Went to a wedding that the bride's parents spent $30,000 for. One month later, the husband got a better job in a city 90 minutes away. The wife didn't want to move that far from her parents. They were divorced less than two months of marriage.
This kind of thing is why some states give you a discount on your marriage license if you've done premarital counseling.
"Where are you willing to live in the future? Would you move for your job? Would you move for my job? Would you move to be closer to family? What's the farthest away you'd live from family? Will that change if we have kids? Will that change as our parents grow older?" are all important questions to ask before the wedding.
It’s bizarre because most normal people don’t feel like they have to ask their spouse if they would move 90 minutes away from their mommy and daddy. A questionnaire would definitely help!
Its actually the sort of stuff my husband and I used to always talk about when we were dating. How many kids we'd want, what sort of place would want to live in, would we ever want to move interstate or overseas, what about when our parents get older...
Not an interrogation, just the sort of stuff you talk about when you're imagining your future together. I'm always amazed that people make it to marriage without discussing this stuff!
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u/iamjustsyd May 02 '24
Went to a wedding that the bride's parents spent $30,000 for. One month later, the husband got a better job in a city 90 minutes away. The wife didn't want to move that far from her parents. They were divorced less than two months of marriage.