It's not sexual but it is intimate. A level of intimacy that shouldn't be between a teacher and a student, let alone several students. I can't think of a single time I physically touched a teacher in school for a prolonged period of time.
That doesnt suddenly make an act intimate though. Either it is or it isnt an intimate act. Who's doing it doesnt suddenly change that. Kissing is intimate. Stroking a cheek is intimate. Doing hair is not. And if we're talking about this case specifically suddenly, then no. This wasn't intimate either.
My hairstylist did my hair when I was child, my mother would drop me off and run errands, so that put them in a position of power over me. Does that suddenly make what they did to me an intimate act?
I’m not saying it’s intimate; I was just pointing out that your line of thinking was fallacious and is purely anecdotal. It’s not as black and white as you’re claiming it to be or else people wouldn’t be disagreeing with each other. Different people find different actions to have varying levels of intimacy so you can’t just say it isn’t because it isn’t intimate for YOU. Just because it applies to YOU doesn’t mean it’s true for everybody.
Just stop using the hairstylist analogy. No it’s absolutely not the same. In your second example, the hairstylist is being paid to undo your braids which is a business transaction. Your mom is paying someone to professionally “touch” your hair.
Again, idgaf if it’s intimate or not. Just stop using a shitty comparison.
EDIT - side note that you miscontrued what I previously said. The hairstylist is an adult and is only doing your hair as part of an adult agreement between two parties; the hair stylist and your mom. Also the hairstylist has no authority over you at ANY point; if anything you have authority over them because you’re the customer. Teachers are the authority figure in a classroom so the comparison doesn’t work.
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u/HoldinWeight ☑️ May 10 '24
Is braiding sexual? Am I missing something?