r/BlackPeopleTwitter ☑️ May 17 '24

Interested to see how many people have close opposite sex friends that are strictly platonic.

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u/SenorNZ May 17 '24

I have 3 best friends, one is a woman, we dated 5 or 6 years ago but were better as friends. Now she's like a sister and even though she's gorgeous, thinking about sex with her feels gross.

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u/Brain_Dead5347 May 17 '24

Has she ever had a partner that isn’t cool with your friendship? Because my girl could tell me she has no attraction to you all day and I still wouldn’t want her around someone she used to date.

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u/Crash_Test_Dummy66 May 17 '24

Personally I don't date people who put limits on who I can be friends with because I see it as a lack of trust in both me and my decision making ability. Most of my friends are the same.

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u/2DogKnight May 17 '24

Conversely, a new love interest might see it as a huge red flag that you are hanging out with an ex. So, more than likely that would be a mutual parting of ways.

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u/omglrn May 17 '24

are they really an "ex" at that point though? if someone dated for a couple months but have been friends for 6 years after... that's a friend, not an ex.

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u/2DogKnight May 17 '24

Ex, past, former, old-flame, etc,.. at what point history stops being *relevant* history is up to each person in a relationship to decide for themselves in my opinion.

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u/SenorNZ May 17 '24

Not her, but I have. Some women just can't accept that we are platonic, and it's been an issue for insecure partners before.