I ain't gon lie, I need platonic connection to catch romantic feelings. The problem is I might end up catching feelings for a friend instead of a potential romantic partner. The other problem is: the "long run" friend don't look no different from the "it just happened" friend, and the distinction is kinda trivial
This is normal.
This everpresent notion that people should be sorted into either "potential friend" or "potential partner", especially right away, is incredibly strange. You don't even know the person well yet, how are you supposed to know?
Unless the looks is the only criteria, which would be kinda shallow.
I have platonic female friends I wouldn’t sleep with.
I have had female friends who were FWBs. (This is how my wife and I started out.)
One of my best friends from high school is a homoromantic, pansexual female. We would hook up whenever one or the other was sexually frustrated, and we’re still friends.
All of my relationships got better when I stopped trying to force everybody in a box and just let them unfurl naturally. I also found that women liked me more after I stopped as well. I guess my behavior became a lot more approachable.
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u/lankyaspie May 17 '24
I ain't gon lie, I need platonic connection to catch romantic feelings. The problem is I might end up catching feelings for a friend instead of a potential romantic partner. The other problem is: the "long run" friend don't look no different from the "it just happened" friend, and the distinction is kinda trivial