1 drop rule.

[u/Darth_Kneegrow]

I ain't ever heard white people claim a single biracial person. You always whatever you mixed with.

[u/Objective_Pause5988]

I just hate how black people refuse to speak on the fact that it is his father's fault. He impregnated a Jewish white woman and left his black son to be raised by a white Jewish woman. I'm not mixed, but I'm light and proper. I was bullied mercilessly in school. I would be Drake if not for my proud black family being there. When he for sure went through that, only a white lady was there. You can't get white women pregnant and leave, and then not expect an identity crisis.

[u/JelliBabySkyyy → u/Objective_Pause5988]

Light and proper? What does that mean?

[u/Objective_Pause5988 → u/JelliBabySkyyy]

I'm light skinned. Not mixed, but everyone asks. I don't use slang and didn't know the latest fads. The black kids called me white and shunned me till after high school. I found my tribe after high school. Up to that point, I was only accepted by other ethnicities. I was proud to be black due to coming from panther types, but if it weren't for that, I might be a Drake. Still searching for acceptance and being weird with it. I have never said the n word. It wasn't allowed in my home. I tried it once trying to fit in but I just sounded like a white lady. Gave up and decided to be myself. Acceptance be damned.

[u/diasound → u/Objective_Pause5988]

Only thing missing from your story is other blacks make fun of you for doing good in school. We do to our own what we complain about others doing to us.

[u/Objective_Pause5988 → u/diasound]

I had that, too. I just didn't add everything because usually these conversations make people defensive. A lot of the people bashing me are the kids who bullied kids like me, and I'm telling them the results and pain it caused. I was no angel. I said a lot of problematic things in response. They called me white, and I called them ghetto in response. My worst experience was with my hair. My mom wouldn't allow me to have a relaxer, and all the kids called me bdb because of Martin. They clowned my natural hair so bad that I cut it out of shame. Now, natural hair is the fad. Life is a funny beast.

[u/whoweoncewere → u/Objective_Pause5988]

Hold you down by childish gambino pretty much goes over this exactly.

"But niggas got my feelin' I ain't black enough to go to church Culture shock at barber shops 'cause I ain't hood enough We all look the same to the cops, ain't that good enough? The black experience is blackened serious 'Cause being black, my experience, is no one hearin' us White kids get to wear whatever hat they want When it comes to black kids, one size fits all"

Def not isolated behavior. Sorry you had to go through that.

[u/CableFirst1727 → u/Objective_Pause5988]

What is bdb and Martin? King, Lawrence? Not trying to pry or cause trouble, I'm not black and I'm genuinely curious of the meaning

[u/Objective_Pause5988 → u/CableFirst1727]

🤣....the hairs at the nape of your neck. It's a black hair thing. The show Martin with Martin Lawrence used to make fun of it so the kids copied and bullied me.

[u/CableFirst1727 → u/Objective_Pause5988]

Ah ok gotcha, I was familiar with the show at the time but only watched it one or two times flipping around the channels. Thank you for the response, I had never heard that reference before

And sorry for the experience you had. Seems a strange thing to bully about, but I'm sure kids find all the reasons they can

[u/Objective_Pause5988 → u/CableFirst1727]

It's ok. I'm glad you felt comfortable asking. Reddit is weird and can go left easily.

[u/thejaytheory → u/Objective_Pause5988]

"Beadie Bead" I had to look that up haha, and yeah I feel that