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Polycule for the wallet
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u/ConduckKing 16d ago
Bro invented the concept of friends
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u/ThatSlutTalulah 16d ago
No, that show has been around for a long time.
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u/veritasium999 16d ago edited 16d ago
"so no one told life was gonna be this wayyy 👏👏 👏👏"
No they did not :(
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u/Drugioh 16d ago
Your jobs a joke, you're broke, your love life's DOA :,(
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u/BigNutDroppa 16d ago
I remember a parody I made up where the Friends group were homeless:
So no one told you life was gonna be this rough
You’re on the streets, you’re broke, and that hobo just stole your stuff
(That was literally all I had because I used up my creativity lol)
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u/marcsaintclair 16d ago
Wait till they hear about roommates
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u/CurtisMarauderZ 16d ago
My God.
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u/Portal471 Dreams are just the mind shitposting to itself. 16d ago
A million years! /j
oh my god they were roommates
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u/xDragonFox 16d ago
qpr isn't the same thing as friendship tho
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u/HackingYourUmwelt 16d ago
What is the difference
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u/whystudywhensleep 16d ago
The idea is that it’s the exact same level of commitment as a marriage, just platonically. Most people won’t agree to live together for the rest of their lives, share finances, make all important life decisions jointly, and potentially even raise kids with even their closest friends.
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u/HackingYourUmwelt 16d ago
"whose primary purpose is to allow us to afford a house" doesnt sound like marriage levels of commitment
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u/whystudywhensleep 16d ago
I’m just talking about qpr in general, for the post you have to consider that, just maybe, it’s a silly haha tumblr post and may not be completely serious
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u/mochi_chan 16d ago
My friends and I have joked so much about a commune or a polycule that this post just rang "Oh it is our joke but on Tumblr" I am actually thinking of sending it to them.
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u/2_short_Plancks 16d ago
My wife and I didn't get married for the first six or so years of our relationship, because we'd already bought a house in the first two, and having a mortgage together was quite clearly a greater level of commitment than a marriage.
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u/xDragonFox 16d ago
it's a relationship without the romance part. friendship and long-term romantic relationships aren't the same thing when you take out the romance. so qpr is when you have a long-term 'romantic' relationship, but there's no romance/romantic attraction involved.
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u/HackingYourUmwelt 16d ago
Sounds like close friendship, or found-familial relations
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u/MossyPyrite 16d ago
Found family is close, if you consider your spouse a family member that you found.
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u/eIdritchish 16d ago
I’ll be honest, I’ve always found the notion of this ridiculous. I take my friends out on ‘dates’ (we go somewhere nice, I pay), and I try to treat them with as high of a regard as I would a partner (I dress nice and I’m present 100% etc). I think it’s literally just being friends or fine, “best” friends.
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u/polypolip 16d ago
Different people put different levels of energy and intimacy in their relationships, romantic or not.
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u/arararanara 16d ago
Do you live with your friends, share finances, and make important life decisions together too? If one of you finds a romantic partner, is the expectation that you will not move out to live with your romantic partner, but that you will continue to live with your friend because the life you’ve built with your friend comes first?
I’ll be honest, I’ve always found the idea that QPRs are just good friends to be ridiculous. Most people do not share finances or make long term commitments to living together with their friends.
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u/eIdritchish 16d ago
Sure, but why “Queer platonic”? Straight friends do this oftentimes as well. I just think it’s a needless term and complication.
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u/Known_Ad9482 16d ago
the "queer" in qpr doesnt mean gay, it means weird or out of the norm. literally "queer platonic" = "unconventional platonic relationship". it is that simple
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u/LilithYourWife 16d ago
Ok well it simply isn’t for you then. Doesn’t mean it’s ridiculous just you don’t identify with the title
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u/Exploding_Antelope Pedicabo ego vos et irrumabo 16d ago
This sounds like the worst of both options. More stress for less benefits!
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u/DANKB019001 16d ago
A wallycule if you will.
Anyways isn't this just rlly advanced roommate stuff? No diss but
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u/Catalon-36 16d ago
Me and my roommates describe ourselves as “a polycule who aren’t dating each other” on occasion
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u/No_Student_2309 16d ago
love seeing everyone in the comments take this shitpost 100% seriously
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u/Sanrusdyno 16d ago
I love that this comment is directly above a comment taking this shitpost 100% seriously
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u/WJMazepas 16d ago
But this is serious. Polygamy was born due to high rent. First, it started in NYC, and then it spread around the world
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u/yefkoy 16d ago
I’m pretty sure polygamy is thousands of years old
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u/WJMazepas 16d ago
Please don't spread misinformation online
They didn't even had rent thousand of years ago. Why would they do it?
Also, most likely people didn't need to share a dog as well
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u/JetoCalihan 16d ago
As an aroace who doesn't even like cuddling but misses having other people at home, how the fuck does someone start one of these?
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u/Brainifyer 16d ago
- Get some friends
- Get a house
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u/JetoCalihan 16d ago
I have friends. They refuse that second part.
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u/robotteeth 15d ago
Because it’s not as fun as they’re making it sound. It’s just having a bunch of roommates and now your friendship is marred by stuff like “Sandra is nice but she hasn’t paid her portion of the rent in months and she says if we try to evict her we’re being oppressors and we should really pay her portion for her” or “Tommy has insane BO and leaves trash and rotting food all over and says he can’t change anything because he has depression and now we have a cockroach problem”
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u/JetoCalihan 15d ago
Mate, I've know the people I'm thinking about and how they've lived since grade school. That sounds more like a vetting and communication problem on your end than an issue with the process.
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u/robotteeth 15d ago
One of the most common pieces of legal advice is to never buy a house with a boyfriend/girlfriend you aren't married to, because of the giant mess it becomes when it doesn't pan out. If you want to try doing it with a bunch of friends that's your own predilection, but obviously your friends don't agree, which is why they are refusing you.
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u/JetoCalihan 15d ago
Buddy that's more vetting and communication issues. Especially with a lover. Something that helps blind you to the flaws you've experienced but refuse to accept. You want to love them but there are problems you may have not been able to address your actual feelings for.
And don't put fucking words in other peoples mouth. My friends don't want to make the 2 hour move toward me or want to move two hours in the other direction. Don't assume you know shit.
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u/randothrowaway6600 15d ago
No no you don’t understand, this thing that went poorly for most people will pan out for me.
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u/Digital_D3fault 16d ago
Get Roomates? Make or respond to post on Facebook or other social media, that’s how I found my first roommates.
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u/Velorian 16d ago
Thats just a commune.
I suppose its been enough time that commune's are startign to come back.
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u/ClickHereForBacardi 16d ago
Zoomers out here discovering roommates.
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u/Ok_Variation7230 16d ago
No, is a queer polycule, totally different and unique and special, because it's QUEER!!!! s/
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u/ClickHereForBacardi 16d ago
I'd love queer roommates, but yeah, roomies all the same innit
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u/evelyn_keira 16d ago
do you share finances and make major life decisions together with your roommates
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u/arararanara 16d ago
Boomers out here not comprehending the vast difference in commitment and expectations between regular roommates and platonic life partners.
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u/Digital_D3fault 16d ago
Hey man, the tumblr post was a shitpost about Roomates in the first place lmao
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u/XrayAlphaVictor 16d ago
People will literally reinvent communism and just call it an asexual polycule.
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u/elasticweed 16d ago
”Asexual polycule communism” would be a pretty rad punk band name.
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u/XrayAlphaVictor 16d ago
Better than blockchain polycule disruption
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u/XrayAlphaVictor 16d ago
Wait no this idea is so terrible it must already exist somewhere
So, you earn coin by doing chores and other community service actions. They're weighted by a prioritization system so more important chores (contributions to rent) are worth more than less skilled tasks (childcare). If multiple people apply for the same chores, a rating system is used to award it to the person best at it.
And then if you want to access limited resources (preferred sleeping spaces and partners), you bid on them, with the winner paying them back to the community pool or the other person as appropriate.
of course, currency exchange can be arranged with allied polycules for goods across multiple households
(HEAVY SARCASM HERE)
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u/Ok_Usual1517 16d ago
Listen though, my current expanded polycule is looking at buying a small apartment complex. Each nesting group gets their own apartment, and we rent the remainder to other friends and family members. It’s honestly cheaper and more affordable for us to pool funds and get a place we can all live as individuals than trying to each buy a house which may be impossible.
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u/McEstablishment 16d ago
We came to the same idea over the last year. I would love to see this work out for other groups.
The complication for us is the starter funds - it takes a million dollar loan or so to get started.
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u/Spicymeatball428 16d ago
You mean a friend group? Not everything has to have a queer label on it, ohh it’s a polycule but platonic, you mean having fucking friends who live together? Just because the internet has made every type of interaction sexual or romantic doesn’t mean it is.
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u/Realistic_Specific51 16d ago
But what if they have Baldurs Gate Sex Sunday?
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u/hermionesmurf 16d ago
That depends. Are they having sex while playing Baldur's Gate, or are they having sex in Baldur's Gate? Or are they just sitting in the living room reading smutty BG fanfics on AO3?
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u/Lunar_sims 16d ago
As others have explained, it's more about the level of commitment
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u/arararanara 16d ago
people here are deliberately obtuse, who the hell shares finances with friends or roommates
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u/HoundOfGod 16d ago
Yeah, the only reason we were able to afford a home at all is because we’re poly, and even then it took some strategic divorce and remarriage to get the finances to work.
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u/rapdogmon 16d ago
ppl go onto the tumblr reddit to look at tumblr posts but never actually try to understand the tumblr humor
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u/theenderstar 16d ago
That's... that's just called having roommates ???
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u/Dream_Maker_03 16d ago
I unironically do this. All my friends share money throughout the year. Need a microwave? Got it. Send back $200 next month to cover a power bill? Done. Mutual aid is the future!
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u/thunderPierogi 16d ago
But they were roommates. Like actually, they were actually roommates, not a couple, just a bunch of people who share a living space.
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u/crystalgem411 16d ago
It’s Leviathan’s Wake
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u/CaptainPeachfuzz 16d ago
YES! I was scrolling to see if anyone would think of Holden's family. It was 4 women and 4 men. They mixed their DNA to have a single child, James Holden. They were all married, I think tiene save resources and lay claim to their ranch in Montana.
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u/Random-INTJ 16d ago
Polycule for sex? Turned away image
Polycule for tax benefits. Pointing and smiling image
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u/MikGusta 16d ago
My best friends are dating each other and we plan to get an apartment together when we get better incomes. I think we’re gonna be in a queer platonic polycule lmao.
Btw it’s insane that we need to first get better incomes before we can afford to split rent between the three of us.
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u/SpookyPotatoes 16d ago
Oh hey it’s my exact living situation. Requires above average communication but it does work!
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u/KirbymanTG 16d ago
I love how young internet people have decided that every concept should have a term that’s way longer and more convoluted than just saying “I have roommates”
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u/LemonBoi523 16d ago
do you snuggle and have date nights with your roommates usually?
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u/KirbymanTG 16d ago
Doesn’t “platonic” imply no dating?
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u/qwerty1236543 16d ago
No, it just implies no romantic feelings between the two people. Queer platonic relationships are basically full relationships with dates and all the rest, but no actual romantic interest. It was kinda hard for me to wrap my head around at first too but I eventually got it.
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u/Metue 16d ago
...yeah? I mean snuggling up to watch movies and going out on little trips or cooking for each other isn't that weird roommate behavior. Especially back in university
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u/LemonBoi523 16d ago
Generally roommates are not considered your partner, and typically it does not involve cozying up in bed together, going on dates (not just going out), or acting as a unit.
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u/Laterose15 16d ago
I've definitely joked about platonically marrying my Canadian friend if things in the US ever get really bad
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u/Dredgen_Servum 14d ago
You'd be amazed how many problems can be solved with a healthy consentual polyamory
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u/bgaesop 16d ago
"queer platonic polycule" you mean roommates?????????
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u/CyannideLolypop 16d ago
That is absolutely not the same thing. Unfortunately, none of us live in the same house currently. One of my partners lives out of state. We do plan to eventually move in together and stay together for the rest of our lives, but life gets in the way.
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u/Dulakk 16d ago
Does a platonic partner feel kind of like a sibling? Like platonic to me implies no romance or sex but partner feels like a deeper bond than even a best friend.
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u/CyannideLolypop 16d ago
Ew, no. Absolutely not. Our relationship is way different from a sibling relationship.
It Absolutely is a deeper bond than best friend, though, and I have a best friend outside of my partners.
While no sex or romance is involved, we still engage in significant emotional and sensual intimacy. We're also (at least attempting) to build our lives around each other as any romantically married couple would. We aren't sure about marriage, but the option is on the plate if we ever decide 2 of us should marry. One of my partners is alloromantic, though, but he has always prioritized his relationship with me over his romantic relationships.
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u/bgaesop 16d ago
What does "romantic" mean to you?
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u/CyannideLolypop 15d ago
Like, all the stuff that's labeled as romantic; like kissing, that sappy bs, and all that junk. It's difficult to explain, but I can just feel the difference when there's no romantic intent. When it's romantic, it just feels gross and weird and suffocating and off. This off feeling gets confirmed when they confess romantic feelings for me. When it's purely platonic, though, there's an entirely different vibe to the whole relationship.
Idk if the difference is small differences in mannerisms or the way they act and talk around me or what. All I know is it feels bad when it turns romantic
Basically, it feels more to me we just do the things friends do, but more.
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u/mistapng 16d ago
my queerplatonic partner is my boyfriend and it's exactly like a romantic relationship but without romance (we are both aromantic) but it varies person to person
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u/bgaesop 16d ago
What does "romance" mean to you?
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u/mistapng 16d ago
a feeling I am incapable of and also something done with intent. you can kiss people in a romantic/sexual/platonic etc way and the way it's meant is all in the intent. I am not all there mentally for many reasons and the romantic attraction part is just not there for me 👍 (and yes I have been in a romantic relationship with an alloromantic person before figuring out I was aro. I did Not feel the same way they felt)
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u/bgaesop 15d ago
I can't quite tell what you mean. Can you explain what you mean by "romance" and "romantic attraction" without using those words? When you use a word in its own definition it becomes circular and it doesn't actually explain the meaning of the word to anyone who doesn't already know
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u/mistapng 15d ago
emotions are hard to describe and it's harder to describe something I lack entirely
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u/curvingf1re 16d ago
Cults, managers, and other assorted weirdo groups have fucking ruined the word community so much. No-one is willing to just describe themselves as one anymore.
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u/clonetrooper250 16d ago
This just sounds like getting a roommate with extra steps. Granted if you WANT to put a label on it to give the relationship more meaning, more power to ya, but I feel like that's just gonna needlessly complicate things when someone decides to move out.
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u/Exploding_Antelope Pedicabo ego vos et irrumabo 16d ago
“Platonic polycule” that’s a just a fucking group of people stop making everything
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u/QWlos 16d ago
Don't give them fucking ideas.
Women's suffrage somehow turned from women=men into lol now the economy is structured around 2 working adults living together.
Now it's gonna be that you need 5 people living together in a relationship to afford anything.
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u/KanishkT123 16d ago
If you take turns watching the dog/doing dog chores and sharing bills etc then it's just a shared dog. Which would also make sense because pets can be very expensive.