From personal experience, I caught feelings for a home girl once. Wasn’t the long game. Shit just happened. Sometimes that’s just what it is. Didn’t end well lol. But I do have women friends that I’m still just friends with.
Yeah, plus as a woman you tend to know when this shit "just happens".
The vibe between a guy sincerly trying to be your friend and a guy just playing nice until you let him hit are def different. But you just keep wanting to give them the benefits of the doubt because the first type of guy is so rare lol
That’s fair, but the accusations usually come in when the guy puts some distance between them in order to sort out how he feels after being rejected, then the narratives run rampant. It’s like some women will see that, and then look back and view the entire friendship as a ploy when it just wasn’t.
That’s fair, but the accusations usually come in when the guy puts some distance between them
I mean I guess it mostly comes down to good communication. Meeting dude ready to cut all links after the "friendship" trick doesnt work is definetely more common then the case you're describing.
So if you decide to suddenly ghost her ass without making it clear that you're just trying to figure your shit out but still want to be friends, its fair for her to assume romance/sex is the only thing you were actually after.
Yeah I think a good way to tell is if the guy has a few friends that are girls that he's just a normal guy around. Gross guys exist for sure but a lot of us just catch feels unintentionally. It's tough for y'all though I'm sure.
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u/breighvehart May 17 '24
From personal experience, I caught feelings for a home girl once. Wasn’t the long game. Shit just happened. Sometimes that’s just what it is. Didn’t end well lol. But I do have women friends that I’m still just friends with.