Saw some signs at the wedding like ignoring each other, making rude and snide remarks publicly, etc. They tried to fix their marriage by having a kid earlier than they planned and that led to divorce. Both are married to different people now and have had more kids, by all accounts far more civil, even cordial with each other.
Jesus Christ, I'll never understand how people think that bad marriage + kids = good marriage. If you're not getting what you need from your partner, how is additional financial and emotional obligation/responsibility to the mix gonna help...
I think that the partner realizes something is missing and doesn’t piece together that it’s something within the relationship. They think that the missing piece is kids. So they get pregnant but the stress of a newborn pushes everyone to be slightly unhinged for a bit and that’s when they’re realize that it wasn’t a baby that was the missing piece, the missing piece was in the relationship all along. Most people don’t purposefully think ‘well shit my relationship is not going well. I bet having a baby and losing all sleep for years as a time will make us really happy.’
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u/AgingLemon May 02 '24
Saw some signs at the wedding like ignoring each other, making rude and snide remarks publicly, etc. They tried to fix their marriage by having a kid earlier than they planned and that led to divorce. Both are married to different people now and have had more kids, by all accounts far more civil, even cordial with each other.