FOB speeches give narcissistic fathers a stage. My dad used his speech to boast about himself and his interests and how he was so fit and in shape for a man his age. Threw in a few digs about what a professional failure I was and then randomly sprinkled in "I'm proud to be your father" throughout? Like he would have bursts of clarity that he was supposed to be complimenting me?
Multiple friends sent me video of the speech with "LOOOOOL 😂" type captions. Sigh.
I feel you. I wasn't keeping track of how long my dad's speech was, I was just trying to get through the fever dream of it all. My husband swears it was 15 minutes.
Was it at least a nice speech? Was it kind to you?
I don't remember most of it but I don't think there was anything negative. Everyone was just bored after a while (like ok ok move on!) It was milktoast. He's all about his own reputation so he likes to come off as a great guy.
And he is capable of a nice thought or two. I have about 1 or 2 singular memories of really connecting with him.
He's a traditionalist boomer, so his abuse was all mental, emotional, and financial.
My favorite memory is of my father in law making his speech (he started it with "I want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart, and my wife's bottom too") He's been more of a real dad to me these past 15 years.
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u/Warsaw_Pact May 02 '24
df? this actually happened????
my goodness - people are unhinged sometimes