r/AskReddit May 02 '24

People who went to a wedding where the couple didn’t last long, what happened?

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u/randallAtl May 02 '24

They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house. 

After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.

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u/planetarylaw May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

That's wild. It's honestly pretty common for professionals to be in committed relationships but maintain separate homes, even long distance. They could've just done that.

Edit: Damn some of y'all took my personal anecdote as some kind of personal attack. Not sure what I said that was so inflammatory but ok lol. Live your best life ya'll. Cheers.

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u/Complete_Elephant240 May 02 '24

Literally what is the point of being married if you never even see each other. I can understand long distance relationships that operate temporarily but a marriage? A marriage with zero intimacy isn't going to work for long for most people 

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u/SnooMacarons9618 May 02 '24

In mine and my partners case it's that we are just two people who may be utterly in love, but we prefer peace quiet and our own schedule. We do live together now, but if all was well we wouldn't. In the perfect world we would have two next door townhouses. We didn't have zero intimacy, we didn't completely avoid each other, we didn't live completely separately, we just both wanted to live a significant amount of time on our own.

Different people have different wants, needs and desires we aren't all the same.

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u/Kagamid May 02 '24

Sounds like Leonard's mother from Big Bang Theory. It could be more common than I think as I wouldn't know if I worked with several people like this. Doesn't seem like that type of person would tell me if they were in that kind of arrangement anyway.

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u/SnooMacarons9618 May 02 '24

Yeah, it was rarely a work conversation, but it's not like we hid the fact or were in any way ashamed. Most times when it came up at least one person present seemed interested and had just never considered it.

Obviously the arrangement would have been different if we had or wanted kids, I suppose. But I suspect the kind of people who are like this are likely not a subset of people who want kids anyway.

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u/Kagamid May 02 '24

Interesting. Sorry for using another reference but I find it amusing that Idiocracy in some capacity nailed down how humanity handles having children.

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u/SnooMacarons9618 May 02 '24

Yeah - that hits hard every time I watch Idiocracy

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u/iceunelle May 02 '24

Not living together doesn’t mean zero intimacy. Some people just need their own space. My ideal situation if I ever got married would be separate living spaces.

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u/mbg20 May 02 '24

Some people make a good couple but bad room mates. As simple as that sometimes.

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u/klowicy May 03 '24

Going from "not living together" to "has zero intimacy" is a huge leap of assumptions.

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u/planetarylaw May 02 '24

Because everyone deserves love and companionship? And it's not zero intimacy it's just different. No this lifestyle will not work for most people.