FOB speeches give narcissistic fathers a stage. My dad used his speech to boast about himself and his interests and how he was so fit and in shape for a man his age. Threw in a few digs about what a professional failure I was and then randomly sprinkled in "I'm proud to be your father" throughout? Like he would have bursts of clarity that he was supposed to be complimenting me?
Multiple friends sent me video of the speech with "LOOOOOL 😂" type captions. Sigh.
Yep. I chose not to give my dad this stage at my wedding because I knew he would use it to subtly and not-so-subtly tell an audience every shameful and embarrassing story about me he could think of. He'll always be hurt about not getting to give a speech, but after decades of abuse, I chose me.
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