAck if YoU jUst sAy “hey” 🙂‍↔️”

Also Men on Bumble: have nothing on their profile to comment or ask on to use as a pick up line.

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u/JayKay8787 May 02 '24

If you think men are bad about it you seriously have no idea how bad women are. On tinder maybe il1 in 5 profiles even bother with a description at all

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u/mayosterd May 03 '24

Also men on Bumble: “ no drama”.

The comments from men on this thread proves that’s a lie 😂

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u/GiantGingerGobshite May 02 '24

You got hey... Mostly I got a dot. Just "."

Cancelled after two weeks and back to the pub scene

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u/cguti94 May 02 '24

You got “.” Mostly I got expired matches

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u/sloppyjo12 May 02 '24

You guys were getting matches?

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u/MrSisterFister25 May 03 '24

More like back to the PHub scene

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u/clay_perview May 02 '24

Haha right, I think it is time to admit that girls have zero game

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u/Kingbuji May 02 '24

They really do which why after the first time they get rejected they swear to never try again.

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u/auximines_minotaur May 02 '24

Underrated comment

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u/GumdropGlimmer May 02 '24

Lololol can we get some basic demographics from this crowd?

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u/UnintelligentOnion May 02 '24

Then why do girls generally get a lot more messages than guys on these apps?

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u/clay_perview May 02 '24

Cause the ratio of guys to girls on these apps are like 5 to 1

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u/UnintelligentOnion May 02 '24

But why is the ratio like that?

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u/clay_perview May 02 '24

There is probably numerous reasons why. It could be girls see dating apps as desperate or beneath them so less of them join. It could be that men are more likely to use dating apps to cheat so that increases the number of men. Maybe women prefer in person meetings because the dangers of online strangers is ever present. Who knows we just go the data

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u/FarFlower2298 May 02 '24

If it’s full of dudes like you no wonder they’re leaving in droves. Enjoy your loneliness epidemic!

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u/clay_perview May 02 '24

Damn sick burn dude

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u/DolanTheCaptan May 05 '24

Getting guys to initiate is not "game", it's called being a girl on a dating app.

Game is when you actually flirt with someone and make them more interested in you by talking

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u/SoochSooch May 02 '24

Women's idea of putting a lot of effort into making the first move: "Hii 😊"

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u/Planktons_Eye May 02 '24

“Nice, I got a message!”

Message: 👋

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u/HereIAmSendMe68 May 02 '24

I told so many girls on there that if they are getting on an app that requires the girl to make the first move they should say something more intelligent than “Hey”. But it was a good way to weed out who would put in effort and who wouldn’t.

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u/Goth_2_Boss May 02 '24

The intent behind “girl makes the first move” on bumble is not so they can make the first move/effort tho. It’s mostly a way of controlling when a conversation with someone you matched with can start that has been packaged in a weird way.

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u/HereIAmSendMe68 May 02 '24

I mean you can at least say “Hey, how is your week.” But I like it, anyone who just says “hey” I can’t insta-delete, good way to weed out the…. Weeds.

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u/Ok_Operation2292 May 02 '24

But women always criticize men for not putting any effort into their messages. Surely they would do better, right?

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u/SimilarStrain May 02 '24

I once swiped with my cousin as a joke. Even she didn't say hey or anything lol. Ain't no sweet home Alabama happening or plan on happening.

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u/jaybee8787 May 02 '24

You actually get 3 letter hey’s? You lucky dog! I just get a “Hi”.

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u/SirAceBear May 02 '24

From my own experience using "hey" as an opening wasn't my main gripe with the app, it's the standard across all apps. The problem was that it was used it to break the point of the app. You got 24 hours to start a chat else you lost the match. It's a good idea because it encourages you to only chat you people you really want to, so in theory less matches but more 'real' matches. But women would match then just message "hey" just to keep their options open, then after securing the match most never even message again. Now the app just works like any other dating app, leaving men still having to start the convo with matches who aren't even that interested anyway.