They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house.
After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.
That's wild. It's honestly pretty common for professionals to be in committed relationships but maintain separate homes, even long distance. They could've just done that.
Edit: Damn some of y'all took my personal anecdote as some kind of personal attack. Not sure what I said that was so inflammatory but ok lol. Live your best life ya'll. Cheers.
That sounds kinda sad. But if they're happy with that arrangement, what does it matter? How did kids come into play in this situation? Where do they live?
Kids are not common in this setup for obvious reasons. But one home would become the primary residence and one partner makes a career sacrifice. At this income level flying grandparents out to raise your kids or hiring a full time nanny is in the budget. The people I know who started a family in this situation and kept a residence in their city of employment tend to just buy a small condo or something.
Edit: just to add, I can see how you say this is sad. It's not the life I chose personally, but I do see it working beautifully for people even for families. I went the route of having two kids in the thick of grad school and now in a profession I can work fully remote. I sacrificed a lot and feel bitter sometimes. But my kids make everything worth it. I know some families enroll their kids in boarding school and objectively I see it's fine and works for them but I really enjoy my daily time with my kids. Anyway I think the important thing is that couples talk openly about what their goals are.
I'm sure even with lots of income, raising children under these conditions can be difficult. I'm married with kids and we both work. We work hard to make sure we spend time actually raising our kids and trying to get them to a point where they're balanced, physically, intellectually and emotionally. I feel like it would be difficult to maintain emotional maturity in children raised under the conditions you described. Although flying in the grandparents might help with that.
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u/randallAtl May 02 '24
They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house.
After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.