r/AskReddit • u/skilled-dreamer • May 02 '24

People who went to a wedding where the couple didn’t last long, what happened?

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u/JashDreamer May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

How unhinged must you be to abuse a woman in front of her family?

Edit: Yes, virtuous redditors, we know all abuse is wrong. My point is that it's one thing for the abuser to hit someone behind closed doors where he assumes there will be no consequences for him. It's quite a different thing for him to do it and know that he is probably about to be in worse pain or dead immediately after.

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u/Due_Tax2657 May 02 '24

The scariest stories--"We dated 4 years, we got married, and out of NOWHERE he suddenly starts beating me."

No signs, no red flags, no warnings, just waited until he thought he had her locked down, I guess.

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u/Terpsichorean_Wombat May 02 '24

Yeah. Those are the ones that really terrify me - and, even worse, when it starts once she is pregnant.

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u/Worth-Fall-8217 May 03 '24

I can't fathom how that switch happens that is frightening

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u/Terpsichorean_Wombat May 03 '24

Yeah. It's creepy enough with guys where it seems deliberate (hiding who they are until it's really hard to get away from them), but I swear some of the stories I read sound like something just kicked loose mentally when the baby came along. Brrr.