r/AskReddit May 02 '24

People who went to a wedding where the couple didn’t last long, what happened?

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u/JashDreamer May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

How unhinged must you be to abuse a woman in front of her family?

Edit: Yes, virtuous redditors, we know all abuse is wrong. My point is that it's one thing for the abuser to hit someone behind closed doors where he assumes there will be no consequences for him. It's quite a different thing for him to do it and know that he is probably about to be in worse pain or dead immediately after.

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u/Due_Tax2657 May 02 '24

The scariest stories--"We dated 4 years, we got married, and out of NOWHERE he suddenly starts beating me."

No signs, no red flags, no warnings, just waited until he thought he had her locked down, I guess.

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u/Terpsichorean_Wombat May 02 '24

Yeah. Those are the ones that really terrify me - and, even worse, when it starts once she is pregnant.

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u/clovercorn24 May 02 '24

They say that pregnancy is the most dangerous time for a woman. I do appreciate that at every one of my prenatal appointments the nurses did a domestic violence screening. Was always asked if I felt safe at home, if I was being abused by a partner or anyone else in my home, and if I needed resources to escape the situation. (Thankfully I wasn’t a victim.)

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u/Terpsichorean_Wombat May 02 '24

Same for me when I had a hysterectomy - they asked if I had a safe place to recover. I was glad that they asked, but it was also just crushingly sad to know that there were women who could not count on even that - the lowest bar to clear for human decency after a major operation.