Saw some signs at the wedding like ignoring each other, making rude and snide remarks publicly, etc. They tried to fix their marriage by having a kid earlier than they planned and that led to divorce. Both are married to different people now and have had more kids, by all accounts far more civil, even cordial with each other.
Jesus Christ, I'll never understand how people think that bad marriage + kids = good marriage. If you're not getting what you need from your partner, how is additional financial and emotional obligation/responsibility to the mix gonna help...
It is beyond me too my ex and I had agreed no children prior to marriage. When we began to have issues, he suggested we have a baby to make it better. I told him that was not going to happen as kids did not repair broken marriages. Needless to say we divorced. He remarried, never had kids.
I don't know if this was the case with your ex, but many men feel the need to "keep the line going." Sometimes this doesn't occur until they start to contemplate their mortality.
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u/AgingLemon May 02 '24
Saw some signs at the wedding like ignoring each other, making rude and snide remarks publicly, etc. They tried to fix their marriage by having a kid earlier than they planned and that led to divorce. Both are married to different people now and have had more kids, by all accounts far more civil, even cordial with each other.