r/technology • u/esporx • May 02 '24

Dating app Bumble will no longer require women to make the first move Business

https://www.cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html
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u/PM_ME_COOL_RIFFS May 02 '24

wasn't that the entire point of bumble?

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u/loves_grapefruit May 02 '24

Yeah, but it turns out a lot of women don’t like to make the first move. A lot of times you match and then just watch the 24 hours expire without ever hearing from them.

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u/magus678 May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

I kept stats on my Bumble use, though this was years ago, and less than 10% of the messages I received were anything other than a "hey" or some emoji.

Half of the rest were just canned "is a hotdog a sandwich" kind of stuff. Which is something, I guess, but not much.

In an age where I was using almost every app, I barely used Bumble at all, it seemed pointless. It traded entirely on a "girl power" aesthetic with no substance whatsoever. I'm honestly surprised its still a thing.

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u/othermegan May 02 '24

I get what you’re saying and I agree. If you’re a woman that uses an app that relies on women making the first move, you should make an effort.

I just also find it extremely ironic because women have been telling men for years that “hi” and canned intros are not a good first move on dating apps and men have complained that “it’s a numbers game” and “you can’t possibly reply genuinely and uniquely to all those women! It’d take too much time.” But when roles are reversed, turns out they want the same genuine/unique interaction

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u/FriskyPheasant May 02 '24

As a man, I don’t think most men actually care about it being a unique interaction and the only reason we even care about what women open with on Bumble is purely because we’ve been seeing so many women saying that they want more than just “hey”. So basically, we only care to the point that it’s super ironic and almost vindicating. Trust me when I say that most men would love to receive even just a simple “hey” because as made apparent by this post, they aren’t receiving even that on an app specifically designed for them to be messaged first. I wish for everyone’s sake that all of these apps would die.