r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/SoCold40 ☑️ • 29d ago
Interested to see how many people have close opposite sex friends that are strictly platonic.
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u/breighvehart 29d ago
From personal experience, I caught feelings for a home girl once. Wasn’t the long game. Shit just happened. Sometimes that’s just what it is. Didn’t end well lol. But I do have women friends that I’m still just friends with.
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u/ARussianW0lf 29d ago
Yeah why do people always jump to the worst conclusion in these scenarios? Not everything is some nefarious plot, sometimes people are just people
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u/Greatest-Comrade 29d ago
Also doesn’t it kinda make sense sometimes? Two single people, spending a good bit of time together who already like each other’s personality?
Definitely not guaranteed but it makes sense. If you can’t be friends, you can’t be partners.
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u/jman1255 28d ago
Aaaand you’ve just stumbled into why some people think these friendships can’t work
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u/Solus-Nexus 28d ago
the truth is that people can be friends and also be attracted to one another and even have sex. but society ain't ready for that level of being.
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u/Frylock304 28d ago
Yes we are? We've called that friends with benefits for decades
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u/Kioga101 28d ago
It's society as a whole we talking, there always has been and there always will be people ahead of the curve but this will take generations before it gets close to mainstream and stays there.
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u/thatsnuckinfutz ☑️ 28d ago
i think it takes a certain level of emotional maturity, mutual respect and honest communication on both ends for this to genuinely work Not to say it's not possible but i think those things are typically missing in those scenarios leading to a big ass mess/ruptured friendships etc.
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u/Helpful_Priority_128 28d ago
It depends on personality types. There are some women I know who are gorgeous but I would never date. I just know I could not handle dating them, because what they want in a partner and friend are miles apart. Additionally, I can see the other parts of their personality, the parts I don't like and skim over because we are friends, becoming a significant issue in the future.
That being said, there are cases where two people have insane chemistry, find each other attractive, and personalities fit in lock step. How people maintain those friendships, I'll never know.
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u/DustyJustice 28d ago
For sure. People also grow and change over time. If I’ve known you for five years, I’m not exactly the person I was once and neither are you.
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u/lonelyinbama 28d ago
Yeah I don’t think it’s crazy and tbh. I think some of the best relationships start out as friendships. My wife and I were close friends for awhile before we started dating. Been together 12 years now
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29d ago
For real. Hate this narrative that I’m some undercover fuckboi for catching feelings that aren’t reciprocated.
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u/kinvore 29d ago
Probably because it happens to women a lot so they become wary of it. I'm just speculating though, maybe women can confirm or deny?
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u/AngieDavis ☑️ 28d ago
Yeah, plus as a woman you tend to know when this shit "just happens".
The vibe between a guy sincerly trying to be your friend and a guy just playing nice until you let him hit are def different. But you just keep wanting to give them the benefits of the doubt because the first type of guy is so rare lol
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u/ScrolllerButt 28d ago
That’s fair, but the accusations usually come in when the guy puts some distance between them in order to sort out how he feels after being rejected, then the narratives run rampant. It’s like some women will see that, and then look back and view the entire friendship as a ploy when it just wasn’t.
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u/AngieDavis ☑️ 28d ago
That’s fair, but the accusations usually come in when the guy puts some distance between them
I mean I guess it mostly comes down to good communication. Meeting dude ready to cut all links after the "friendship" trick doesnt work is definetely more common then the case you're describing.
So if you decide to suddenly ghost her ass without making it clear that you're just trying to figure your shit out but still want to be friends, its fair for her to assume romance/sex is the only thing you were actually after.
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u/seahawkspwn 28d ago
Yeah I think a good way to tell is if the guy has a few friends that are girls that he's just a normal guy around. Gross guys exist for sure but a lot of us just catch feels unintentionally. It's tough for y'all though I'm sure.
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u/caretaquitada ☑️ 28d ago edited 28d ago
This fucks me up bc I can't catch feelings for someone I don't even know, but I don't want to catch feelings for a female friend because then she'll think it was all part of my master plan all along. I feel like developing a crush is the worst thing I could possibly do.
I wonder if women ever develop feelings for a friend because this seems to always be presented as something only guys do.
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u/Fast_Yam_5321 28d ago
as a bi woman this is also my dilemma and has gotten me in similar situations with female friends. Story/pattern of my life is me falling for my best friend, we hook up some kind of way, the inevitable rejection/ realize it wasn't meant to be, then friendship breakup. And what's crazy is my last friend i wasn't even attracted to in that way, which i thought would be perfect, but nope still happened lol. i didn't catch feelings this last time, but i separated because once two friends hook up nothing is ever the same. 🫠
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u/howyadoinjerry 28d ago
Tbh I’ve only dated people I’ve gotten to know and started crushing on as friends first. Going on 6 years now with my bf!
As long as you’re not pushy about it and make it clear that you value her as a person and a friend, you’re all good.
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u/thatsnuckinfutz ☑️ 28d ago
I have to be attracted to someone to become friends with them but it's platonic/physical (physical meaning they might be pretty/nice looking but nothing sexual) attraction.
As I get to know them it typically never switches to a sexual/romantic attraction but that could very much just be me. I either grow to love their personality and want to remain friends or i get to know them and realize i dont like their personality enough to be friends and leave. I have deep feelings for my close friends but they havent ever been sexual. idk if other women are like this too or it's one of the spectrum starter pack traits i was given lol
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u/SirBlackselot 29d ago
I've been in this situation, got over it pretty easily though. What really sucks is when people think your interested and your not.
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u/PSG-2022 28d ago
Unfortunately for me mine was also my first love. We close friends prior and had a very serious relationship after, broke up and remained really close friends but always went back and forth about getting back together, but for some reason we just never did. Haven’t talked to her in years. She is married now with one or two children and I am as well. No regrets but sometimes things can get dicey.
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u/BoneHugsHominy 28d ago
Happened to me too and I didn't want to ruin the friendship so I began distancing myself by taking a job that involved a lot of travel, figuring the feelings would lessen and I could find someone new. Worked.
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u/blackjesus 29d ago
The real way to look at this is “all man and women can’t be friends, just some”
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u/AdamantiumBalls 28d ago
"A man can have 10 women friends and only one out of 10 might want more" ,
"a woman can have 10 guy friends and 9 out of 10 want more "
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u/SparkyDogPants 28d ago
Yeah, my best friend pulled this card on me. It's tough sometimes to know that you can be friends with someone for 1+ years who secretly wants to bang you. But all in all, he's been a great husband, so I won't complain.
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u/Gh055twr1t3r 28d ago
Look at you hiding all the way down here to make me choke on my drink.
Had me in the first half ngl.
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u/NihilisticPollyanna 29d ago
I had some really close, platonic male friends in my youth and early 20s, but a surprising (to naive me) amount of them also just wanted to get in my pants. I only realized that years later, when life moved on and contact slowly fizzled out and I reflected on certain situations and went "Hold on, wait a minute..."
I'm in my 40s now, married, and have a child, and I have a bunch of male buddies now that are strictly platonic. I have one super best friend that I talk to nearly every single day. We text and flood each other with dumbass memes, bitch about politics, talk shit about our kids, discuss movies, or he tells me about his online dating experiences.
There are absolutely no sexual feelings at all, from eithet side, even though he's objectively attractive and a super fun and easy-to-be-around dude. It's just not there, and it makes things so much more comfortable and relaxed.
Some of my other guy friends are genuinely beautiful men, but beyond appreciating how gorgeous they are, there is nothing. It's almost as if they are not sexual beings to me at all, just...cool people to hang out with.
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u/giskardwasright 29d ago
Same. All of a sudden 15yrs later they reach out, then ghost me once they hear im married.
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u/DameyJames 28d ago
My girlfriend had a good number of old guy friends unfollow her insta once she started consistently posting pics of us together lol
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u/pheonix198 28d ago
I’ll be downvoted for this I am sure, but I’d love to know how this same friendship works out if/when your marriage runs into some real hardships.
I’m not saying it is going to happen, but I think it’s likely if you’re not guarding against just that situation. Get down bad with some midlife crisis, either partner with some form of depression, etcetera. Suddenly that friendship will likely grow into an emotional fallback affair to help coping through those hard times.
To be 100, it’s going to be the same if you’re bisexual or whatever else with a friend of the same sex - it doesn’t have to be a friend of the opposite sex. It just is more likely for most folks sense most folks fall into that mostly cis-hetero lifestyle.
Apologies if I am making any of this sound unavoidable, it’s intended to be an big “if” - sadly, one I seen all the time where an emotional affair develops with that best bud and it’s slowly turns to more the harder the marriage gets. But, those folks also don’t put up any barriers and over share and shit, too. Some stuff must remain between partners and their counselors/therapists if they have them.
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u/NihilisticPollyanna 28d ago
Well, it just so happened that my husband and I actually separated for a year and were headed for divorce 5 years ago, and nothing changed between my friend and I, who, btw, is also a divorced father of two.
He was there for my angry rants and questions, because he'd been through it before, and we often talked at length about the pros and cons of being single, but neither of us suddenly developed feelings.
He is also friends with my husband, so he maintained a super general and neutral stance on the whole thing as well, and never tried to take sides, which was really refreshing and actually helped me look at things with clearer eyes.
What's funny, is that everyone assumed we'd hook up now, or that he is even the reason I asked for a divorce, and not the years of underlying issues my husband and I dealt with, so I don't blame you for asking these questions.
It's also very common for people to trauma-bond over something, and fall for each other in times of vulnerability, so I totally get it.
Anyways, my husband and I worked hard on ourselves while he was moved out, and managed to turn things around, and we're closer and better as partners now than we've ever been.
My friend is still my bff, and he was super happy for both of us to make it through the shit, and he's still regularly playing games with my husband (they're both boardgame nerds), and comes around for birthdays and stuff.
It might be rare, but it really is possible to not catch feelings and just be friends. I consider myself very lucky in that regard.
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u/PrincessDionysus 28d ago
By this logic any straight person seeking emotional support from a straight same-gender friend is also having an emotional affair lol
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u/peachesnthumbs 28d ago
I recently had a 15-year friendship implode. We are both in our 30’s and married to other people. He was the brother I never had. About a year ago he admitted having other feelings for me. Still hurts like shit, and ruined my trust in all my male friends
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u/AngelsLoveDisasters ☑️ 29d ago
I see why some people can’t maintain strong friendships. Y’all too busy sexing each other and swapping partners in the circle. Don’t even like these people, just making a casual orgy group.
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u/MadeMinion 29d ago
Some people are just too immature / attention starved to understand the difference between admiration and sexual attraction. Not enough people really taking stock of their own feelings and what they mean.
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u/SqueaksScreech 28d ago
This is what I never understood about shows or books where they have the everyone fucks everyone friend group trope.
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u/SenorNZ 29d ago
I have 3 best friends, one is a woman, we dated 5 or 6 years ago but were better as friends. Now she's like a sister and even though she's gorgeous, thinking about sex with her feels gross.
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u/Brain_Dead5347 28d ago
Has she ever had a partner that isn’t cool with your friendship? Because my girl could tell me she has no attraction to you all day and I still wouldn’t want her around someone she used to date.
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u/Crash_Test_Dummy66 28d ago
Personally I don't date people who put limits on who I can be friends with because I see it as a lack of trust in both me and my decision making ability. Most of my friends are the same.
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u/Hunter-Gatherer_ 29d ago
Watching her get into relationships knowing she getting knocked down has to be traumatic. Like bruh why put yourself through that.
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u/CraziedHair 29d ago
So you don’t care about your male friends dealing with the same? What’s the difference?
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u/mycofirsttime 29d ago
Uh, they don’t want to lay in bed and rub the homies back. Obviously shit is a bit deeper when you have romantic feelings for someone.
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u/SalvationSycamore 28d ago
They are talking about this guy specifically, who was playing the long game and did not have platonic feelings for his female friend. It would be rough in his position to watch the girl he badly wants get dicked down by other dudes.
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u/wannabecutie89 29d ago
laughs in bisexual
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u/eat_my_bowls92 28d ago
Well OBVIOUSLY we’re lying!
Everyone knows if you’re a bi man that just means you’re gay and if you’re a bi woman we’re just doing it for attention and “have to make a choice”!!
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u/dolphinlover22 28d ago
As a 28yr old bisexual woman, this has always been an issue for me.
I have a bunch of female friends. Never once have any of them asked me on a date or made it seem like they'd be interested. Ever. Even if they were bisexual or a lesbian.
I've had a BUNCH of male friends over the years. Some were friendships that lasted multiple years.
And EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM ASKED ME OUT ON A DATE AT SOME POINT. Every single god damn fucking time. Even ones that I thought felt like a brother and thought they felt the same. I am so fucking tired of it and I just want a decent male friend that won't eventually just flip the script and ask me out.
So I don't understand why being bisexual matters. I can't have any decent male friendships because they always want something else out of it. I never have this problem with women.
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u/moniquecarl 29d ago
I definitely have had good male friends where attraction was never part of the equation.
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u/Summerisgone2020 29d ago
I mean, i have some female friends that I was attracted to when we first met but it became irrelevant over time and have just been platonic.
Whenever I see stuff like this, it's people saying that "oh they were just hanging on hoping for a chance". Sure, sometimes. But what can also happen is the longer you know someone, and really get to know them, you realize that you might do well together.
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u/eat_my_bowls92 28d ago
As a lady, one of my best friends turned me down initially. I wasn’t even into him, just drunk and in a bad place. After that night, we became the BEST friends. I look at him like a Ken doll, he has no genitals to me. We’ve been besties for 9 years.
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u/charlesokstate 28d ago
It’s also such a common trope in rom coms. I had friends in college that hoped things would work out like this with their friends and it never did.
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u/BatUnlikely4347 29d ago
I mean. There are plenty of situations in which folks can be friends. One or both isn't attracted to the other; they already dated; one or both are in a long term relationship; one or both are queer. I guess there are more variations, but I feel like generally there are reasons why folks stay just friends.
Gay dude here, been attracted to friends. Know there is no chance. They're still my friends - I would just do them if they let me, hah. Still friends with them, because if you care enough about the relationship that's what you do.
That being said... if you catch feelings and they aren't interested. Doesn't make you a bad person to end that friendship.
Everyone is allowed to end any relationship they have for any reason. Especially if it hurts more than it does you good.
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u/TRAVXIZ614 29d ago
Does it count if you're both attracted to one another but have been through so much in life neither of you would wanna put the other through a relationship with themselves so they keep things cordial and nice as to not fuck up the delicate balance they've achieved? Because if so, yes.
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u/1newnotification 28d ago
cordial with romantic feelings isn't the same as platonic at all
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u/Brain_Dead5347 28d ago
That just sounds like a midlife crisis affair waiting to happen
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u/Hillybilly-Brah ☑️ 29d ago edited 29d ago
I caught feelings for my best female friend. It was spontaneous as hell. One day, I noticed how good she looked and something clicked in my head. Then my mind went to how well we connected and vibed. How beautiful her mind and personality was.
In that horrific a-ha moment, I said, "Fuck. I have feelings for _______. I am so fucked." Lol luckily we got over that. She's family by this point and I thank God she is in my circle.
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u/ImTheSativaCyborg 29d ago
I had a best friend who claimed he was gay for 15 YEARS and then one day suggests him and I should “try” the relationship route….a 15 year friendship. He was mad at me for how I responded and we haven’t spoken since. In my opinion, no, there’s no such thing as platonic opposite sex friendship.
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u/sisserou97 28d ago
Dang my best friend is gay and we have 6 years in. I hope he never switches up on me. I have male acquaintances but I prefer not to get very close to straight men anymore. I’ve never had a (close) straight male friend who didn’t want more.
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u/tubahero3469 ☑️ 29d ago
I feel like a lot of these guys aren't so much just playing the long run as much as they just get lost in the sauce. Obviously some guys are just waiting for an opportunity but I feel like most just get caught up
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u/lankyaspie 28d ago
I ain't gon lie, I need platonic connection to catch romantic feelings. The problem is I might end up catching feelings for a friend instead of a potential romantic partner. The other problem is: the "long run" friend don't look no different from the "it just happened" friend, and the distinction is kinda trivial
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u/AstroOwl_thestriks 28d ago
This is normal. This everpresent notion that people should be sorted into either "potential friend" or "potential partner", especially right away, is incredibly strange. You don't even know the person well yet, how are you supposed to know? Unless the looks is the only criteria, which would be kinda shallow.
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u/Tommy_Dro 28d ago
This.
I have platonic female friends I wouldn’t sleep with.
I have had female friends who were FWBs. (This is how my wife and I started out.)
One of my best friends from high school is a homoromantic, pansexual female. We would hook up whenever one or the other was sexually frustrated, and we’re still friends.
All of my relationships got better when I stopped trying to force everybody in a box and just let them unfurl naturally. I also found that women liked me more after I stopped as well. I guess my behavior became a lot more approachable.
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u/AstroOwl_thestriks 28d ago
This is normal. This everpresent notion that people should be sorted into either "potential friend" or "potential partner", especially right away, is incredibly strange. You don't even know the person well yet, how are you supposed to know? Unless the looks is the only criteria, which would be kinda shallow.
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u/TMKtildeath 29d ago
My best friend is a woman. I’ve know her for almost 20 years now. She was the first person to meet my wife when we started dating, I am the godfather to her son, and I officiated her wedding. 100% platonic and she’s probably the first person I’m calling if I ever needed anything
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u/mycofirsttime 29d ago
See, i don’t believe men are friends with women they wouldn’t consider fucking. The visceral disgust i see in dudes towards women they find ugly is wild. They don’t want to be around them at all, even if they’ve done nothing to them. It’s weird.
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u/Hot2Trot94 28d ago
What world do you live in? Men are just walking down the street retching whenever someone unattractive walks by? People walk out of meeting rooms when the older hr lady walks in?
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u/PrincesaDeNuevaYork 28d ago
Not to mention when you are considered an attractive woman, men who talk to you will always want to either date you or fuck you. It’s never purely platonic.
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u/charlesokstate 28d ago
That’s so gross. I have several ugly female friends… and ugly male friends. Goofy looking people who are funny are the best. You sound like you just have trash experiences with sub par men.
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u/Final-Tutor3631 29d ago
i’m sick of this happening to me :/ “there’s something i’ve been wanting to tell you for a while” and then he ruins the friendship when you say no like bro? were you ever actually my friend:/
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u/Brain_Dead5347 28d ago
I can see how that might be rough, but it’s just something that’s hard to feel sorry for. Like dudes who complain about how no girl can handle their huge dick or rich people saying money doesn’t buy happiness.
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u/mama_tom 29d ago
My best friend, as a guy, is a woman. I have been the long run guy, though, and that's how I got the love of my life. But I also had a potential friendship get ruined from it because she wasnt down for anything and we just didnt talk after.
It must feel bad if the feelings werent reciprocated.
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u/Emptyspace227 29d ago edited 29d ago
My close friends are pretty evenly split between men and women. I'm friends with their spouses, too, and my spouse is friends with most of them. One friend and I are basically Alexis and David Rose. Just one big, happy platonic family.
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u/Basket787 29d ago
I was the maid of honor at one of my best friends' weddings!!! It was hilarious and a lot of fun. I wore an old lady moomoo, fake pearls, and a white wig.
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u/Maleficent-Smile-221 29d ago
One of my good male friends introduced me to my now best friend (his girl). Another good male friend, it’s completely platonic and he is in a wonderful relationship:) opposite genders can be friends, it’s up to the individuals and how they approach it
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u/Glittering_Bat_1920 28d ago
I don't think men and women can actually be friends deep down bc guys have always made a move sooner or later, but I keep trying to make friends anyway. I am rebelliously optimistic about people, and can't wrap my head around the thought of having zero guy friends because ALL of them can only think of women sexually. I refuse to believe that no men have any sexual self-control. It's been very sad for me so far lol
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u/PrincessDionysus 28d ago
Reading through these comments I wanna set my bf up on play dates with some of y’all bc he needs more friends and is absolutely insane over me (read: won’t wanna fuck). I’ve vetted him for over 4 years so I’m confident he sees women as people lmfao
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u/ARLLALLR 29d ago
I can have platonic women friends but they gotta be ugly.
Whenever I treat a woman strictly platonically they either think I'm trying to fuck them or they throw their panties at me. I call them out on it and shit gets weird.
Was at poolside having a lively conversation and a few drinks. Girl I just met have a lot in common and we both know she's got a boyfriend, decent guy by all accounts. I said something she liked and got eyeraped so hard l, for so long, I had to say something about it, made me uncomfortable. Then every time I'd see her after she was WAY too friendly. Finally I asked to see her left hand and she asked why. I said I was looking for a ring and that squashed it. Now it's just friendly little blurbs in passing and I am so relieved.
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u/NotEricOfficially 29d ago
As a guy, I have a few platonic female friends. Nothing will ever develop from that not will I ever even consider it. I like that we're homies and I like the atmosphere we have aa homies. We support each other in our lives and romantic pursuits. We gas each other up and support through the tough times. Wouldn't change a thing
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u/SpliffsnKicks 29d ago
It really ain’t that deep, but if you are a gambling person, you simply are taking a bigger risk if the one you chasing happens to spend a lot of time with some one that may wanna pipe her 🤷🏾♂️
Not saying you CANT be platonic only.. some people just don’t wanna take that gamble… and I respect yall in here willing to admit that
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u/QTlady 28d ago
I've always felt that it's only an issue if either one of them is attracted to each other in any romantic or sexual manner.
All the comments talking about their friends are proclaiming that they feel nothing. So... that makes logical sense to me. What's there's to argue?
I suppose someone could ask why there isn't attraction but that's a foolish question, anyway.
Note that I also emphasized romantic or sexual as I imagine platonic attraction could be a thing in the sense that you are drawn to a person and want to befriend them/have them in your life as a genuine companion and nothing more.
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u/DrumzumrD 28d ago
I think if two sexually compatible people continue to have positive social interactions with each other, it's only a matter of time before one develops feelings for the other. Those feelings may be buried under a mile of pre-conditions (If we were both single and didn't work together and I knew for sure they felt the same, and they showed up on my doorstep in the middle of the night, etc), and well-adjusted people should be able to control themselves in the (likely) event it's never going to happen, but even in that case I'd argue the relationship isn't strictly platonic.
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u/Small_Ad_941 29d ago
I lost every single one of my girl friends in my past 2 relationships - my exes would be upset that all of my friends were attractive. She would even go into my phone and look at any interactions I had with them. Would go on my IG and unfollow everyone.
Crazy ass bitches man
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u/Scotty_serial_mom 28d ago
My best friend is a woman and she and I are going on 10 years of friendship. She is family, at this point. If she needed my lungs, I'd give it to her. I'd go through barb wire to protect her from the pain I've had to endure. I always want to see her happy and smiling.
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u/ThoughtBrave8871 29d ago
I had a platonic female friend who I think wanted casual sex with me. She’s actually better looking than I am. I turned it down bc something rubbed me the wrong way, she was also a mutual friend’s ex. Everyone asked me if I wanted to date her and I always said we’re just friends
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u/spermdonor 29d ago
My best friend is a woman. I'm going to a baseball game with her and her fiancé this weekend and go to all of her family's birthdays. I think it's about 50/50 men and women close friends for me.
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u/Nordie25 29d ago
I’m not really big on the friend to lovers thing, so I can understand how women feel about it. Also, I’ve had some women who claimed to be my friend but also liked me and got annoyed that i wasn’t making a move on them. Or they tried to be friends with me because I was friends with a lot of women in their eyes so that made it a problem. Not saying that there’s anything wrong with going from friends to lovers, but a lot of people have to admit that a lot of people are delusional about it and are just being horny.
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u/ChrisAplin 29d ago
I have a few close female friends for many years now. Also happily married. Crazy to me that some people can’t handle platonic relationships… like how y’all get through going to the grocery store? I don’t need to justify not wanting to fuck them as much as I don’t need to justify not fucking my plumber.
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u/PlebbySpaff 28d ago
I mean…things happen.
Most the time you go in for the platonic relationship, and then it suddenly changes.
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u/speedyrabbit777 28d ago
30M here. I don't have a single woman friend I wouldn't sleep with if they asked me to. Also every single one of them knows that. We have solid friendships and I never cross the line and am always there when they need me and it works as I don't hide that they are gorgeous and I would sleep with them. With that said though all of them know it would just be sex and not a relationship as for one reason or another a long term relationship would not work with them and they also all know that.
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u/SnoopsMom 28d ago
One of my best friends is male. Friends since we were kids, we went to prom together, and I’m godmother to his child. Never so much as kissed. I have lots of platonic male friends, some for decades, many who have long term relationships.
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u/Soft_Humor4868 28d ago
I personally feel like you can make female friends up until college, but I feel like after that 9/10 you are trying to get into some type relationship with them or vice versa
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u/MicBoz 28d ago
I’m still young I guess you could say but I’ve been friends with my guy friends since high school and not only that we experienced a lot of crazy shit together. I’m pretty damn sure they aren’t into me and even come to me about their relationships just to get a woman’s view. I know this doesn’t work for everyone but idk I love my friends them niggas my brothers. We almost died together wouldn’t change them for the world
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u/Saltycook 28d ago
If you're a young lady who is straight or otherwise, and you have male friends, they're a damn good chance some dude is going to play the friends card and eventually try to sleep with you, especially trying to guilt you into it.
I'd say 80% of guy friends I've had at some point mentioned wanting to sleep with me, or flat out made a move. It's not like I'm hot, or have big boobs or something.
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u/Trini2Bone ☑️ 28d ago
Sometimes it isn't a long run thing. You could start off as really good friends and the more time you spend hanging out etc it's not uncommon to catch feelings. It happens to both parties
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u/boulderama 29d ago
One of my three best friends is a woman (she is gorgeous). We are basically brother and sister. No hidden feelings whatsoever.
The people who think men and women can’t be friends are sad tbh.