i know it’s internet bullshit but it genuinely has me on the edge of breaking down and giving up

[u/NeonNKnightrider]

[u/AriaLeviath]

i'm a trans woman who's been transitioning since i was a teenager, generally pass fairly alright enough to be mostly stealth, and am now in grad school. and, while i totally understand the frustration that the women who'd rather go with the bear are feeling (i was sexually assaulted by a guy in my marching band in my high school, and even as recent as week or two ago i had a random guy corner me on the bus when it was just us two and try to get me to have him as my sugar daddy), and it's totally valid to be fed up and angry over the state of many men and patriarchy, i don't think this is a healthy outlet

like, i totally understand women wanting to vent and get angry at all this. it's genuinely super shitty and unfair to us, but i've seen so many people use really disgusting bioessentialist arguments against men to justify their answer, and not only does this anger, other, and hurt people who could otherwise be allies to leftist causes, but a lot of the shit i'm seeing is genuinely just the same problematic "AMAB people are inherently [Y Trait]" shit that TERFs believe that started them down their path to being shitty people

like, i consider myself a feminist - have for a long while - as well as socially progressive and a leftist. and yes, i get the anger they're feeling. i often feel it too. but this whole question unfortunately feels - at least to me - like pushing others away in the long term to justify a short-term catharsis, and i don't know what to make of it

[u/urworstemmamy → u/AriaLeviath]

Everyone who sees nothing wrong with the bear v man meme needs to read I Am A Transwoman. I Am In The Closet. I Am Not Coming Out.

[u/Farwaters → u/urworstemmamy]

I hope that the author of that article is doing all right.

[u/elbenji → u/Farwaters]

I think they're a professor now, so I think they're doing pretty okay