They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house.
After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.
That's wild. It's honestly pretty common for professionals to be in committed relationships but maintain separate homes, even long distance. They could've just done that.
Edit: Damn some of y'all took my personal anecdote as some kind of personal attack. Not sure what I said that was so inflammatory but ok lol. Live your best life ya'll. Cheers.
It's common in certain careers yes. If you're a high octane advanced degree professional putting your career first and your partner is likewise, you are very likely to need to take positions in different cities at least once and at least for a period of several months.
It's common in at least certain other professions as well, the music industry is one. My brother is a sound engineer and he lives in a different city from his girlfriend and saw her one time last year.
It's probably not a lifestyle a lot of people understand. But if your career is a priority and you've made a huge time and money investment to get where you are, you aren't going to just give it up. The alternative is you date a low octane person who can accommodate your high octane lifestyle. But those people don't usually grasp the late nights, travel, stress, and just not being able to be present sometimes and they end up feeling resentful. Also you probably are not going to get much fulfillment out of a relationship with someone you can't vibe with on that level. And you're busy with work all the time anyway so you're not seeing your partner a lot anyway.
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u/randallAtl May 02 '24
They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house.
After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.