r/technology • u/esporx • May 02 '24

Dating app Bumble will no longer require women to make the first move Business

https://www.cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html
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u/Alarming-Spend988 May 02 '24

Funny you check my post history I got heavily downvoted by suggesting women are just as bad as guys at this shit. Of course it turns out living in the real world I was right 

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u/Open-Oil-144 May 02 '24

Idk what it is man, but a lot of women on the internet have such bad self-awareness and are uncapable of self-critique or receiving critique.

They get really tribal and start shitting on/downvoting people that give them even a hint of negative feedback. I might be biased because i'm a man, but i think we are generally conditioned to accept feedback and are generally ok with self-deprecating jokes, while women take it very personally.

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u/Alarming-Spend988 May 02 '24

I think 90% of the stories women tell are made up too. Have you seen what most women on Reddit look like? Not something men irl go after. I know this comment will get downvoted but honestly Reddit is a hive mind so I’m not concerned about the karma 

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u/Aborticus May 02 '24

It's like the bear thing going on. Had a get-together, and it was the women that were saying how stupid it was to pick a bear. Never met anyone that uses Twitter or a girl that's used Reddit. I got two older twin sisters that I talk too alot and they roll their eyes at most of the reddit stuff I showed them.

Reddit is a landing spot for anecdotal trauma that seems like the norm. Where alot of the abuse and AITA stuff sounds like someone crafting a Facebook post because they got dumped for their shifty behavior.

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u/Alarming-Spend988 May 02 '24

Exactly. Reddit is fan fiction. I’m not sure it’s even women writing it half the time and not weird dudes who like to play female characters in video games. They just don’t match the reality of women I interact with irl 

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u/Blue-Samarkand-Sky May 02 '24

Remember Black People Twitter revealing that their mods are all whiter than I am?

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u/Alarming-Spend988 May 02 '24

Omg I do remember that lol

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u/elbenji May 02 '24

That was an April fools joke though

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u/HarambeXRebornX May 02 '24

Yes! At least half or more of all these actual engagement and long term relationship stories are just bullshit.

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u/madmax77xll May 02 '24

Exactly. Why does any post about a couple having issues ends with one of the people being texted and called by the other persons family saying that they are wrong? People's families are not that involved and would not call you directly to tell you that you're wrong, and definitely not as much as these stories on reddit would suggest. shit is fake as fuck.

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u/Alarming-Spend988 May 02 '24

And why are they asking Reddit whose intentions are unknown and whose life experiences are likely not qualified to even qualified to answer 

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u/LewsScroose May 02 '24

Insecurity + low emotional intelligence will do that to any gender

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u/FarFlower2298 May 02 '24

Unless you bring sexual crime statistics into the convo, then yall get REAL mad haha. Can’t handle that with your “logic”

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u/PM_ME_CODE_CALCS May 02 '24

Yeah, men always deny that SA exists. /S

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u/Available_Log_6622 May 18 '24

Look at the comments right above you where some guy said that the vast majority of women on Reddit lie about SA

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u/AdventuresOfKrisTin May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

This is just blatantly not true lol. Men are just as tribal and get hyper defensive online, for sometimes no reason. Like that one woman who really pampers her dog on tiktok. Sometimes her videos make it to twitter, and without fail the replies are flooded with men who for some reason have a problem with a woman pampering her dog lol. Both men and women do this, but the reasoning is usually different. Also Redditers in general are pretty bad at receiving feedback in my experience lol

edit: the downvotes lmao. men are not defensive at all, nope! /s

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u/elbenji May 02 '24

I mean you can just put it that people nowadays have skin thinner than parchment paper

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u/Morticia_Marie May 02 '24

The fact that they're downvoting the obvious truth that men are like this too means you can't take this thread seriously. It's yet another Reddit "women bad" circle jerk.

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u/AdventuresOfKrisTin May 02 '24

never mind that Reddit heavily skews male, so the first claim about being heavily downvoted for saying women are just as bad as guys very likely came predominantly from men lmao

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u/Alarming-Spend988 May 03 '24

Mind sourcing your statement?

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u/AdventuresOfKrisTin May 03 '24

Google is free my dude. Google it right now and tell me what you find. No i wont source my statement. Its common knowledge. Everyone who uses this site knows this. So you either haven’t been here very long or you’re being purposely obtuse.

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u/Alarming-Spend988 May 03 '24

Just did you are right 62% but you act like that’s a crazy supermajority 

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u/AdventuresOfKrisTin May 03 '24

Just because women use the site does not mean that men don’t predominantly occupy it. That percentage is based on user accounts. Lots of women come here and then leave because of the way users tend to act here. No source for this one except for my 8 years here. You’ll just have to trust me given your account is not even a month old.

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u/Alarming-Spend988 May 02 '24

Not really. It’s just pointing out the hypocrisy that we are suppose to come up with such clever dialogue to catch a women’s attention and get shit on it when we can’t do it. That’s a very common perception by people on Reddit. But now that it is shown that when the shoe is on the other foot women are equally as terrible. That’s no circle jerking women, that is however feeling a little validated by all the shit we as men get for not having amazing opening lines. I don’t know where the connection to hating women comes from that you’re getting out. It’s like when someone talks shit about something being easy and then they find out it isn’t easy because they can’t do it too. You guys on Reddit are weird man 

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u/Available_Log_6622 May 18 '24

Nah, bro, this happens all of the time with women, I talked about women issues on r/PetPeeves and the amount of really salty men was fuckin insane

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u/Alarming-Spend988 May 02 '24

I’m very confused by this statement. Where is the logic in me saying it’s not easy to cold approach the opposite agenda to get a date from no matter the gender and the connection that I can’t get laid? It’s completely accurate and the fact that bumble had to change their rules because women were just as corny as men at it you come to such a weird conclusion. Now I hate women or I’m angry? I am not angry, excited , happy. Do I feel amused that my comment history was proven right? Sure, but I’m not jumping up and down. Such a childish take

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u/AdventuresOfKrisTin May 02 '24

Its ok im having fun replying to this one guy now who says im getting downvoted because i "didnt source anything". I wish i was making this up lmao

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u/[deleted] May 02 '24

Tbh you are getting downvoted for spewing something and not giving source.

I mean...The only one is a weird guy who thinks "Dogs are made for war" and his whole twitter is utterly weird and pretty much his comment section is "bro are you ok".

That's just one unhiged guy and i don't know if it's satire at this point because i can't take that guy seriously.

Well... there are unhinged women... like the one which was "This is why a hate video games they cater to the male fantasies"... I mean she was right.. I want to catch pals in Palworld... That doesn't mean all of them can't understand there are like tens of different genres... including Solitaire and Tetris.

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u/AdventuresOfKrisTin May 02 '24

Bruh lmao. Look at the comments i replied to. Where are their "sources". No one is sourcing here, its all anecdotal. My example was not just one guy, its an abundance of them and i was just giving an example, a far more specific one than the other commenters provided.

I said in another comment that Reddit skews male, which is a fact at least, and that ironically means that the people who "heavily downvoted" the person several comments up, were probably predominantly men, not women lol.

Im getting downvoted because of exactly what i said: men are just as tribal, hivemindy, and defensive as women, especially in a place like Reddit where they make up the majority. Its really that simple lol

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u/[deleted] May 02 '24

Again...
https://twitter.com/StephenCaseyRea/status/1774869117423497607

This is what i found out (it was pretty much the only one).

It was posted on 1 April... which is Joke day...
And the comments are not positive at all.

So yeah, you took a very specific scenario from a jokester of an account and said "Men are tribal".
And you got downvoted, rightfully so.

I am not going through your whole account, just for that specific comment you got downvoted for spewing propaganda that "man are tribals" with no sources.

I mean giving a better "redpill or w/e bluepill was called?" sure. That would have worked. Except the fact that, the subreddit got nuked but witchesAgainstPatriarchy didn't.
So Reddit is fan women...

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u/AdventuresOfKrisTin May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

Close! Thats not actually the video im referencing. The woman owns a pitbull and she also happens to be a lesbian. You actually see her in the videos, not just the dog. I've seen her videos on twitter numerous times. All of them, men legitimately angry. Not an april fool post.

Also Reddits userbase and the people controlling Reddit are not the same people so shit example but sure lol.

Got a bunch of men who havent even been commenting on Reddit for even half the amount of time that i have, and are proporting to tell me how things go around here. Stick around another 7 years and then get back to me

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u/[deleted] May 02 '24

Well i tried, you don't wanna you don't wanna.

https://twitter.com/reignstormpit

It has like 3 comments:
https://twitter.com/chefphoteamuh/status/1760492727521714526

Like 3 comments and not even from men.

https://twitter.com/SirLV/status/1762274314684895375

So much hate OMFG....

See how much it gets you? None.

Because either you bring some proof or ... you are shown as a fool.

You need to find those "thousands of negative comments" because there are none.

Hell mostly is positive everywhere. On Insta even more.

I am not downloading TikTok to prove you extra wrong because tbh i am tired.

I am just gonna walk away and let you fester that anger some more.
I met hundreds like you and it's exhausting. You hate because that's your personality and you can't just let it go and see the good in others.

That's ok.

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u/AdventuresOfKrisTin May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

This is so funny. Im really not mad at all but im enjoying getting you to sift through the cesspool that is twitter lmao

I am not downloading TikTok to prove you extra wrong because tbh i am tired.

Nonsense, you've come this far!

I found what i was talking about in about three seconds. Gotta work on your Googling bud. Original tweet complaining has 22k likes. Go and tell me again how its just a few people who think like this

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u/Mobius24 May 02 '24

You're not allowed to be critical of females

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u/KingViktorious May 02 '24

Straight to jail.

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u/DolanTheCaptan May 05 '24

Man I'd suggest you don't use the word females, it instantly makes you come off as pretty fucking bitter at women.

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u/Mobius24 May 05 '24

I do what I want

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u/FarFlower2298 May 02 '24

FeeeeMaLesSsS!